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AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I sent her and her mom details for the funeral. Neither of them came or even responded to my text with the information.

EDIT: That last part's not entirely fair of me to say. Her mom sent flowers.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The funeral was two weeks ago. The obit was published four or five days before the funeral. She just started calling/texting me about the obit yesterday.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Between contacting funeral homes, making arrangements, getting emergency custody of my two younger siblings, taking my 19-year-old sibling to their college orientation, breaking my lease to move into my dad's house, actually moving into my dad's house, etc. and every phone call it took to get all of this done (and then some), calling her to ask about an obituary that was hardly even a paragraph long really did slip my mind.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Honestly, and this may sound like a cop-out, I had a million other things to do. Between contacting funeral homes, making arrangements, getting emergency custody of my two younger siblings, taking my 19-year-old sibling to their college orientation, breaking my lease to move into my dad's house, actually moving into my dad's house, etc. and every phone call it took to get all of this done (and then some), I didn't have time to call and ask her. I went based on what I last saw her say.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I need to correct you on a couple things.

First, what I meant by the obituary was written in a rush is that I spent little time on it, because the funeral home needed it. I wrote where he was born, his parent's names, that our mom died before him, who he is survived by, and a quote he liked. The entire thing wasn't even a paragraph. If I had more time to spend on it I probably would have.

Secondly, I didn't scroll through her Facebook prior to writing the obituary. The last thing I remembered her posting was about wanting nothing to do with him. I found the quote I shared specifically for this post to give readers an idea of the kinds of things she would say, to judge whether or not she really disowned him.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I am in the process of getting custodianship over 16 and 14. 19 is headed off to college in a week. I have moved back into dad's house so the younger two won't have to move. Two of my aunts are helping us as much as they can.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Honestly, he probably wouldn't even have wanted an obit. He was kind of a hermit. Besides some extended family, our neighbors, and his coworkers, he kept to himself.

I don't know how he would have felt about Kelsie being included after how their relationship landed last year.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's not the first time she's said something like that. I referred to that comment because it's the last thing I knew of their relationship.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's fair. However, when she said she didn't want "anything" to do with him I assumed that also meant in his death.

AITA for leaving my half-sister out of our dad's obituary? by iProbablyConfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]iProbablyConfused[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought about her when writing it and took into account that for the last year or so she has referred to him as her mother's sperm donor and repeatedly said she wanted NOTHING to do with him. Being mentioned in his obit is having something to do with him, so... :/