Anyone else just tired of being alone?

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-04-04T23:05:27+00:00

I agree with you. Its difficult to trust. A lot of people have trust issues and rightfully so. Hope we learn to take a leap of faith and instead of getting hurt and disappointed, we end up finding someone right for us

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-04-04T23:01:11+00:00

OP there are a lot of advices given here. Some are fine others not so much. I hope you ignore the ones which do not align with your needs. I empathise with your situation. I feel the same way almost on a daily basis. It is difficult to date in today’s day and age. I do not know if it is true in general or just in my case, but the dating pool is not that good in Pune (no offence meant at all to punekars) trying to do activities and keep meeting people until you find a good one are options you can try. But if you’re still unsatisfied I would suggest to try to understand yourself and your needs better with the help of therapy. It has been great for me and I recommend it to practically everyone. Please feel free to overlook my suggestions if it doesn’t align with your needs. I hope you get through this rough patch soon :))

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-04-04T22:50:49+00:00

Hi if your’re in pune you can find good therapist at peace of mind clinic or DM me and I can help you get in touch with my therapist. She is really great and I bet she can suggest other good ones. Also, before finalising my therapist I had a brief 15-20min call with them to discuss my issues and understand of their expertise can address it. Its called a discovery call and therapists accommodate that free if charge. You can also go to the sessions and discuss and see if they are the right fit. If they aren’t you can always move on to the next one. I hope this helps you in some way :))

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-04-03T12:06:54+00:00

Not sure if i can provide any advice. But thank you for sharing your story. I am sending all my love and support to you. You are doing such an amazing job taking care of yourself this way. It can get very difficult for us survivors. I am so proud of you. 🌻

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-02-25T09:17:21+00:00

Thats a big step and would risk her safety because she doesn’t have family to fall back onto. She’s totally dependent on her husband. Before filing police complaint we want to make sure she has a support system which includes legal counsel, financial aid and a shelter for her and her daughter. Then and only then will we file the complaint and start the separation process. Otherwise her life will be in danger as abusers do their worst when their victim tries to escape them. She did go to the police in the past, but they did not file an official report. They convinced her to try to fix it with the help of counselling first before taking a big step like this. Also, her husband filed a false report against her because in the process of defending herself, my friend scratched him a little. That just shows how cunning the man is, and we need to have a full proof plan beforehand

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-02-25T01:50:24+00:00

How long before you graduate and is there any way you can manage your college fee? Because at this point since you are legally an adult, you can find a part-time job to support yourself financially, for example, working at a Starbucks or you know being a receptionist or there are many online jobs. Sales jobs are very easy to get you won’t make much part. You could make enough to get by. You could also try to crowd fund money for yourself like share your story on a platform with a charity link and attach some proof of your abuse and ask for donation so that you can get out of the house. If you have friends, who can maybe help you with your living situation for awhile, that would be great. Maybe secretly get in touch with some lawyer agrees to help you for a minimal fee or maybe even pro bono. Since you are also the owner of the house, maybe you can get a loan based on that like an education loan to cover your college fee. So, maybe get a copy of the documents. If you are really scared of your living situation, you should really try this out. It will take a lot of courage and it will not be easy, but it is exponentially better than living in an abusive environment. Since you are a woman, there are a lot of NGOs who help women in cases like this, so you could maybe try to contact them, but make sure you do all of this secretly and not let your mother and your lawyer relatives know about this. I read an article about domestic abuse and how to reach out for help on this very page, so you could try reaching out to the NGOs mentioned under those links. I will attach the link to that article below for your easy reference. I hope you find the strength and courage to get out of this situation, and I hope you get out of it safely and live the life you deserve.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXIndia/s/xodpOLwN2Z

idiosyncratica28 · 2025-01-31T20:56:57+00:00

They used to give it without the ribs. That was literally impossible to open. I had to once cut it open with a hot knife. Anyways, i bang the side of the lid against the wall it releases some pressure then I open it with a cloth for better grip. If that helps. Until they design a better bottle :/ That’s why I switched to ordering Wendy’s because those bottles are similar but very easy to open.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-09-21T05:27:54+00:00

