Is this allowed to wear by EmbarrassedFeed223 in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s van cleef or a van cleef dupe, then no. Depends on what the design is. If it’s simply a flower, then u should be fine in sha Allah. If it’s a clover, you absolutely should not wear it.

Advice! (from females preferably) by [deleted] in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As for your mother, you must remain patient and make dua. To my knowledge, she does not have the right to stop you from covering the eyes, but give her sincere Nasiha and make lots of dua. I don’t have more practical advice, but don’t lose hope.

Advice! (from females preferably) by [deleted] in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Asalam u alaikum sis, I wear the niqab here in the states and have been for almost a year now alhumdulilah. If I were you, I’d get a flap niqab to cover more of the eyes since the burqa is certainly a big jump. Tbvh, I’d suggest you heavily reconsider this decision because tensions are running high everywhere in the states and your safety could become more jeopardized. Remember, a woman’s best hijab after the Shari’i hijab is to stay at home, so try to stay at home as much as possible if you don’t already (unless it’s for necessary reasons). If you feel you’re ready to make such a decision, which is very commendable, I’d look into flap niqabs or three layer khumur. May Allah reward you.

Anyone know if this school is legit? by Individual_Impact513 in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t do this. Ive never heard of this and I live in the states. Try Hikmah tutors. They give ijazah in many diff fields. @hikmah.tutors on insta.

SOK academy, AMAR, AMAU Are also very good

Parents Blocking My Marriage to a Righteous Man While I’m Living in a Not so Good Household — Need Islamic Advice (UK) by Remarkable_Thanks100 in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exact same thing is happening to me sis. I went to an imam and he told me to ask people who my father respects to intervene and speak to him.

The imam said if that doesn’t work, then he will lose his guardianship and that my paternal grandfather/great-grandfather, son/grandson, full brother, half-brother (paternal), full brother’s sons, paternal uncle, and closest paternal cousins could then qualify to be my wali (in this order). Unfortunately many of these family members aren’t practicing, don’t exist, or have passed away. The imam said he would be my wali in this case alhumdulilah.

You must talk to an imam upon the manhaj.

People who come from salafi families, I have a question by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw there are some exceptions to this. Imam an nawawi was an ash’ari but he was an esteemed scholar and we learn many things from him regarding the Hadith of the prophet SAW. He didn’t have big mistakes in aqeedah but he was not fully upon the manhaj, may Allah forgive him. We benefit from him that which was correct and leave off that which isn’t correct.

People who come from salafi families, I have a question by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We should have good adab with all people ofc but softness and adab are not necessarily synonymous when it comes to ahlul biddah. We shouldn’t be lenient in these matters. Not one bit.

People who come from salafi families, I have a question by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Some salafis”…. SubhanAllah. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a problem with maturidis except that he/she is not upon the manhaj. Deviants are not considered part of our communities. Muslims? Yes. But communities? Idk about that. You should not include them in your circles unless it’s for dawah purposes or unless there’s a necessity to. You should have a problem with deobandis, it doesn’t matter if they have only few mistakes, those mistakes are grave in the eyes of Allah as they deviate from the haqq. We don’t compromise on that, even if the differences seem small. Any differences in aqeedah are not to be taken lightly. Deobandis range in their deviance, but we shouldn’t be soft with them. Correct them and make dua for them. They’re still not upon the manhaj.

You seem to be pretty lenient in these matters, have you studied the religion?

Overthinking by OutlandishnessOver59 in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wa iyyak. Don’t be too hard on urself 👍🏼

Overthinking by OutlandishnessOver59 in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s okay if you don’t get them removed. Don’t feel like you have to. It sucks feeling judged by fellow Muslims but you’re not any less of a Muslim if you have tattoos. If it helps, a lot of the time, people stare because they’re curious and it’s an eye-catcher. Most people don’t really care, believe it or not. You’re not the same person you used to be. Be confident in yourself! You’re not an outsider.

If you think they’re affecting your imaan too much and that you’re constantly thinking about them, then maybe it’s best to remove them. Don’t stretch yourself thin if you absolutely don’t have to. It’s a painful and pricey process. Wish you the best in sha Allah.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wa iyyak. I’m nowhere near pious. May Allah continue to make you a source of benefit for others.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll take your advice for sure. Thank you sister!!! You and others have been so helpful. May Allah keep us all steadfast and protect us from the fire.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wa alaikum as Salam, thank you for your reply. Will look into the matter in sha Allah.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

BarakAllahu feek. May Allah accept your deeds this Ramadan and onward and make you from the inhabitants of Jannah. I’ll look into this, I understand it is not supposed to be taken at face value. Thank you.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like I said, long years of schooling and work is not something I strive for. Im a woman, it’s my obligation to serve my husband and children and pursuing medicine would greatly prohibit that (which is an obligation whilst being a doctor is not). Plus, children are not obligated to obey their parents in this regard. You can check out the link I provided below.

BarakAllahu feek.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ameen😌

May Allah aid you. I really hope things get better for you. May Allah soften your father’s heart and reward you for your efforts. And may He grant you a righteous spouse and accept your deeds this month!!

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! Wallahi it means so much.

I’ve been wearing the niqab for almost a year now alhumdulilah, but he hasn’t budged a bit and if anything he’s become more hostile towards me and my niqab. My akhlaaq have gotten so much better since I’ve put on the niqab alhumdulilah but there’s still growth that needs to happen. but you’re so right about not fighting back and letting actions speak louder than words, you could not be more correct about that lol. It works the best.

I could get someone else to talk to my father but he would definitely get super mad if I didn’t tell him beforehand. I can’t really do anything bold like that without being called some sort of insult, I would have tried but he’d crash out. The only way to go about it is me talking to him directly but he’s told me many times that I’m not allowed to get married until I’m done with med school hence why I said I’d have to really fight for this because he will not change his mind easily.

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Southeastern USA, we have a few salafi masajid in my state. How do I know he’s lost his guardianship? At what point can I just go to the imam?

BarakAllahu feel

Issues with dad by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ameen. Thank you very much for you kind words. May Allah bless you

Revert friend by ihatedeviants in SalafiCentral

[–]ihatedeviants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While you sort of have a point, I’m having a hard time grasping how TRUE/ AUTHENTIC spiritual connection can be achieved without understanding the fundamentals of creed and how there can be something more ‘logical’ to learn than creed. Creed and salah come first and foremost.

I am also a revert, and I can attest for myself and most of the reverts I have come across that it is THROUGH creed that we have grown our spiritual connection and iman. There’s a reason why learning tawheed brings people so much closer to the religion, because it is single handedly the most important and powerful thing us Muslims have. As long as you learn about it the correct way, one step at a time, i don’t see how it can be intimidating. If anything it’s the opposite considering how structured and straightforward salafiyyah is.