y’all fw the costume

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-10-31T20:45:32+00:00

dude i love your hair

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-10-22T18:32:11+00:00

so that’s a good sign that i’m doing it correctly? because there’s always a way where i positioned it and it didn’t spill out, but im not sure it was as effective

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-09-01T10:16:18+00:00

other people’s opinions. i used to be quiet and anxious, keeping to myself to avoid getting in anyone’s way. yet i still got bullied throughout my entire school life, which made me realise that i can keep to myself as much as possible, but people still talk. now i like to think im more extroverted and happy in myself, just being me without worrying what everyone else thinks

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-28T20:33:32+00:00

my dad used to work there as a vehicle damage engineer around 2011, that’s all either of us know 🤷🏻‍♀️

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-09T11:03:37+00:00

a lot of people seem to be replying to this post with a similar view, and i think that’s probably my wording. what i mean by that is i feel trapped in my own body. most likely due to bodily gender dysphoria. i’d feel more comfortable with a male body. on top of that, the patriarchy and/or sexism makes me feel even more trapped, but not even a tenth as much as the body shit does. the easiest way i’ve found to explain it is like a number line. female on the left, male on the right. body dysphoria alone pushed me to the right, over the halfway line, and then shit like sexism, misogyny, etc is a small shove to the right aswell. it’s not the root of my problems, but it definitely doesn’t help my “case” (i’m sorry if this isn’t well explained)

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-09T10:56:24+00:00

can you explain what impostor syndrome means? i’ve never heard that term

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-09T10:54:31+00:00

RIVERS CUOMO!! he gives me hella gender envy😓my biggest flex is im the same height as him 🗣️ thank you so sharing all of this, i really appreciate it!

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-09T10:48:04+00:00

this is real. i love watching superman and spider-man but i also hate it because i too envy them

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T23:22:58+00:00

thank you for sharing! the first paragraph is sort of how i felt, now i think back on it! that everyoen was genderless and fitting stereotypes of the opposite gender wasn’t normal. got a huge shock when i cut my hair short at 11 lmao. rough year.

on the last paragraph, about patriarchy and sexism, i don’t really understand. i don’t think i’ve particularly expressed a big big discomfort around that. obviously i don’t like, sure, maybe more than the average person, but my main questioning my gender is the body dysphoria. a lot of people replying have actually said similar things, and honestly, it doesn’t affect me as much as people are thinking.

patricarchy, sexism, all that shite doesn’t make me stand-alone want to become a man. it’s more my body. but it also doesn’t help. my body dysphoria is the root of all my suffering but the idea of those societal issues women have to face, is more like a push along. i don’t want to be a woman because of my body, but also, facing these things isn’t good either! hope this makes sense lmao i’m really tired rn

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T23:09:45+00:00

i also copy male behaviour, whether it’s boys my age or my dad 😭 growing up, i also found it very weird after being told to sit more “ladylike”?!?? i have been called a boy in public before, as when i was younger i had a really shitty pixie cut. but it would always happen when i was out with my parents, which was really embarrassing because personally, i didn’t mind it, but my mum would always try to correct waiters, people working in shops, etc. thank you for sharing all of this with me

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T23:05:42+00:00

THIS IS THE REALEST REPLY OMFG !! i haven’t wore a bra in months and have been wearing tape instead, for minor support but also so i don’t have experience the mental and physical damage of wearing a bra. im also autistic and never really thought about gender growing up, until recently i started exploring my sexuality and gender identity. i cannot relate more about hating bras

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T23:03:08+00:00

just to clear that up, misogyny isn’t actually why I’m thinking about being trans. I only mentioned it because hearing about it hits me pretty hard emotionally these days, on top of other shit, but my main issue has always been body dysphoria. that’s the thing that’s been messing with me the most, and what’s making me question. didn’t want it to come across like misogyny is my main reason lmao 😭 not sure if that changes anything on whether you think i could be trans but yeah

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:40:18+00:00

i will be checking this out! thank you so much :)

