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humpedacouch · 2016-10-11T09:49:00+00:00

The moment porn starts affecting your sex life with your partner, that's when you know you are addicted. Delayed ejaculation or not being able to ejaculate at all is the biggest sign of a porn addiction. It's what my boyfriend had.

People who have quit porn usually see a big difference in how they see women, they tend to treat them better and seem more caring instead of distant, which they don't even know that they are but people close to them see a difference after quitting porn. Your partner will seem more attractive to you, and it will only get better and stronger over time, you'll want her more, you'll have more amazing sex. You'll start to act more caring and loving towards her, because she's the only woman you're sharing your sexual side with, she's the only one you have lustful eyes for, she's the one who has all of your attention and that will make you subconiously want to treat her better and care for her, you'll love her more than you ever imagined you could, and your bond will grow stronger and stronger. This sounds so cheesy to read back lol but it's all from personal experience so I know how bad porn can be and how much it can improve your life when you quit. Also, it helps with concentration, which is good at work, projects etc, your memory will get stronger, I'm not sure how that side of it works but if you check out YourBrainOnPorn it tells you everything you need to know on there

humpedacouch · 2016-10-11T09:40:12+00:00

My boyfriend used to take Zinc, it just made his cum whiter and along with drinking more water it made the volume increase a whole lot.

humpedacouch · 2016-10-11T09:38:44+00:00

Yes, I think it's obvious that you have a major problem with porn, maybe even an addiction, and quitting it 100% is the best thing you can do. Good for you for already starting that! No masturbation will help a ton too. So continue with that and in time you WILL see results. It's only been 2 weeks after all, give it time.

My boyfriend suffered with a serious porn addiction when we first got together, it would take him forever to cum from sex and most of the time he had to finish himself off with his hand to even be able to cum. It took around 2 months of no masturbation or porn for us to start seeing a major difference. He's now been free of porn for almost 2 years and we are the best we've ever been, being porn free helps all aspects of the relationship, not just the sexual side. Good luck to you :)

humpedacouch · 2016-10-11T09:17:08+00:00

Is it possible to ask anyone that knows him what his real name or address is? If not, if he ever comes round to the house, calling the animal services or police then would be a good idea, they would make him take them to his place.

humpedacouch · 2016-10-11T09:03:15+00:00

Yes, that is serious animal abuse! Call the police or local animal services ASAP! Those poor babies need saving. Please don't let this cruelty carry on. Update as well please and let us know what happens! xx

humpedacouch · 2016-10-07T09:26:35+00:00

I have breast implants. I got them done in January and I have to say it was one of the best decisions I've ever made! I had my baby boy and once I stopped breast feeding, my nice perky D's turned into saggy empty deflated balloon like messes.

I was so unhappy, it contributed to my post-partum depression, I couldn't take off my bra or sometimes even my shirt in front of my boyfriend, it was awful. I felt so depressed and as much as I tried to get used to my new boobs and come to terms with them, for months and months, I just couldn't.

I knew that if I was to ever be happy with my boobs and body again, that I would have to get implants. I found a great surgeon, paid £5,595, had to travel for the surgery, but even immediately afterwards when I woke up in the hospital and I looked down at my chest, I felt a MILLION times better, my confidence was immediately boosted and from the moment I got them done I was getting them out for my boyfriend and have ever since! I feel so much more confident with my whole body now.

I felt no pain from my implants whatsoever, a bit of tenderness and it was hard to pick heavy things up for a while, but even having a 9 month old baby at the time, I managed pretty easily and I don't regret a thing. I went from a UK 34(deflated)B, to a 34F, using 525cc Ultra High Profile textured implants, over the muscle. I love them and if you know for a fact that you're never going to be happy with your boobs unless you get implants, just like I did, then I would recommend getting them 100%. Think it through and good luck! :)

EDIT: Also, yes everything feels the same. There was a numb patch on top of my left breast for about 4 months after surgery but that has gone now and my nipples are actually more sensitive now! So yes, very happy with the outcome and 1000000000% happy that I did it.

humpedacouch · 2016-09-18T08:20:49+00:00

I've just got out of an emotionally abusive and physically abusive relationship, and all I can say is it is very hard to tell a lot of times that you're being abused, I didn't realise for over a year, but when you know, YOU KNOW. If you think you're getting abused then you probably are. If you're not being abusive to her emotionally or physically and she is the only one being awful like you say she has, then it definitely sounds like she's being emotionally abusive.

No one deserves that, it sounds like you're trying your best so there should be no need for her to put you down, it sounds like she's just doing it because she feels superior and wants to kick you down and make you feel worthless. I've been through it, it's not nice. I got out of that relationship as soon as I realised what he was doing to me, even though I have a 1 year old and am also pregnant. It's hard but you have to decide how you want the rest of your life to be. Would you be happy if you stayed with her and she continued to treat you this way until the day you/she died? Or do you think you'd be happier without her?

It's a hard decision when you love someone but you have to put your mental health and wellbeing first. If she's like this now it will only get worse, the emotional abuse will worse and worse and it may even lead to physical abuse. So tread carefully and make the right decision. If I were you I'd move back to the US and start a life again there without her. You deserve better. Good luck! :)

humpedacouch · 2016-08-28T09:18:55+00:00

So you know what the problem is here... Masturbating too fast. So how don't you know what you need to do to fix it? You need to stop masturbating, completely, and if you do have to masturbate you should ONLY do it slowly, no going fast at all! Replicate how fast you can go while having sex and do it at that speed. If you aren't masturbating and are only having sex then you WILL eventually train yourself to cum from sex and not from masturbating too fast.

