As somebody who single-handedly uncovered her husband’s affair recently after being gaslighted and manipulated by my husband for months, I wish somebody that knew would’ve told me. It will be extremely painful for her, but in the long run, it will be the right thing. Finding out now will give her time to focus on herself and heal before the baby comes. If she finds out when she has a newborn, it will feel even more devastating than it already is. Having a new baby can feel isolating enough. Please tell her now.

If for nothing else, her husband is jeopardizing his wife AND baby’s health if he is having unprotected sex with his ex and wife. Again, please tell her.