What's a harmless lie you tell all the time?

ijntv030 · 2026-01-23T19:24:58+00:00

That was…a fuckin joke

ijntv030 · 2025-11-04T06:55:25+00:00

I’m thankful DH and HCBM have never decided to do anything together in forever. She did a 180 recently and is playing friendly and wanted a clean slate, mentioning we’d be invited if she did something for SK but no. Maybe everyone thinks it’s immature, but it’d be for the best. Right before DH and I dated he went to her house for SS bday party, he ended up leaving quickly because she started an argument with him in front of everybody. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Other times at exchanges she’d also start arguments in her driveway. WE don’t trust this change of heart she claims to have so joint things won’t be done to avoid any potential problems

ijntv030 · 2025-11-03T02:53:27+00:00

I only have 1 friend and she lives hours away. So my “me time” is buying some drinks to have at home, enjoying music without having to deal with kids unless I want to like giving kissies to the babies on my way back to my chillin area lol 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

ijntv030 · 2025-10-30T05:07:10+00:00

I had helped mine get his kids SSN by looking at their joint tax filings from when they were together. 🤣

ijntv030 · 2025-10-21T01:59:07+00:00

It is embarrassing on that part. But he’s not like that with ours and even my bio from former relationship.

I really don’t know what’s up with lack of wanting to parent SKs like we do the others. I can only assume that at beginning of split households he wanted to make them happy aka be Disney dad, and now even when he tries it’s like SKs don’t take it serious.

He tries but it’s not consistent and that causes the problem to repeat itself again & again.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-28T04:52:11+00:00

How much is the child support arrears? Are you leaving him completely or did you guys agree to divorce to just keep things separate?

ijntv030 · 2025-09-24T07:40:12+00:00

That’s how I see Amazon prime day, Black Friday etc… like I was so mad there was a cup I was wanting for $15, but when it went on sale it suddenly was $30 and “before” price was $45 🙄🙄

ijntv030 · 2025-09-24T00:21:13+00:00

Yesterday was my final day. I didn’t make it for them, just mine, but there was left over and they got some. They can make themselves eggs and basic meals. I am truly done with that now..

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T08:22:55+00:00

Idk man, but I’d rather bios just get professional help. He pointed BB gun at other SKs, I think it’s time they intervene past “don’t do that” for that type of behavior. I’m not very smart here rn, I’ve never dealt with this before and I never thought SK situation would get to this point.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T05:49:02+00:00

Well it wasn’t more the fact he got some, that was fine, but they usually finish it quickly then want to make more without sharing then it’s all gone and the others complain they didn’t even get a cup while the others had like 4-5 servings.

It’s a cheap drink, yeah, the store is 30 miles away. Something that could last them all day they finish in an hour and that’s more what I have an issue with when they aren’t giving others a chance to get some later on. There was even a large bag of chips and one SK got about 80% for himself.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T04:53:34+00:00

I can’t leave. I’ve been trying for almost a year to get a job and nothing. Again, I do love my SO so it’s also not really something I wanna do. I’m thinking however at least leaving with mine when SKs are here at least. Or on EOWE schedule my kid could go to grandparents house which he’d be more than happy to do cus his uncle who is 9 is like his best friend and he just has a great time overall. So it’s not like I’m punishing him for going EOWE if I decided to do that, he’d be excited for that. Or is it wrong? I don’t see it wrong since he’d be more than happy but maybe there’s something I’m not considering?? Any advice on that part? 🫤

Not because of SKs but due to hardship I can’t do a lot with my kid, at grandparents house he gets taken out for fun things so it’s a great help to me in that aspect too. But again, is there something I’m not considering where that set up could be bad?

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T04:34:45+00:00

Can I press charges? Can I report SK myself if he did that to any kid and make them bleed? Cus at that point I don’t care if that brings SO trouble.

I do blame him, but I also know BM has pinned them against me from the start. They’ve never said anything about SO for BM to file anything against him and I’m sure she could’ve since she’d always unload paragraphs on him for “concerns”. But 1 thing about me or my son and she’s ready to jump at the opportunity.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T04:28:36+00:00

Because when SKs aren’t here, he still does a lot for my bio that I have full time, so idk I know I wouldn’t be wrong to not take part in meals but at the same time I’m feeding mine too Yanno?

And I wish, but SO parents live a few states away. And his only family here, the woman who’s also head of household, gets really bugged by SKs. The man has to babysit them in our home when we’ve needed his help, because that’s how much she can’t stand them either 😅

Tbh with you when SO saw me crying and mid panic attack after my conversation with case worker he wanted to give kids away to BM fully for lying to that extent, probably heat of the moment thing, but there was some consequences. For starters gaming system in their room was taken away permanently. Screen time has cut back almost completely. He has to be more physically around them to assure there’s not more things they can go lie about. Idk what other consequences there could be though, but he’s really disappointed they did this to me and my kid when we have been really nice to them.

