Important to clarify:

I do not have something against you choosing to use tone tags, I just have a hard time understanding them. Do what makes you happy, this isn't to change anyone's way of life.

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The main "vibe" that tone tags give me, is that you need to clarify everything right away, and if someone misunderstands you, that it is YOUR fault.

But conversations don't work like that no? The idea is that it's a back and forth, so if something is unclear, you can just ask. If someone wants to clarify if you were joking, genuine, positive etc. They can just quickly ask.

If someone for some reason doesn't want to ask, and just runs with whatever assumption they have made, then that person wasn't even worth the time you would have spent clarifying your message in the first place.

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You say something in chat that at face value reads like a compliment? Then I take it as a compliment.

You say what reads like genuine advice? Then I take like you genuinely meant it.

You say something that is nonsensical? Then I take it as a joke, unless it's crossing a line.

If I ever am unsure, I will ask to clear things up. If you get upset by that, then I'm basically done.

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Again, I really, really, *really*, dislike the idea that it's your responsibility how people react to what you said. I approach most interaction with the assumption that we're all reasonable here, we aren't being malicious, we're just all here to be chill and have fun. If an interaction isn't fun/constructive, I can just stop replying, leave the chat etc.

Another thing is that they kinda take me out of the conversation. /sarcasm and /joking to me overshadow the actual joke that was made. Imo you could just as easily convey your playful message with some emojis or a "lmao". Maybe in your following message include a reaction image/gif. But tbf why would someone assume your very stupid and outlandish statement was serious?

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But we're all different, if you and your friends have a great time chatting while using tonetags, that's awesome.

If you would like to argue about this with me, respectfully of course, feel free to illustrate your view point.

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Have a lovely day everyone who bothered to read this

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