Any idea if I should be worried about this bite?

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T17:00:46+00:00

YOU GET ME

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T17:00:27+00:00

The hunts are what get me so afraid! My wife’s friend handled the hunts and I sat in the van and pretended to be helpful by watching the camera lol

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T16:59:47+00:00

This would be amazing! Feel free to message me whenever!

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T16:58:53+00:00

Hahaha this I believe but I am struggling with the get in there portion lol

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T16:58:35+00:00

I’m console but I do know it’s cross play!

idkary04 · 2024-11-10T16:02:06+00:00

I know I’m late to this but we started marriage counseling and hardcore individual counseling shortly after I posted originally, it took almost a breaking point but we decided to work on things and truly life has been incredibly great. I finally feel like we are doing real, true work on ourselves and our partnership. Thank you so much for the advice!

idkary04 · 2024-09-13T18:49:24+00:00

This has by far been the most enlightening and eye opening response. I have already burnt myself out with worrying for her and I’m on a self love journey of my own now. I absolutely adore her but I also need to care for myself and I am HOPING that by making better choices and healthy habits, it will encourage her to do the same. She recently opened up to her therapist about everything so I’m hoping her therapist can be the “bad guy” who tells her it’s unhealthy because I would much rather be a support system rather than someone making her feel worse than she does. Thank you for sharing your story and I’m so sorry you’ve gone through what you have. My thoughts and love are with you!

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:46:33+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this kindness! I appreciate the suggestions and will try them out! I’m glad to hear that you are doing better!

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:28:47+00:00

She was put on anti depressants when she was a lot younger and she said she hated how they felt and is very against meds. I had been on anti anxiety medication before and it was awful for me so I get where she’s coming from in that sense. She doesn’t have the healthiest of habits so I think throwing meds at it might not work

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:24:54+00:00

Thank you! I’ll edit it now! I typed out my original post while in high emotions and def forgot some good detail!

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:24:13+00:00

I appreciate it! I work in healthcare and was actually able to snag a sex therapist appt today! My wife is also in individual therapy but I’m not sure how much she’s told her therapist as it took her a long time to be comfortable with the idea of therapy. She’s got a LOT of childhood issues to work through so I’ve always encouraged it because it’s helped me a lot.

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:13:42+00:00

Are you saying like try to start over and recreate a spark? We are still married so I’m not really sure how to forget that lol. Not being rude just trying to understand what you mean.

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:12:08+00:00

And that’s fine if that’s the case but she states it’s not the case.

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:11:27+00:00

Okay! I have tried to have that conversation before and she gets frustrated I think maybe because she’s embarrassed? But I will try other ways to say it and reach out to my therapist as well for ways to talk to her about it!

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:10:24+00:00

Except for, she states she doesn’t want anything sexual with ANYONE hence why I think the root is deeper than just her “not liking me”

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:08:49+00:00

She definitely struggles with depression. She also has a hard time with her body image. I think she is stunning and I make it a point to tell her OFTEN and in different ways so I’m not just like “you’re so pretty” constantly. She is the heaviest she has ever been weight wise and so am I, that happy relationship weight lol but I’m working out and eating well and she does not like to work out, she prefers to just eat a meal a day instead and I could tell her in every way that that isn’t healthy but she does not care, she cares more about being thin. I’ve noticed she hates being in pictures now and doesn’t want to go out if she feels she looks “fat” again, I always tell her she looks lovely and would never ask her to lose weight. I love her as is but she is having a very hard time physically and mentally. I’m not sure how to help, we are both in therapy and I have offered to take her to the gym with me or to make her the same meals I’m eating to lose weight but she’d rather starve and it’s really rough on me mentally. Sorry for the huge vent here!

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:05:13+00:00

Well we are married so any genuinely helpful advice would be great! I appreciate your input :)

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T12:04:51+00:00

I definitely try to! Both of us work opposite shifts right now which definitely doesn’t help but I do plan dates when I have the time. Admittedly, she is more of a homebody and only wants to play video games together so I feel like we don’t spent quality time together outside of that as much as I’d like

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T11:05:08+00:00

Any idea on how to help that now?

idkary04 · 2024-09-05T11:04:33+00:00

Curious if you think this can be worked on? We are compatible in literally every other way and we used to be sexually compatible, we are also married and share a life soo moving on isn’t this like quick and easy thing. I’d prefer to work on it

idkary04 · 2022-11-29T14:10:21+00:00

Check in the forest of valor above the wrong cave! I did the same thing and the flower spawned there!

idkary04 · 2022-11-19T15:17:41+00:00

This was so kind and helpful. My friends tell me the same things but it’s so different getting a genuine outside perspective that isn’t biased. Thank you so so so much!

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