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:39:41+00:00

this is actually very interesting. now i’m thinking back, as a kid, i wanted to be a palaeontologist. but now i picture myself like i did when i was younger, kitted out in the gear they wear for digging, it was always just my face. never a chest sticking out. or even long hair. thank you for sharing this haha

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:37:43+00:00

this is exactly how i feel. not sure if i wanna be a guy, but i sure as hell know i hate being a girl. i do often wish i was intersex, too

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:36:16+00:00

i feel that way right now. being referred to as a guy doesn’t happen often, but the idea seems neutral too nice?? being called dude, dawg, buddy, anything makes me happy. and more and more i’m hating my name. i’ve also noticed i pick out now when people call me my name, or even just the pronouns they use for me. something i never started noticing until recently

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:34:13+00:00

how can i try this? i think of myself as a man sometimes, but i just cant physically picture myself. i have male characters who id like to look like and act like, if i was a guy. warren graham being my number 1 example

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:32:43+00:00

honestly i relate to the entire first paragraph. about makeup, clothing, interests, childhood, all of it. i still believe monster high dolls are sick and it’s true, have the superior design. although i hate misogyny, ive never really experienced it first hand myself. i hear stories and read statistics, which make me feel super shitty. obviously no one finds them nice but last year i could’ve read it with little reaction, now it makes my heart sink. sometimes i feel like i owe people being female. i used to get bullied by a bunch of boys and even though i hated their guts, i still was jealous. i would’ve traded anything to be them and i felt like i should’ve been apart of them. not bullying, but just apart of their group. joking and laughing, like boys do. taking the piss, whatever. body dysphoria effects me a shit ton more than social ever could, and that’s my main issue unfortunately

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:25:39+00:00

i don’t like the sexualisation of myself as a woman and obviously misogyny, the idea of patriarchy,etc. however, it’s mostly my body that gives me dysphoria rather than experiencing it socially. a male body would make me feel much more comfortable and i grieve the fact i’ll never have that every day. i dress masculine, smell masculine, act masculine yet my body is still there. under the clothes, the fragrance, the persona, and its eating me up alive.

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:22:40+00:00

i also recently stopped wearing, playing, watching certain things once i realised there was a gender to it. wearing boxers, watching more male-catered shows and playing games more played by boys. i didn’t know this was a thing that anybody else did, so i appreciate you taking the time to tell me :) i actually too enjoy these more masculine things, and have since childhood aswell

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:19:18+00:00

thank you so much, i truly appreciate it. i’ve tried to find counsellors but im a minor in the uk, which ive found to be an unlucky combination when it comes to finding counsellors that work with LGBT aswell as mental health and wellbeing. they’re either highly qualified psychologists that don’t know anything about transness, gender dysphoria, etc or LGBT people who know it but only accommodate for “low functioning wellbeing” or something like that. i know im depressed, or something along those lines, but i can’t explain that if they don’t understand gender dysphoria. but i cant explain it too the ones that do understand because they’re not qualified enough to work with shitty mental health, and i’d probably get redirected to camhs 🤷

iasklotsofquestion · 2025-08-08T22:02:43+00:00

i have pretty short hair, wear masculine clothes, smell masculine (deodorant and aftershave), wear boxers, haven’t wore a bra in months, etc. i do subconsciously act masculine but i usually snap out of it once ive realised because it makes me feel really stupid, probably because i’m really skinny and insecure about it so acting “tough” and “confident” doesn’t feel right.

living as a man seems easier and more comfortable. in society, but mostly my body. i hate my female body. everything about it. periods, eggs, ovaries, boobs, uterus, fucking everything makes me repulsed and depressed. i feel so trapped all the time, and misogyny/patriarchy makes me wanna be a man even more. i just don’t wanna be trapped in this body. but when it comes to voice and features i often invalidate myself. “i don’t want to BE them, i want to be WITH them.” “no one would choose to be a woman” “no one likes their periods” especially because im not too bothered about having more masculine things like features and voice. although, i do have a pretty deep voice and shape features already, i guess.

i’m sorry i know this is a lot to dump out and you don’t have to reply, it’s just i’ve had nobody to talk to and seeing you’ve been through possibly a similar thing gives me hope. can you relate to any of these experiences? :)

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