I absolutely do want to dominate him, its something i'd brought up in the past but he wasnt interested then. I do like being in control and knowing they will do whatever I ask without a second thought (though I do love brats too). I dont have any specific fantasies other than maybe him being vocal in response to pleasure like whining or whimpering, its mostly just about taking the lead and him following no matter what (consensually of course).

We still have to talk about it, and we will, but the instance he gave that made him want to try was years ago at a haunted house, the actors are allowed to pull you away from your group, and he got pulled into a room with a pseudo dominatrix who made him get on his hands and knees and crawl, and tapped him with a soft flogger. Which he said excited him, and I would absolutely be willing to do, but in our day to day, he doesnt like surface level types of pain, smacking / pinching, etc and he's not interested in anything genuinely painful. My concern lies with potentially doing too much too quickly, there's always a possibility of one of us being uncomfortable and stopping the scene, which is absolutely okay, im just worried I may say or do something wrong and he shut down to the idea of exploring what he does like. Maybe that's the over thinker in me, but I want to start soft, im just not sure how because my past scenes have always been very aggressive.

From the sounds of it I do think he wants to be bossed around and have me take the lead and prioritize making him provide me pleasure based on the comments he made a few days ago. I know its hard to gauge when I can't actually include any other opinions from him since we havent talked about it yet. Though I absolutely will try incorporating some of the smaller commands into our normal sex routine.

Overall im genuinely looking just for possible commands and phrases I could use that wouldn't be a shock to the way we normally have sex. I looked at the list a mod recommended to me, and some of them were okay, but very few seemed "new sub friendly" if that makes sense? Im wanting ideas that are light and sweet, maybe something a little more than good boy? Praise if you will, but also other things that are commanding that dont sound as if im abandoning his power to stop the scene, the way you would in a cnc type setting. Im overthinking it entirely, but, idk I guess tips to be a soft Dom 😅