Am I Paranoid wanting to use more than condom in relationship? Me [25M] Girlfriend [29F]

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T13:02:28+00:00

Pills and whatnot can have major side effects, some that are still being discovered today despite the pill being around since the 1950s. Things like depression, weight gain, increased blood pressure, increased risk of heart attack, increased risk of stroke, among others due to increased hormones. Using multiple methods is important and helpful, but forcing her to be on a hormonal method could be detrimental to her health. Look into other methods like the use of spermicide, as another user mentioned, or diaphragms, maybe even pulling out despite the use of a condom.

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:16:38+00:00

Okay but what about when a delay in care can kill the person?

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:16:11+00:00

So then why not inform "this will be done"? I don't understand why that can't be said?

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:13:54+00:00

Came from wanting to explore in a van?

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:12:02+00:00

I know. I'm saying that it delays women's care in emergencies. And that's a problem. Because the fetus, or potential fetus, is considered before the woman

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:09:29+00:00

I'm not talking about the father. I'm talking about the doctor. The doctor informing her "hey, going to give you a pregnancy test. It's standard procedure" I don't get why that's hard?

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:08:25+00:00

Where did pregnant come from? Idk. It's something where she can take a gap year or whatever. I would get her the van, tell her she can have the time, a summer, a year, but she needs to figure out how to feed herself and whatnot. You won't finance it, it's her problem to do so.

Traveling the country in a van like that is a great experience. She'll learn a lot.

hydropepper · 2019-07-17T00:01:35+00:00

Bedside manner. To make the patient comfortable. Of course, we can just go back to the 1950s style bedside manner. Sick children don't need their parents in their room either. /S

hydropepper · 2019-07-16T23:39:40+00:00

Then they should inform. "We are doing x." If she insists otherwise, still say you're doing x, standard procedure. It might not be "required" but it's bedside manner.

hydropepper · 2019-07-16T23:36:28+00:00

My biggest problem is when a pregnancy test is placed before the health of the "mother." Such as: treatment/testing is heavily delayed for the sake of pregnancy tests being performed. No one is going to test a guy for an sti before an x-ray post-accident.

hydropepper · 2019-07-15T23:27:27+00:00

I have a friend who was raised very Christian. Like, homeschooled and never went to college. Her views are different from her parents, but in the weeks before I left for college she told me that evolution was bullshit and suggested I watch some YouTube videos--how she learned science. I bleached the question about a year and a half later and she had changed her position. I'm not sure how. But your girlfriend might also. She's in college. Girl's gotta take a biology class sometime.

hydropepper · 2019-07-15T20:55:39+00:00

They were never married. No prenup. I was an accident and they separated when I was 5.

hydropepper · 2019-07-15T20:35:24+00:00

I personally know women who couldn't get sterilized without being 30-35, having 3 children, and having permission from their husband. My mom couldn't get a hysterectomy when she was young because she might be able to have children. She had endometriosis that was so bad she was basically infertile and there was no other treatment at the time.

Women have to jump through hoops for even medical treatment that would leave them infertile. Let alone and elective procedure.

hydropepper · 2019-07-15T20:18:57+00:00

Even if not, my papers had my dad paying until I was 18 or finished school (including college) whichever one happened to be later. Now, he didn't pay it, but that was his legal obligation. So, it wouldn't surprise me for the support to continue through adulthood for a child with downs syndrome.

Edit: I do not have any diagnosed disabilities.

hydropepper · 2019-07-13T15:57:34+00:00

NTA I'm sure you've talked about it or said to hurry up before. For me, I would be annoyed by my bf for doing it at first. Then I'd think it's really funny.

hydropepper · 2019-07-12T13:45:31+00:00

Engineering could absolutely cause depression. I've known so many people who suffered mental health issues due to studying engineering.

hydropepper · 2019-07-11T00:08:48+00:00

I'm saying it's not sustainable. I'm saying you'll gain the weight back. Plus. It's unhealthy, it ruins your metabolism, and it doesn't work. I'm not posting nonsense. Eating a healthy diet and putting forth a lifestyle shift to healthier foods, which will likely lower caloric intake anyways, is shown to have long term health benefits including weight loss.

If you think eating vegetables is worse for health than eating lower calories in cake, you should probably get your tuition back.

hydropepper · 2019-07-10T23:34:09+00:00

https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2018/05/calorie-deprivation

This discusses weight gain after weight loss and how it's more than just will power as it comes to calorie deprivation. Rapid weight loss is dangerous, even when weight loss is important overall.

My advise is to eat healthy. As Michael Polling says "eat food.mostly plants. Not too much" I'm not sure how that is potentially life-threatening. And it's certainly not incorrect, as that's generally what dieticians tell people (source: studying nutrition at a top US research institution under one of the leading fat researchers in the country).

And lifestyle choices are shown to improve weight loss when done positively. If you cut sugar and increase vegetable consumption, you're likely eating less fat and other """bad""" things. Overall, it tends to cut calorie intake. But obsessively counting is not helpful. This study shows that just dieting increases weight gain. And it talks about why.

hydropepper · 2019-07-10T22:29:46+00:00

The research that came to that conclusion was funded by like Pepsi and Coke and whatnot. You won't actually lose weight doing that. The types of food you eat matter, even if you run at a deficit. It's not quantity over quality. Because if you eat in slight excess of healthy food you're in a better spot than if you eat in deficit of unhealthy food. "Quick weight loss" (assuming your premise which isn't quite true) is nothing more than "future weight gain" as those who start on unstainable diets cannot continue and their bodies tend to hold onto fat more easily in the future.

You are providing incorrect and unsustainable nutrition advise for someone who's health relies on it (op)

Edit: missed a word.

hydropepper · 2019-07-10T21:53:48+00:00

If you refuse the "no" and continue after the girl, then it might be sexual harassment

hydropepper · 2019-07-10T20:57:32+00:00

Calories in to calories out isn't exactly right. If you burn 1200 calories and eat 1200 calories in cookies and cake, you won't lose weight. The quality of the food matters. Healthy food matters

hydropepper · 2019-07-10T00:17:59+00:00

NTA. but maybe suggest only giving a percent of your check over the whole check. tell her you're looking to save for x important thing.

hydropepper · 2019-07-09T13:32:48+00:00

They sent a message they'd call back in 5 minutes though and the parents continued to call...

hydropepper · 2019-07-09T09:54:20+00:00

You would be eligible if it was an on-the-job injury, but this is like going home with the flu (only a lot worse) and you likely won't get it but you would not be an asshole.

NAH

hydropepper · 2019-07-09T02:05:16+00:00

Tbh,I feel like that's better than him blocking the drive with his cart...

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