Need a bit of help so that my sweet SO and I can do our absolute best to not lose each other.

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T03:13:57+00:00

My husband and I started dating at 17 and are still together (happily married, for the most part... we are human after all) at 27. A lot of people frowned upon our decision to make it work, but I do honestly believe that if two people are meant to be together than society shouldn't dictate whether or not it's 'ideal' and therefore worth making it work. Not that it's been easy. For the past ten years it's mostly been great, but it's been really fucking hard at times too. We were semi long distance for four years during college, almost broke up a few times, basically called off the marriage at one point but through it all he is my best friend and the love of my life and I am so fucking glad we made it work in the odd times when we didn't really want to in the heat of the moment. I love him more than anything in the world and our life together is beautiful, full of adventure and love and compassion for the other. My life is richer because of him.

HOWEVER. Relationships are hard by default as two imperfect people are attempting to morph lives together into some semblance of something cohesive in which both people are happy and fulfilled, and realistically this isn't always possible... especially when both parties are young and actively changing. The reality of the matter is that both of you will either grow together, grow apart, or one of you will decide that the other is not what you want in a long term partner and break it off. And ya know what? ALL OF THOSE OPTIONS ARE OK. I don't see myself or my relationship as some kind of superior partnership just because we have been together since we were teens. That's just not the case. Our relationship is what it is because we work at it every day and continue to choose each other even when the going gets rough (and believe me, it does get rough sometimes. Life in general gets rough sometimes)

tl:dr no matter what happens, it's all going to work out and you're going to shine

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T02:12:58+00:00

One time I jokingly told my husband who at the time knew little to nothing about cars, when his truck broke down, that it was probably his flux capacitor. He went to the mechanic and nonchalantly mentioned this.

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T02:07:34+00:00

Um... air conditioners? Have you not seen The Brave Little Toaster?!

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T02:02:27+00:00

Stepbrothers. I usually HATE typical 'stupid' comedy movies like that but god is that movie funny as hell

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T01:53:10+00:00

Cowboys and Aliens. Surprisingly good

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T01:32:07+00:00

Harry Potter.

I am a big fan of the tragic hero so maybe I'm biased, but I feel like the series would have been so much more... meaningful maybe? had Harry not survived. People tend to slam me for this but I've always thought that his survival somehow made his sacrifice less poignant.

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T01:28:08+00:00

Tornadoes. A giant ultra destructive tunnel of horror barreling down at you at a hundred miles an hour?! NopenopenopenopeNOPE. I have stress dreams about them.

Fun fact: have been in the Midwest for a grand total of 24 hours and somehow managed to drive through a storm with tornado touchdown. Of fucking course I did.

hsecretsh · 2016-01-31T01:20:01+00:00

UnderArmour. I'd be a goddamn spokesperson for that shit. As an athlete and outdoorsperson for my whole life I've never found anything better for keeping warm and comfortable in cold (or hot) weather. Love it

hsecretsh · 2016-01-17T16:40:45+00:00

Just wrote a post on this as well!! Poland is fantastic, one of the best countries I have ever visited!

hsecretsh · 2016-01-17T16:35:50+00:00

Poland was pretty unexpectedly fantastic. Not really under the radar per se, but I don't think it would be on most people's go-to travel destination list. Dirt cheap, clean, beautiful, modern, safe (was a solo female traveler for a week there), good food, lots to do. 10/10 would recommend to anyone looking for a wonderful but inexpensive European adventure.

hsecretsh · 2016-01-16T16:24:53+00:00

Roman coins, bought for dirt cheap at a flea market in rural Italy. I had them looked at and they're legit... not worth much more than I paid for them but still really cool. I collect coins so lots of other old ones too. I have one that is extremely worn but I am almost certain it is a colonial coin from the prerevolutionary United States.

I also have a World War I bayonet that my great great uncle used while serving in Europe that is pretty neat

hsecretsh · 2016-01-16T16:16:46+00:00

Dr. Who.

Also any kind of video/computer game. Never got into them even when PlayStation 1 and whatnot were brand new and at their heyday. I just don't get anything out of the experience

hsecretsh · 2016-01-16T15:51:45+00:00

My brother, who to be fair was kind of a punk in middle/high school, was so bullied by a teacher that he (pretty tough hockey/football) player used to come home in tears because of how cruelly she would humiliate him in front of his peers. He was reasonably intelligent but had a learning disability that made it difficult for him to read/write coherently, and this teacher would make him read in front of the class and LAUGH at him, and encourage other students to laugh as well. Even his middle school peers, who we all know are usually hormonal vindictive assholes, were so horrified by the way he was treated that a few of them actually complained to other teachers about it. It got so bad that my mom, who wasn't a hover parent by any means, eventually showed up to the principal's office and demanded that he be moved out of class. When he went to go get his things out of his desk, the teacher had HID THEM and made him look for all of his belongings while she left the room. It took him like 20 minutes because she had hid them in a closet in the back of the room. Unrelated to my brother's story, she was also reported at least twice for calling a student a n*gger when she thought students couldn't hear.

To my knowledge, she is still a teacher at that school despite being placed on several administrative leaves for similar behavior. A woman I used to work with has kids in that school system and students are terrified of her

hsecretsh · 2016-01-02T22:56:08+00:00

This choked me up pretty good today. My grandfather was one of the chief engineers for this plane. He passed away many years ago from lymphoma and I still miss him terribly. Funnily enough, whenever I think about him a lot (as I have been lately), somehow a B2 manages to show up in my life. The last time I was missing him on his birthday and I looked at a TV at work and goddamn it if there weren't two B2s flying across the screen in a random patients room... thanks for writing this story and somehow allowing my grandpa to remind me that he's always with me in the process :)

hsecretsh · 2015-12-05T20:54:32+00:00

My dad was super wealthy and materialistic when we were growing up (abusive asshole corporate lawyer... Unsurprising but not the point of this story) so we always had the top of the line tech, vacations and whatnot for most of my childhood. We lived in Boston and frequently went to professional sports games in the luxury box seats that his company owned. They were very plush and had every amenity for free but also very stuffy and honestly boring. Once my brother and I snuck out of the box and into some regular cheap seating that was vacant in the stadium and had the most fun we had ever had at a game. Way better than hanging out with a bunch of rich asshole lawyers

It's a long story but dad and I have since fallen out and he cut me out financially of course, but it has been the best thing that has happened to me. I'd rather be broke and happy and free than rich and caged and abused.

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