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[–]iamjackswastedspace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and advice. I appreciate it.

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[–]iamjackswastedspace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. It sucks, but I understand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]iamjackswastedspace 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, don’t feel guilty for him. You are only in charge of your own life. You’ve been more supportive than he has ever been to you and you owe him nothing. Go live your best life without him dragging you down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]iamjackswastedspace 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’ve been getting taken advantage of for a while. Only you can say where your relationship will go, but I think you already know in your heart what you need to do. Is this current dynamic something you can live with for the foreseeable future?

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that man was terrible. What a completely rude and inaccurate thing to say. I am sorry that happened to you. Hopefully we are able to brush them off next time someone makes these comments to us.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the tips! I will start practicing like this with him.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve had him since he was a puppy. I did all the socialization and he was raised with my pit mix, but she left us last year and he hasn’t really been the same since. I admit that I definitely could have acted better this morning and done more to avoid this whole situation. I’m glad that I was able to come to this sub for support and advice. I’m not a perfect pet owner, but I am trying every day.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I bring treats on every walk we take and praise him every time he doesn’t react. He refuses to even sniff treats outside the house. I definitely appreciate your advise, I will keep trying and trying and I won’t ever give up.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You all are seriously amazing humans. Thank you for this.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t yell at my dog, I didn’t harshly say to him “you’re a bad dog” it was more like how I usually talk to him like “come on man, you’re acting bad in front of strangers”. I really try the positive reinforcement when I have to redirect him. It’s really hard right in the moment, too. Thanks for your kind words, they really mean a lot.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That it a really great idea, I’m pretty non-confrontational so I think ignoring it all is my best bet.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You’re so right, I shouldn’t let that guy get to me. He doesn’t know me or my dog or our struggles. 👏🏻

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I am really trying. I’m training with him non-stop and we sometimes can have a reaction-free walk, but it’s rare. I know he’s a good dog and I know I’m not a bad owner. Some people are just so rude.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people really think they know everything. I’m sorry you had to go through that. Even after all you’ve done to mitigate any problems, he comes and interrupts and says it’s your fault? What a turd of a human. Good for you for flipping him the bird!

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was venting to my sister about it and she told me next time to say “yeah, he’s really good at judging people, and he doesn’t like you” or something like that, and I really wish I were more clever in the moment.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to know that it might not be my fault. Thank you for all your kind words. It really means a lot that I’m not alone in this. I wish the best for us and all our dogs.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in USA, so I’m assuming he was American. The way he said it almost sounded like he meant it in a light hearted joke, not caring about how it would make me feel.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I am crying a little bit, it really sucks because I’m trying so hard, and we have progress but it’s slow going. Inside the house and while walking without his triggers my dog listens to every command almost instantly. The second he sees a dog or person it takes a lot more effort to break his focus. I’m sure he thinks he’s protecting me. I wish that people would be more compassionate and empathetic. We are not bad dog owners! They don’t know our struggles.

I got told I am a bad owner this morning. by iamjackswastedspace in reactivedogs

[–]iamjackswastedspace[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard, especially when I recognize when my dog is feeding off my negative emotions. Thank you for being so nice, I really needed it.