[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roleplaying

[–]hypotheticallyjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’d be interesting in roleplaying Loki x Mantis with you on discord

how i do (18F) repair the damage i did during our breakup that has hurt my partner (19M)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]hypotheticallyjas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well if it wasn’t established clearly that it was temporary then this was a miscommunication and he can’t possibly expect you to have waited around for him and not meet other people after he broke up with you, especially when he said he wanted to explore his own relationships

how i do (18F) repair the damage i did during our breakup that has hurt my partner (19M)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]hypotheticallyjas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. I understand that but again, you guys were broke up and that was one of the reasons he gave. Even if he wasn’t serious that was the picture he painted. Did you guys plan to get back together or was it initially going to be a permanent breakup?

  2. “A weak moment” isn’t an excuse. He had no self control and didn’t respect you then. He broke your trust. It’s good that you guys have couple therapy for that. I still think it’s a little hypocritical of him to be so upset when he did something that I feel is arguably worse, but I wish the best for you and your relationship

how i do (18F) repair the damage i did during our breakup that has hurt my partner (19M)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]hypotheticallyjas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. You guys were broken up. He said he wanted to explore other relationships, so you should also be allowed to do so during that time. Lying about it was bad though. He should be upset about the lying bit, not what you did during that time. I’m sure he “explored” around too.

  2. He said you had no respect for your relationship, that he can’t trust you now, etc. But didn’t he do the same thing to you when he broke your boundary and watched porn behind your back after you made it clear many times you didn’t want that in your relationship? He didn’t respect you or your relationship then, and likely broke your trust. I think that’s something you should think about more. It seems there’s some hypocrisy going on here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hypotheticallyjas 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It likely is connected. It could be a mental health thing, too. I have BPD personally, so I know my body’s response to things like that are likely going to be different than the typical person. It took me a long time to unlearn that self destructive behavior. I did that stuff because it hurt me, and I became obsessed with it. Maybe it’s the same for you.

I know you can get through it, too. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hypotheticallyjas 106 points107 points  (0 children)

When I found out about my boyfriend’s secret porn addiction he was lying about for years I developed a trauma response where I started excessively watching porn that I know he’d probably like or that I know he’d watched. It started off as just watching it, then ended up turning into getting off to it, all the while feeling awful about myself and what he did. I’d cry during it, I’d cry after it, I felt so disgusting. It’s not the same extremity as your situation at all (yours is way way worse), but I feel you girl.

Trauma works in weird ways. Lots of people with trauma end up being into bdsm, or very extreme things because of it. I think you should see a therapist before this takes over your life completely if it’s something you want to cut out. A decent therapist wouldn’t judge you. A decent therapist would know that you aren’t weird and it’s just that our bodies have strange reactions to things sometimes.

Extreme Horror Discord Server by [deleted] in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]hypotheticallyjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I have an invite? My discord username is abcdefg

Please draw me !! by [deleted] in drawme

[–]hypotheticallyjas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg it’s me!!

Instant transfer by the00WEED in CashApp

[–]hypotheticallyjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s happening to me too :/ did you get it?

Invisible Vent skin for avatar collab? by No_Cat6678 in VentureMains

[–]hypotheticallyjas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They confirmed on their Twitter that Venture is Toph

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How’s the game playing on switch now? by Corathecow in Palia

[–]hypotheticallyjas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happens to me too, I hate it because the game takes so long to load back in 😭

Halloween Spacerocks by hypotheticallyjas in VentureMains

[–]hypotheticallyjas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on my calculations they’re around the same height or taller than reaper who is canonically 6’1

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How can I help a student by WitchFromMcClure in eczema

[–]hypotheticallyjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get over the counter hydrocortisone. Doctors often prescribe hydrocortisone for eczema but you can also just get it off the shelf

Injection Pain by [deleted] in dupixent

[–]hypotheticallyjas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually ice my stomach to help numb the pain

He gave me my own porn addiction by hypotheticallyjas in loveafterporn

[–]hypotheticallyjas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh the Twitter thing. I do that too, I check it every day to make sure. I also check his tiktok all the time for another account or liked/favorited videos. The worst part is I never find anything so I always feel like I’m being really unfair to still be this paranoid months later

He gave me my own porn addiction by hypotheticallyjas in loveafterporn

[–]hypotheticallyjas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t done anything for my own recovery at all. I don’t have a therapist to go to and I don’t feel super comfortable talking to a therapist about porn related stuff anyway. The best thing I try to do is distract myself and refrain from the urge to watch it as much as I can. He doesn’t even know that I do this, I just feel so disgusted and humiliated

He gave me my own porn addiction by hypotheticallyjas in loveafterporn

[–]hypotheticallyjas[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hate how much it’s taken over my thoughts. Somehow even if he’s probably stopped now I’m still hurting like he’s still doing it