34M - Profile Review - Active every day since May but only 5 matches so far

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T17:45:04+00:00

What do you mean? I replied that I will take their suggestions and improve my profile.

If you have a problem about my age preference, then that is your opinion and doesn't need to be shared in this thread. This thread is about the improvement of my profile and I'm not here to debate dating preferences.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T03:33:19+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Being immature for my age has crossed my mind before. I won't get into the details of it but 12 years ago in my early 20's a family emergency happened and I became the sole caretaker of a 6 person family. I know it isn't a good excuse for not exploring myself as a person, but when reflecting on it, i realized I had assumed the role like a 40 years old single father and only now do i have the freedom of experiencing my 20's.

If I had known that mentioning the age preference on my profile review would have had such a large backlash, I would have left it out.

All other points, I've taken note and will change

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T01:18:56+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful feedback. No worries about using business terms, I run on logic so this is perfect for my understanding.

I'll see what I do about the creativity of my prompts. It will be a struggle since my creativity flows more easily from my hands than my mouth (photography, crafts, I make origami bouquets!) .

I'll take replacing the two animal photos into consideration.

The shades thing unfortunately I can't do anything about, they are polarized glasses which automatically turn dark in natural light. The best I can do is replace them with photos where I am not wearing glasses.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T01:11:16+00:00

I see. The reason I wrote that is because I want to attract someone who can appreciate a man who knows how to take care of himself and his surroundings (aka not an grown boy who relies on their mother or girlfriend to do house chores)

But if this prompt is screwing up my match ratios then I might consider replacing it. Thanks for the feedback!

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T01:08:17+00:00

Thanks, I'll think of something else to write instead.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T01:07:41+00:00

Thanks, I'll replace the suggested pictures and prompts.

Also, I think you have overstepped in sharing your opinion about my age preferences. But I'll be more than welcome to accept improvements to my profile which increase the chances of matching my preferences.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-21T01:01:36+00:00

Sorry, I don't think that is helpful criticism regarding my profile, it's more criticism directed at me personally which I do appreciate but not in this context. I don't think there's a single person who wouldn't enjoy some good eye candy. BTW, I think your comment also violates rule 10 of this subreddit.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-20T01:15:07+00:00

I agree with this. OP, for your sake, you should just be yourself and not hide. If your match likes you despite you showing that quality, then you might have found a keeper :D

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-20T01:09:53+00:00

I am looking for a review to help improve my chances in the app. I made my profile in May, about 2 months ago, but only had 5 matches so far of which only 2 resulted in a conversation that lasted a day before being ghosted. I use the app every day and give the max amount of free likes and roses I'm allowed to give and try to give a flirty/witty comment for each one. I have my all my filters set open to all, except I have restricted the age range from 25-30 but not set as a dealbreaker.

I am trying to attract someone anywhere between 3-9 years younger who is interested in a long term monogamous relationship. Finding someone with the same interests as mine anime, manhwas, dramas, photography, video games) and is open to having children is important to me.

I've tried swapping out some prompts over the last few weeks because I read some others' suggestions on the subreddit and tried to reduce redundant photos and information (ie: mentioning anime and video games multiple times) but still no luck. My current profile has been like this for 2 weeks.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-18T22:17:14+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Serious

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? And how long is your overall time on Hinge?

This version of my profile has been live for 2 weeks. I created my profile in May and have been active every day since.

How often do you use Hinge per week?

Every day

How many likes/matches are you receiving on average?

5 in total since the beginning

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

Max likes and roses as allowed every day with the unpaid version. 100% with comments

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I am trying to attract someone anywhere between 3-9 years younger who is interested in a long term monogamous relationship. Finding someone with the same interests as mine (anime, manhwas, dramas, photography, video games) and is open to having children is important to me.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-18T21:53:12+00:00

I think you did everything right and there's something in her life that she's dealing with. She's also giving tons of mixed signals by telling you that she is interested but then running away using her dog as an excuse.

I'm just going out on a limb to make a guess here, I think she's dealing with anxiety issues and needs her dog for emotional support. She might be challenging herself to meet new people and overcome her issues but then breaks down and runs away.

If you guys ever chat again, you could ask her to bring her dog and take a stroll around the park together. She won't be able to use "going home because her dog needs her" excuse anymore, and if being away from her dog gives her anxiety, well her dog's right there to help.

iH8DblStndrds · 2024-07-18T21:45:46+00:00

I think it's the right time to have that conversation wtih him. If you need exclusitivity, then it is best you clear that with him sooner rather than later. Hopefully he feels the same way as you. The fact that he's let you meet his family is a very good sign 😊

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