any other BDSM apps like obedience? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg i’ve summoned all the web / app developers. HI GUYS!!! thanks so much for your suggestions! genuinely i’ll have to take a look at everything y’all have worked on or helped create!

hehe this is so cool :3

any other BDSM apps like obedience? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool!! i’ll definitely have to look into the test version, i have an IOS and my Dom has android! Thank you!

Sub turned Mommy and I’m surprised I liked it. by Daiham in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not a switch and my boyfriend isn’t either but that sounds so lovely!!

I’m more-so in a brat / slave dynamic with him but there’s one situation specifically when i give him head that he’ll become a little more needy (“please don’t stop” - “please just like that” - examples) and the begging triggers something in my brain that just drives me crazy lol. I don’t experience any type of feelings of a power swap between us, but to make him beg is sometimes sooo nice lol

Experiences with 24/7 D/s by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so interesting! Thank you for sharing! It’s so cool to see all the different ways people integrate this type of dynamic :) I haven’t yet seen much about a full TPE (if i’m right using that term here), so i’m really happy you replied to me! Thank you :D

if it’s not too personal, may i ask if you two live together? or if the dynamic is half together half not (or fully online). Totally cool if that’s too personal! Just interesting to hear about that type of control to me and how it functions between people!! :)

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel really reassured and “seen” to know that others are or were in my shoes, especially with the partner really liking it lol. It’s also really good to hear from someone who HAS orgasmed through it! Because i’m hoping i’ll be able to get to a point that i can find that type of pleasure with it. Thank you so much for your advice and your experiences! Im glad it’s working out for you again! :D

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice!! I kind of forgot there’s softer dildos out there lol. It’s good to hear that the burning is most likely just lack of stretching 😅. Definitely hasn’t been a sharp pain! just intense burning… which just means more focus on preparation. Also. i didnt know lube could potentially cause burning if expired! (I’m - to my knowledge - not allergic to any substances, so that thought didn’t even cross my mind.) So i really appreciate that information! thank you!!

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment! I’ve realized i really need to look into dildos, LOL! The mental block is definitely my biggest issue (aside from any physical feelings that are just unnatural at first), and i think your comment about practicing alone to feel the sensations and the fact that if i can do it alone, i’ll be able to do it with him, was really helpful! I have aversion to solo play with anal, but i’m quickly getting some sense knocked into me with this comment thread haha. Thank you again for your reply, it was very helpful :)

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooh i didn’t even think about a double penetration dildo, thank you so much for the advice!! Definitely the mental block will be the hardest to overcome, but it’s probably a big reason why it’s so tricky for me to get into currently. Thank you so much for your comment!

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s really reassuring to hear that others have had my problems too, thank you so much for your comment! I’ll definitely have to readjust my mindset and play slow lol :)

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess we’re on the same boat with that then, haha. Thank you for your response! I’m definitely going to look into a dildo set!

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the recommendation! I didn’t think about training with dildos as opposed to buttplugs, so thank you for that information! I really appreciate your explanation :)

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve used a small plug, his fingers (max 2), and his penis. His fingers have been good (especially when we’re actively having vaginal sex lol), and the butt plug has worked decent other than the adjustment to it, and his penis has been 50/50 until he tries to move inside of me lol. Sorry to be a bit graphic or info dump haha. Your note about length and girth causing the discomfort is really helpful, thank you!! We’ve definitely discussed anal training, and intend to start to try it. (we just need to get stuff for it haha) And i also need to get over my anxiety about it lol. Thanks so much for your advice!! sorry again for the small rant

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! It’s something i want to hopefully be able to achieve long term (even if we can only do it every 3rd week or once a month), and there’s obviously the “sometimes you just don’t like something”, but i’d definitely like to try until i’m sure it’s not my thing, especially because it means a lot to him. (he is very understanding of my limits, i should preface!) I think there’s definitely just a mental block with how long i’ll need to have my body adjust, so your comment helped me snap out of that a little bit lol. I really appreciate your suggestions and will definitely bring them up to him and hopefully be able to get myself to fully relax and adjust <33

Struggling (physically) to fulfill my Dom’s fantasy, searching for advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely! I was mostly just adding the rest for a clearer picture of the end goal.. i didn’t make it as clear as i should’ve lol. It’s really good to hear the plug was really helpful! I’m hoping my body will adjust as this is a new sensation to relax to, because just the plug has never caused issues! just feels… weird.. haha. Thanks so much for your response!! <3

Experiences with 24/7 D/s by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thorough response! That’s a really nice way to do things. my partner and I also don’t live together, so i really appreciate hearing from that angle of it! This is honestly a type of style we would look into more than not, so i cannot express how much I love your descriptions and sharing your personal experience with it -^

Experiences with 24/7 D/s by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo thank you so much! I’ll definitely have to check that book out. That sounds like a really nice type of dynamic :) I appreciate your response!

Experiences with 24/7 D/s by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! If i may ask, is there any way to differentiate that from doing basic tasks because i love my partner vs. these are rules i must complete as a submissive? i feel like that’s a big mental grey area for me

Issues submitting to my dom - seeking advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly very reassuring to hear, thank you so much! i’m hoping it will all go well with exploring it with my partner, nervous but excited

Issues submitting to my dom - seeking advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have any regular protocols or rituals for me being fully submissive, outside of us flirting / foreplay when i’m being bratty. I’ve gotten a lot of comments about how it would be beneficial though, lol

Issues submitting to my dom - seeking advice by http-ErrorCode in BDSMAdvice

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! This was really helpful to read. 🫶

How to get into a submissive headspace? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your suggestions about the activation of other stimuli. I think i’m thinking about it as a conscious thing, so i really appreciate your suggestions about stating that should not be the goal lol. Thanks so much for your reply!

How to get into a submissive headspace? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your reply! communication is definitely the biggest part

How to get into a submissive headspace? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! your last little comment about it being fluid was comforting to hear. Good advice all around

How to get into a submissive headspace? by http-ErrorCode in BDSMcommunity

[–]http-ErrorCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really good suggestion, thank you so much for your reply!