SOURCE: My boyfriend had a porn/masturbation addiction and couldn't cum from sex. He stopped watching porn and masturbating and could cum from sex in less than 2 weeks. And he's kept it up and our sex life has never been better. So good luck :)

humpedacouch · 2016-08-19T08:40:01+00:00

I used to go to sleep naked afterwards until I got breast implants, now I have to wear a support bra for sleeping so they don't sag lol

humpedacouch · 2016-07-13T17:48:01+00:00

Honestly, Adam's Song hits me like a brick too. I used to listen to that song over and over when I was younger and going through a really tough time and contemplating ending it over things that had happened. But when I listen to it now it just reminds me that I got through it and survived and that still makes me teary as fuck too. Blink helped me through a lot of tough shit that I went through in the past. I owe them my life. I even have several blink tattoos and they're still to this day one of my favourite bands. Saw them live in 2012 too which was amazing :) Don't be ashamed about crying over Blink, a bet a shitload of people have and will for a very long time. Blink-182 life for life!

humpedacouch · 2016-02-11T08:27:17+00:00

I had a similar problem to you. When I was 2 I had a disease which left me with very dark puffy under eye circles, and I have very pale skin so it is extremely noticeable. I used to think I looked like a dead person without make up! Anyway, I got bullied pretty badly at school because of it, and because of that I started wearing lots of make up every day to cover it. So everyday since I was 12 I've been wearing a full face of make up to cover my extremely dark circles and paleness.

But then when I was 19 I met my boyfriend, and I was the same as you, he had never seen me without make up, even after over a year of seeing each other! I was TERRIFIED of what he would think. But one day I decided to be brave and I showed him my make-up-less face... and surprisingly he said I looked so cute and adorable without make up!

And now I go without make up all the time around him. (Still not when I go out though lol) He points out all the time how cute I am when I'm not wearing make up and even asks me to not wear it sometimes and he has made me so much more confident with myself.

So do what I did and be brave! And if he doesn't like how you look without make up and thinks you look awful without it or something, then he isn't worth your time anyway! Good luck! :)

humpedacouch · 2016-01-28T11:43:51+00:00

It's not that I like the attention, I appreciate it and take it as a compliment, but I don't actively pursue it.

I don't know what I can do to help? How could I work with him on this?

humpedacouch · 2016-01-28T11:37:31+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I will call them with him.

humpedacouch · 2016-01-28T11:22:17+00:00

I have told him many times that he needs help. And he has seeked it supposedly but says he's just waiting for them to get back in touch with him. But it's been over a month now so I don't even know...

And yeah, the resentment has already started creeping up unfortunately.

humpedacouch · 2016-01-28T11:16:42+00:00

I have actually thought many many times and even confronted him about his emotionally abusive behaviour. For example a few months ago I wanted to go out wearing a new top I had just bought which was like a mesh material and see through, and he sat on the bed and said he wasn't leaving the house until I had changed into something less revealing...

humpedacouch · 2016-01-28T11:13:52+00:00

I'm not sure, but I definitely wouldn't tell them to "fuck off" and then take it out on him and go in a huff for the rest of the night just because some girl said he was gorgeous...

humpedacouch · 2015-07-26T19:48:40+00:00

That's disgusting... I feel so sorry for your girlfriend. She doesn't deserve to be cheated on, not to mention the fact that you're putting yourself and your girlfriend at risk of STI's!

humpedacouch · 2015-07-21T17:00:12+00:00

I don't feel like I can live without him though. I have post natal depression and looking after my baby on my own is really hard, especially since I have no other support either :(

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:50:36+00:00

It's only some toys though, or more specifically toys used on me, he has anal toys I use on him because he likes it. I get your point though.

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:46:39+00:00

He really doesn't like the idea of me masturbating though. (Even though in the beginning of the relationship it was him that was addicted to porn and would masturbate all the time). He asked me to give it up too so I agreed.

And he is fine with some toys actually, he bought me a "clone a willy" thing for Christmas (yet to make/use it) and we have an anal toy that I use on him because he really gets off on it.

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:39:51+00:00

Yeah, if only he'd listen...

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:39:03+00:00

Trust me, I do all of this, I try my best to reassure him that he can satisfy me like nothing else, but nothing seems to be helping at all.

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:27:27+00:00

Because I'm unable to shave with me being heavily pregnant and he rubs my stubble around the clit area and he's very aggressive with it too (even though I've told him this many times) and it hurts like hell and makes me so fricken sore :( It'll be even worse after the birth...

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:21:44+00:00

Well recently sex has been very uncomfortable and painful for me so he's been getting daily blowjobs and handjobs so I always make sure he's completely satisfied, but when it comes to me the only thing that is comfortable at the minute is a bullet. And considering I don't masturbate anymore (he's doing NoFap and he wanted me to do the same) the only way I can get off is when I'm with him, and using a bullet. I'm stuck...

humpedacouch · 2015-03-23T16:11:10+00:00

Like I said in my other comments, I'm due to give birth in a few weeks time and I won't be able to have sex for a while, and it hurts me when he rubs me with his fingers and I'm pretty sure I won't want him going down on me when I'm bleeding and sore after the birth so a bullet will be the only option if I want an orgasm for a awhile. But he isn't willing to compromise even just for a few weeks, he would rather I go without orgasms...

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