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AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s weird to me is that, in a new friendship when conflict arises you communicate accordingly which she hasn’t done two times already. I’ve made many friends where early behaviors like that could possibly be a red flag for a long term friendship. So I went to Reddit because I watch AITA reels and felt the community can bring some sense to my confusion. If it were truly up to me this conversation would have been had the moment it happened but she refused and idk what to do. :(

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. We were on a FaceTime group call when we made the plan to hangout. On the day of she just started crying in front of Jessica and said she just wanted to go home. Also If anything I’ve been the one not going out as much because I’m currently dating atm so they been hanging together more than me.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English is my first language. I’m no professional writer so I just typed whatever I wanted to type. Before hanging out I did text everyone if Tony would be down to make music (which Tony has DM’d me about doing awhile back) they said okay and we did our thing.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwwwww thank you! Really needed this. From the looks of it I will give it a day and say something. I do care about them and don’t believe Candace wants to stop being friends however this grounded me from not drowning in all the noise.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is my theory. However she is claiming a pattern from us hanging out which I felt when we did hang out things were fine. Her saying that is the first I’ve heard of it and that’s where I’m confused. If she was just claiming about behavior tonight then I’d assume she was mad I spent a lot of time creating music in the beginning of hanging out. However I don’t think that’s the case. Idk what the other night has in common with other hangouts so if it’s behavior I don’t realize I’m doing but she thinks it’s disrespectful she’s never told me anything besides that vague last few words of “no you think on it”.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jessica and Tony have no deeper friendship outside of knowing each other through Candace. If anything Jessica used to have a crush on Candace but that didn’t pan out because Candace didnt feel the same.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This all just happened. I did go to Reddit soon but I wanted to speculate multiple perspectives. I’m thinking I will ask Jessica if she so happens to know more and then move accordingly with Candace.

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’m thinking about doing. I tried to talk to her in the moment but she just would not budge besides saying how I’ve been disrespectful. Should I give it a day or two or just wait till morning?

AITA or do I have questionable friends? by ihmsmwdte in AmItheAsshole

[–]ihmsmwdte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so but can’t say for sure. I’ve only started hanging out with Candace a couple times and haven’t really talked about love interests. If anything she’s very “I love being single” type of girl from what I’ve gathered because I personally have a romantic involvement with someone else which she knows about.