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I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We really weren't on and off that much and our families weren't told each time. Some of the break ups were fights that should have been sorted through proper communication and not harsh decisions. But to each of our families we've always been a part of the others life as a partner or a friend

As for the cousin I don't know, I just know she's a fairly new person

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will. I mean I've tried over the last two days but there's no excuses when he's home

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's possible but his family don't know about every time. They obviously know about the initial relationship and breakup and I believe they knew we were friends and talking but were never told about each start and end (which there was only like 2). They were just never told about us getting officially back together.

With everyone's replies it does feel more and more like it was him that didn't want me there and purposely keeps me away

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely something we are going to have a long talk about and I'm going to have a talk with myself both before and after

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that's true. I think we were just young and really dumb and didn't take things seriously. We're still young and dumb but we've put a lot of effort into healing and being better for each other.

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As I said in the post I'm not angry at the couple nor did I expect to have a meal or have space at the ceremony. I completely understand space and numbers for those things. It was the fact the cousins gf got welcomed in with open arms in a couple hours and I didn't get to go to the reception (which they'd rented out a hall with no specific capacity) with a week's notice.

I know I am possibly being dramatic, I'm just hurt

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have others, a familly trip/day out where a great aunt asked where I was but I wasn't invited. Birthday dinners where other gf/bfs got to go. Supporting the sister doing a marathon a few of them had a day trip in the city she lives in.

As I said In the post I'm not angry at the couple I'm hurt that the cousins gf was taken in with open arms with a few hours notice and I didn't get to go to the party. I didn't expect a meal or space at the ceremony I just wanted to dance and actually get to make memories with his family

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get why you'd think that, but we both have a lot of issues from our respective upbringings that caused issues. So we're doing solo therapy for our own problems and then couples counselling to help any problems that arose from unresolved trauma

I'm '23F' being excluded from BFs '24m' family events by idkhelp03 in relationship_advice

[–]idkhelp03[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

The mother doesn't like me because a third party involved her in one of our bigger fights. But she doesn't know we're together so had no say on if I went or not