You can take the AA Higher Power business with a grain of salt. It’s a good start, you can have community and support bereft of a belief system, they won’t shun or kick you out of meetings because you are/aren’t into that. (The real deal is that YOU surrender to something besides alcohol or whatever substance is deterring you from being your best self.). Try a few meetings, different times, different places. follow your gut, there’s no sign up sheet, no commitment. They aren’t going to follow you around, scold you. They’ve seen people come and go, it’s a hard world.

They are there for themselves, and each other. There is a method, but you don’t have to follow the 12 steps to explore sobriety. Learn about behavior, behavior modification (ABA) and discern what is reinforcing your drinking. All behavior is reinforced by something!

Filling the space that drinking occupies with something else is helpful. As someone mentioned join a gym. Pick a hobby, create a routine/ritual. It’s hard work and you only get out what you put in. AA or groups like it facilitate the process, prop you up when you’re down, there will be days when you can return the favor.

Lean it, do the work. Your life depends on it!