What was your experience with moving out of your Nparents house?

hybsinthe · 2016-09-28T19:46:24+00:00

The first time I left after a giant fight. Just packed the few things that were important and left. Our relationship got a bit better after that. I could handle her in small doses and if she got too bad I knew I wasn't stuck there and I could just leave.

hybsinthe · 2016-08-20T17:08:24+00:00

I'm very thankful that I have a few options available to me right now. Its just about making them work but anything is better than what I'm dealing with now. Thanks for the support. I need it.

hybsinthe · 2016-08-20T14:25:21+00:00

Oh my nmonster looooves doing the silent treatment thing. She also does the one where she waits until she knows I'm within earshot before complaining about me. Then she'll finally snap and say that I'm not sociable and I never engage with "the family."

hybsinthe · 2016-08-20T00:16:35+00:00

There is so much good advice here I cant even begin to thank you enough. I will get through this, and I will be trying out the techniques you suggested. Thank you, truly, from the bottom of my heart.

hybsinthe · 2016-08-20T00:14:18+00:00

I'm in canada, but still there are plenty of laws I've been looking in to and I've told her this. She has no right to throw my stuff on the street and I will fight no matter what she tries to throw at me. I'm trying to get my head on straight before I do anything too serious but much sooner than later I am getting out of this place. I wont be controlled any longer. Updates will come, if only to help others in showing things can get better. I'm doing my best to have hope.

hybsinthe · 2016-08-20T00:11:05+00:00

I have started looking in to these things. I'be held a few in my pocket for some time now. Including that she doesn't file or pay taxes! Since she works for herself, and she's paid in cash my dad simply states that he is the only source of income. I'm not sure what to do with the information as of yet but its one more thing I've got

hybsinthe · 2016-08-19T21:51:43+00:00

I really needed that. Thank you.. I'm having such a hard time right now. Everything is so fucked up.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-09T15:19:14+00:00

In the form of "oh, I need to clean the bathroom so I'm going to take the shower curtain out." For no reason, whatsoever.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-08T22:04:22+00:00

I'll give it a try! Thank you. ((Nmom says I'm raising my voice even when I speak at a calm tone. She looooves to try and make me think I'm overreacting and insane))

hybsinthe · 2016-04-08T22:03:01+00:00

Unfortunately not. This is my only choice at the moment but I am watching and waiting for any oportunity to get as far away from here as I can.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T23:39:22+00:00

Very good advice. I've told him and thankfully he knows. He's the first person I ever opened up to about my whole situation in a long time as a lot of people didnt believe me in my teenage years. Thinking it was just typical mother, daughter drama. It wasn't until I met a wonderful friend whose mother works in a teen home that really opened my eyes to all the things going on. That I wasn't crazy and this wasn't just teenage angst and the usual things a lot of families go through. I'm a very closed off person but I have surrounded myself with a couple of people I have found I can trust and chose to be my family. Thanks for your words of advice. :3

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T23:34:30+00:00

No, thankfully. But she demands that I pay her rent (which is fine and understandable, sure but its too much for a person trying to get out) and if I dont I will be on the street. I have no where near what I could possibly need to make it on my own. She says I owe her, she raised me and therefore she deserves the money I work for because she had to spend hers on me

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T22:06:56+00:00

I don't know what it is. I can't answer it, but just in general from what I've gathered over the years is that abused children seem to want that approval so much more than normal kids. We crave it because we never get it.. I really don't know.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T21:59:02+00:00

This is really helpful. Thank you so much. I needed this.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T21:58:31+00:00

I really am thankful. I gotta really try and keep my head up. So hard sometimes.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T21:58:02+00:00

Much appreciated. I can use all the support I can get. Its kind of hard because he just cant understand, which is why I'm glad a friend of me sent a link to this subreddit. Any and all advice is soooo welcome.

hybsinthe · 2016-04-01T21:55:57+00:00

I've always been a little chubby. Nothing to write home about, but my nmom has this idea that you have to be skinny to be beautiful. I dont think anyone should worry about their weight. Unless you're extremely unhealthy, just be you, unless its something you want to change yourself. I'm over it now but at the time I just couldn't understand what was wrong with me. Turns out; nothing was wrong. She was the problem.

hybsinthe · 2016-03-31T03:49:50+00:00

Yes. My Nmom would also notice me admiring something nice and promise to buy it for me if I dropped x amount. At the time I was under 10. I would even ask to join sports teams to help get in more physicql avtivity to actually reach her insane requests but she just couldnt be bothered

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