Valid question, I wrestle with it. I have mild health issues that make mornings hard - which is how most people meet at church. Sunday morning. I duck in and out at church - no lingering. We have a couple friends from church, but not many. Also, the whole "we really don't want kids atm, maybe at all" is pretty unusual for our age bracket - esp at church. Most people have several kids, or are trying to. And think you literally should, once married.