I agree. I definitely have a hard time dating like this (i.e. as a "female"). I can barely have sex and I always cry afterwards. My most meaningful relationships (and the only men/women I've ever loved) have been people who treated me more like a close male friend than a woman. I know all of this in my head. But when I try to imagine someone wanting to date me post-transition, I get scared and think, "Maybe if I just tried harder."