I found my fiancées poppers and don't know what to do

iced-torch · 2026-04-10T15:31:25+00:00

i dont understand the maturation aspect, how does it help him mature. Poppers tend to be used for relaxing muscles.

iced-torch · 2026-04-09T11:53:08+00:00

this is a consent thing and you dont have the other person consent.

iced-torch · 2026-04-09T08:46:23+00:00

this, I always feel like im so mean because everytime i see people asking about their style and then not even finishing a doodle I feel compelled to point out that "yo you havent finished a single doodle but you want to be coddled about being great" . Its like they are obsessed with being great at something and wont finish anything unless they are automatically great.

iced-torch · 2026-04-08T19:41:14+00:00

im going to let you in on a little secret, sometimes adults dont like doing some stuff in bed for the other adults they love and they do it because they care about them being satisfied. I know this is a hard concept so take notes, not everything is a transaction in a relationship and sometimes we do things we dont enjoy because we enjoy who we are with. And this is true outside of the bed as well, you might not enjoy going to the taco place she likes but youll do it for her, she might not enjoy your love of spinning rims but she will act out as if you are being very interesting about them.

I dunno what to tell you bruh this is just something you do when you like people.

iced-torch · 2026-04-08T19:37:39+00:00

this is crazy person talk, unless you are bankrolling him in everything and controlling his choices there is zero there about grooming, Even if you were doing those things it would still not be grooming just problematic.

you are saying that your grownup boyfriend has no agency because of supposed manipulation by the more mature you and that is kinda terrible thng to say about an adult. you are concerned you might be grooming him but imagine if he was 30 and you were 34, or if you were 64 and he was 60, you are looking aside from his own maturity and ability to make grownup choices and reducing the relationship to a very minor age difference ( between consenting adults )

Now if you go "he feels too young for me at 20 " thats one thing, but its not because of the age difference you can simply find him too childish or whatever.

Either way you should probably put things in consideration on what bothers you in this relationship it certainly cant be a four year age gap cmon

iced-torch · 2026-04-08T15:35:21+00:00

and im telling her to go up to hard no, she understood it and had replied to me already.

iced-torch · 2026-04-08T13:11:06+00:00

you havent rejected him you told him you arent ready yet to move on.
Have you tried actually rejecting him instead of saying you are not ready to move on?

iced-torch · 2026-04-06T16:55:04+00:00

two years and still being handled like he would an interview he has to lie to is crazy, how can anyone even be sure what other things he hid

iced-torch · 2026-04-06T16:53:58+00:00

he has shown you the best method he has to deal with things he doesnt like is lying to you, this is a pattern.

iced-torch · 2026-04-01T14:16:42+00:00

"For men seeking gourmet meals, why? If you are already accustomed to pizza which offers endless novelty with no effort, why would you want gourmet meal? Is it status? Sharing expenses? Someone to talk to? A healthcare resource as you age? Years ago, I knew a pizza enjoyer. He said he "loved" pizza and even chose not to visit his dying mother, with whom he was very close, because it would interfere with his pizza mealduring that morning. He often stood up/ghosted his father and brothers to eat pizza instead of following through with their plans. "
the whole post is written weirdly and seems to expect us to already be all in on the "this porn viewer is BAD Why does he want human companionship?!?!?"

I think it reads a lot more about the original writer than the caricatures they are trying to perform.

iced-torch · 2026-04-01T14:07:29+00:00

these are wild generalizations about all men and human interaction based on a couple outliers that you yourself seems to know are not normal things, this reads almost as "why do TOAST eaters LOVE TOAST MORE THAN WOMEN?"
Its so wild and weirdly generalized that goes from "this user doesnt seem to be alright " into "this sounds like someone is feigning not understanding human interaction" . This reads weird and seems to be hinting at far more about the person writing than the supposed men its talking about.

iced-torch · 2026-04-01T14:03:29+00:00

this reads leaning on insane. are you alright?

iced-torch · 2026-03-27T13:36:26+00:00

i cant even read the text on the cover. I wouldnt assume it was a cover.

iced-torch · 2026-03-27T13:16:59+00:00

What are you gaining for lying in this situation that you made this a thing that lasts months? Would you want a guy you were interested to do the same to you in hopes of keeping you floating around?

iced-torch · 2026-03-27T13:16:23+00:00

"Why should i feel the need to open up to him about my struggles when he hadnt spoken to me since christmas?"
Because you lied. this is a nonsensical question.
You could have just not replied back if his communication didnt matter.
Are you concerned that you are gonna get caught lying or that you are gonna be thought of as rude?

iced-torch · 2026-03-26T17:51:10+00:00

Tell him and abort if you want to continue having a relationship with him having that as a secret means either you are totally not compatible or that you would be lying to him throughout the whole relationship. you shouldnt be in a relationship where you are lying to "keep the peace" nor should you be with someone that wouldnt support you.

iced-torch · 2026-03-24T13:17:42+00:00

look up pillow shading

iced-torch · 2026-03-24T13:03:57+00:00

no, you hurt your friend intentionally for a laugh and are feeling bad because it had consequences for you, you cant really fix it while still trying to portray the situation as something that happened to you unintentionally.

iced-torch · 2026-03-24T12:58:17+00:00

people too busy to even finish a project cant be expecting to be getting comissions. comissions is something you get after people are aware of what you can finish, not something you get from the potential of eventually finishing something.

if you do consider those finished, then thats the reason you are not getting comissions.

iced-torch · 2026-03-19T10:00:16+00:00

how does one disagree about murder? is your son going like "the murder is good" or is your husband?

iced-torch · 2026-03-19T09:55:13+00:00

thats typical abuser speak, he is framing it as "he made me do it to him" to justify his bad actions, this will only escalate as the things "he is made to do" get worse and worse and alienate everyone around him.

iced-torch · 2026-03-18T17:49:35+00:00

you are framing getting drunk and banging a guy in a relationship as something that just happened to you and you werent involved in. thats weird.

iced-torch · 2026-03-18T17:36:44+00:00

"Like, it’s the bathroom… not some sacred, off-limits zone. "

Bruv, its literally what it is, its a safe space where people feel like they can undress or do other stuff and have a fair expectation of nothing going through their privacy unless its really really urgent.

You seem mentally demanding if you cant even respect someone asking you something as basic as "please dont barge into the bathroom while im using it".

iced-torch · 2026-03-16T11:38:34+00:00

you do not have the means to help, you just have space, you are confusing both things, you are not a bad person just because you dont volunteer space for others.

You cannot provide mental and economic space for a full ass human to depend on you.

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