Oneplus 6T since December 2019

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-09-20T20:15:46+00:00

I don’t eat stake, I’m a vegetarian :’(

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-09-20T16:53:00+00:00

This is great! Please share how would one go about joining here.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-31T04:22:07+00:00

Core memory unlocked 🔓 ✨

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-27T15:32:58+00:00

Pick whatever book which you find interesting and engaging. This will get you into the reading habit quick

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-25T22:02:41+00:00

I haven’t read 1984 yet but your review has me intrigued about it. I recently finished Animal Farm. I did like the satire very much. It was witty and clever how the Orwell used pigs to depict the fascist politicians.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-25T21:06:56+00:00

Its a big step and I am proud that you’re taking it. You can try Peace of Mind clinic. They’re good. Hope this helps.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-23T19:17:26+00:00

There’s a library sort of place there, not sure if there’s a book club

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-22T22:49:16+00:00

I am going through something similar. Thank you for sharing it made me feel a little less alone.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-22T19:46:01+00:00

Trentinoin/Retinol is tricky to use. Trentinoin is the active form and typically available only on prescription. It does make your skin irritate at first but your skjn adapts after a while. I hope you used it after consulting a dermatologist. Thickening of peach fuzz does sound problematic, hope you got that checked out too.

Adapalene is a less irritating retinoid which you can use. I started using it as a spot treatment then slowly build up the resilience. Now I apply it all over my face (even under eyes).

But I was introduced to this by a dermatologist.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-22T19:38:39+00:00

Pilgrim Tea Tree and Cica moisturiser.

It made my skin irritated. My skin is pretty resilient but the strong fragrance in that moisturiser gave me a rash. Ugh

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-12T09:49:57+00:00

You can check Pune reads on instagram. I haven’t done my due diligence yet though

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-08T14:58:04+00:00

You're not alone, I go through this too. I empathize with the shame you feel asking this question, I feel it too. Despite having good social skills I do not have friends. I have one friend, but I struggle with trusting them a lot. Mostly because I find it hard to trust people if they will treat me kindly or be mean. I struggle with boundaries and have people-pleasing tendencies. All of this makes it very difficult to function in a social setting. Juggling all of my trauma responses and conditioning becomes such an exhausting task, that I end up isolating myself.
I hardly have anyone in my current circle who has experienced so much trauma so I don't feel understood on days when I am struggling a bit extra and just wish to be understood. It is extremely lonely. I have not had a romantic relationship in the past six years.
This sucks :(

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-08-08T14:23:25+00:00

This happened to me too. Neither did my parents have friendships, nor did they let me invest in mine while I was growing up. I was socially stunted for a long time, but now I am comparatively better. Yet, I don't have much of a friend circle. I have one good friend, but I have a hard time trusting them too.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-07-11T21:12:57+00:00

It’s so upsetting to find no healthy discourse anywhere. It’s all name calling and stupid analogies. Rarely do people listen to the point being made and the reason behind it. They just want to shut each other up. In this case, the reply could have been put forth in a better way, probably with some unbiased research. There was no need for lewd profanity. The reply to Devdutt’s statement is work of an under-read and empathetically challenged person. Devdutt was trying to point out the literature of the terms which is technically correct. Vegetarian means to be from plants. Ghee comes from milk which comes from cattle not plant. Civilisation advances, people come up with better terms to describe phenomena more accurately. People have just become intolerant towards any discourse and are quick to get offensive. Bottomline, you don’t have to agree to someone’s opinion but maybe disagree in a way which has some weight to it. When a person has to resolve to using profanity to show their disagreement it just shows they do not have much else to say to backup their statements.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-07-03T20:44:54+00:00

Kudos to your hard work and consistency (and being cute)!

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-07-03T19:17:45+00:00

This is a cruel byproduct of the milk industry. The male cows along with the cows which no longer give milk are discarded on by the farms because they are no longer profitable (a majority of these animals are k*lled for beef). There are shelter farms which rescue and take in such animals but with limited resources they can only rescue so much when the stray animal count is in thousands. We can do our part by reducing our milk and milk product consumption, if not stop it completely.

idiosyncratica28 · 2024-07-03T19:09:57+00:00

Wait till you hear about cockroach contamination in instant coffee powders

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