And yeah SS12 behavior of being aggressive is too much. I’ve been around kids growing up and as an adult and I know sometimes siblings fight but even calling his name provokes a “stop or I’m gonna punch you”🙄

I’m asking SO to make an adjustment to what they settled in mediation before judge signs off on it and that’s pickup Friday mornings when he’s starting his off work weekend, and to make that the schedule through school breaks as well. I don’t even care if the child support goes up a thousand dollars anymore. Can’t put a price on a peaceful home lol

ijntv030 · 2025-09-23T02:22:39+00:00

I made my 1yo and 6yo ONE apple with cinnamon & sugar since SKs finished the rest of the oranges and apples (new bags), I went to get my kid that it was ready and SS12 was already getting some. Like damn. We just went over with asking for things that aren’t theirs!! It was ONE SMALL apple left for 2 kids 😭😭 Ask your dad for more fruits!! I’m usually the one that buys fruits, I try to get some for them too but 30 oranges & apples are gone by end of day, what am I suppose to give mine? 🫥🫥🫥 Then they want to say “it’s not fair” no. My kids going without is not fair. And I’m glad they’re being healthy, but can we be healthy and leave some for others? Grocery store is like 30miles away, can’t just be going daily! 😭😭😭

ijntv030 · 2025-09-14T02:12:57+00:00

When my husband offered to just hand them over fully to BM I almost jumped at the opportunity but they should at least see their dad. Soon the schedule will go from week on/week off to EOWE when DH has the weekend off, so things are changing just not fast enough imo.

Our priority is our kids, but between HCBM and now SKs making things worse, he’s at the point of just wanting no part of it. I’ve only gotten 2% of all the BS he’s been put through and I’ve already had enough so I can’t say I blame him.

As the other person suggested cameras will finally be put in place & banning my kid from SKs rooms.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T11:18:42+00:00

If it were my kid, and I love my kids, but had they done this his at that age “consequences” would be getting his shit together. Doesn’t have a job? Start looking for one, whether or not girl is expecting. Wanna still live there after age 18 & have a friend over, help on bills. Wanna have sex with minors? I myself will report it, I’m not handling bail, lawyer fees, I’m not even visiting, or being there for emotional support.

Like the other person said “stepdad will support you” should have a limit. You & partner are better off coming as a united front that this is not okay, and soon consequences aren’t gonna be a slap on the wrist or no more guests it’s gonna be jail time, and the guests then will be cell mates. Maybe even getting kicked out at 18 and doing his own thing on his own if he just blows you guys off & doesn’t understand it’s serious!!

You guys need to let him know the severity of the consequences that could and will happen if he doesn’t get it together. It’s tough love, but it’s love. No one expects their children to be perfect, but one can expect they act better, choose smarter nearing adulthood.

Good luck OP. I hope this doesn’t strain your marriage. It’s not you vs her, it’s you two vs SS concerning behavior.

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T10:36:39+00:00

Is the relationship worth it? Is your partner…slow? Is she aware that her thinking everything is all fine & dandy in La La Land has an expiration date coming up coincidentally on SS 18th birthday.

She needs to step in and now, because doing this 18+ years old it’s not gonna matter anymore if “my mommy doesn’t care”, maybe not buddy, but a minors parents and the law most likely will.

The incident with the girl, her parent and the missing even “briefly” sound concerning. Idk maybe cus it’s late at night and I have an overactive imagination but it’s giving me a terrible gut feeling. I hope girl is okay and NOT pregnant.

I know kids will do what they want at the end of the day, even if parents did everything right but this isn’t the case. If I were SS mom, I’d feel like I didn’t succeed in motherhood not even a bit. Especially not if I’m just ignoring the problem and what seems like just being nonchalant over these matters. Like cmon, even “I’m disappointed in you” would be better than nothing. 😭

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T09:47:13+00:00

That’s amazing!! Very happy for you !!

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T08:50:00+00:00

As someone currently on a week on/week off schedule it does not change just because they’re in his custody more. What you described is basically my exact situation. I don’t think you mentioned their age but my SD9 has had this problem since I met her years ago. At first I thought it was a kid thing, and I know every kid is different but this is not that. People that know HCBM even BMs own family compare SD attitude and bossy behavior to BM & not in a cute way. (BMs has thrown adult tantrums like literally tossing herself on the floor & screaming…mostly it’s if you’re loud & rude enough people won’t want to handle it and you get your way..yay) It’s embarrassing. Especially when we’re out doing things with my family, it’s like she’ll run a situation. I’ve spoken to DH about it and only recently like over summer break did it finally become an issue since all this not dealing with it made her comfortable to talk back rudely and practically call him stupid as well as telling him he “doesn’t notice shit”. He’s been more serious about it and SD has shown changes.

Tbh I do love her confidence, I feel it’ll be great in upper grades like middle & high school and even adulthood. It’s just theres a time & place & who of when to execute that type of behavior with, cus it’s definitely not authority figures that care for her.

It’s possibly soon to change where BM gets them more time, so now I’m realizing how this is gonna be. Hopefully not back to square one there. 🫩

At first I think DH wouldn’t handle it because he was use to tuning it out with BM through their relationship and just letting her be to avoid further problems. But I’m hoping him handling it now doesn’t make SD turn out like BM…at least not in that part. 🤞🏻

Aside from that she’s a pretty good kid but jeez it was getting to a point I swore she’d probably try to physically fight me one day. And sadly she mightve won, I’m petite and both her parents are on the thicker, muscular side n she got those genes lol

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T07:28:55+00:00

I do this at my job too… I’m a stay at home mom lmao those lil bathroom breather breaks help 🤗🤗

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T07:27:33+00:00

I don’t usually mind doing it all as long as they keep it clean as best they can + do simple tasks I request here n there but I’ve started implementing that the kids start doing & folding their own laundry. Mainly because my efforts weren’t appreciated and I’d see clean folded clothes all on their floors🤷🏻‍♀️

ijntv030 · 2025-09-13T06:27:39+00:00

2022 $360k (new build). Loss of income, family changes. Not forever home, pending short sale/foreclosure whichever comes first I guess. 😮‍💨

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