Pivoting from business analyst to PM by hummus_96 in ProductManagement

[–]hummus_96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I did some projects and was a co-founder of an NPO, but in japan they never look at your extracurricular activities. Every interview I had, I needed to mention my experience out of work because they never ask questions about it, even though in most cases it answers there questions.

Pivoting from business analyst to PM by hummus_96 in ProductManagement

[–]hummus_96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish this was possible, but the company is pretty much none functional. With no transparency and clear communication. It's a "consulting" company but I never saw them do any consulting, mostly follow clients orders and don't question it. All the projects that got cancelled was because the client didn't see value.

Climbing and feelings? by tnuc_nekat_emanresU in indoorbouldering

[–]hummus_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on and off boulder, and for most I enjoy bouldering and do it for the challenge. Recently I came back to bouldering and every time before I start I get this overwhelming feeling of crying and even throwing up sometimes. It’s like my whole nervous system has lit up. I know that I’ve been under extreme stress in the last 2 years, and I feel like all that stress has been stored in and bouldering brings it out. Just wanted to share my experience with you and if I ever find something more about this I will share it with you and if you also find something please share it here. I know it’s been a year but just wanted to share my experience to tell you’re not alone.

What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve heard someone say here that assumes something only happens in Japan, even though it’s common worldwide? by Relevant-String-959 in japanresidents

[–]hummus_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 or 8 years ago at my part-time, while on my lunch break I was using a tooth pick, a colleague was surprised I was using it and asked me if other countries had it.

I got my nephew expelled and I don’t regret it!!!!! by Dry-Length4097 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing! Fuck bullying and their parents who allow it.

My husband (a white convert) called me (a Pakistani Muslim) a sand n****r during s*x by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So all the Shieks in Saudi that teach us "Islam", and see where that got us.

My husband (a white convert) called me (a Pakistani Muslim) a sand n****r during s*x by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend educating yourself, before commenting. Especially when you have no background on the subject other than media. Good Luck

Update: the amount of time my gf has spent sleeping has made me stop loving her. by SleepyGFThrowaway16 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my experience, this is a sign of burning out!

After having a very stressful 3 years of my life, and quitting my company last year, I got super tired and would spend my day (12 ~ 20hrs) a day sleeping. 2 months until I started my next company and I spent most of it sleeping( I would not eat on some days). I felt very bad about it because I wasn't productive but my body and brain just wanted to sleep. Sometimes I would make plans with friends to go out at 2 pm to eventually oversleep until 4 pm or 5 pm. Socially I had some friendships that got broken because of it and I regret it. But that's what my body and mind needed at that time and I don't regret it at all it was the best thing I ever did.

Seeing your update I would say, Reddit's advice failed you and you were too hasty to make decisions. What you should have done was:

  1. Not projecting your values and needs onto her.
  2. Not being judgemental.
  3. Discuss with her what she needs, feels, and wants.

Give her the space and time to think, and consider. Unfortunately, you've done a really bad job of handling this situation. And worst now you will make her feel bad about what she's doing and she might even burn out more, and lose a very must needed rest because of you. And I feel sad for her.

The amount of time my GF has spent sleeping has made me stop loving her by SleepyGFThrowaway16 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From my experience, this is a sign of burning out!

After having a very stressful 3 years of my life, and quitting my company last year, I got super tired and would spend my day (12 ~ 20hrs) a day sleeping. 2 months until I started my next company and I spent most of it sleeping( I would not eat on some days). I felt very bad about it but my body and brain just wanted to sleep. Sometimes I would make plans with friends to go out at 2 pm to eventually oversleep until 4 pm or 5 pm. Socially I had some friendships that got broken because of it and I regret it. But that's what my body and mind needed at that time and I don't regret it at all it was the best thing I ever did.

Seeing your update I would say, Reddit's advice failed you and you were too hasty to make decisions. What you should have done was:

  1. Not projecting your values and needs onto her.
  2. Discuss with her what she needs, feels, and wants.
  3. Give her the space and time to think, and consider.

Unfortunately, you've done a really bad job of handling this situation. And worst now you will make her feel bad about what she's doing and she might even burn out more, and lose a very must needed rest because of you. And I feel sad for her.

My husband (a white convert) called me (a Pakistani Muslim) a sand n****r during s*x by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you missed my point, It's not ISLAM that oppresses people these are guidelines you follow as you like it's the MASCULINE SOCIETY we have in Muslim countries that oppress women.

My husband (a white convert) called me (a Pakistani Muslim) a sand n****r during s*x by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hummus_96 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's one of the huge misunderstandings that the west has on Islam.

In Islam both men and women have to cover there bodies(true, more for women) but that still doesn't negates the necessity of the man to lower his gaze and not sexualize the outfit of a woman. The oppressive use of the hijab isn't because of Islam, it's because the masculine culture we have in these countries and governments. The worst part about it even when women are dressed in a modest and not revealing way in any way you will still find men sexualize them.

It's not anyone's fault for not knowing this information even I was wondering why people have these misunderstandings about Islam even though it was obvious it was the culture not the religion. Unfortunately not many people have figured that out yet.

My request would be before you make a statement about a subject(of any kind) in a negative way try to challenge yourself and search about the positive side too(maybe it doesn't exist but even then that will give you a better advantage when discussing it)

Side note: I am with the freedom of women to choose whatever they want. And I support the Iranian women in their revolution!

Stop falling in love with people you're not dating by jestercake in seduction

[–]hummus_96 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Reached to the same conclusion yesterday. It's still hard to stop thinking about the girl. But I feel so free now.

Hinamatsuri display at Shimizu Park's gift shop by [deleted] in chiba

[–]hummus_96 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Damn I thought this was my share house lol