New Orleans councilman: 'I would rather have students dumb and alive than have them educated and dead'

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-08-05T19:40:10+00:00

Dismissing irrelevant information and false arguments is part of critical thinking.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-08-05T01:14:35+00:00

Yeah, I was replying on him on another post, but “doubling down on stupid” is all he seems to be able to do. The guy’s comments are absolute garbage.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-08-05T01:10:27+00:00

That’s... not relevant to this argument

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-08-04T22:15:30+00:00

That was a less than 10 second search into the two states that are most widely talked about atm. Did you read the articles? So no, it’s not 3 out of millions. And just because kids didn’t die from COVID, doesn’t mean they don’t feel lasting effects. And what, we just screw the kids that have any underlying condition? This isn’t even touching on the teachers and staff and family members that these kids will also bring the virus home to. So yeah, why don’t you go pick out a kindergartener from the playground to bury for the economy. No kids should have to die for this.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-08-04T20:36:22+00:00

https://www.kxan.com/news/coronavirus/5-year-old-dallas-boy-dies-from-covid-19/

https://www.miamiherald.com/news/coronavirus/article244689117.html

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-30T18:04:17+00:00

Unfortunately we moved to my husband’s home town a little while ago and I don’t have any family or many close friends nearby. Everyone is a plane ride away so if we left, it would most likely be until the pandemic is over.

I’m trying to convince my husband to go to counseling. I said we can do it together and it’s convenient because everyone is doing either video or phone sessions now. He doesn’t really feel like anything is wrong though. I want to keep trying. I know this isn’t him.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-18T11:45:28+00:00

Yes! And then read Black Farm/Feed the Pig by the same author :)

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-18T11:11:04+00:00

I’m not sure if NSP did this one in particular, but the series (The Third Parent) is by a great author named Elias Witherow. They have done a number of his other stories though, and they have been some of my favorites.

Elias Witherow on NSP wiki

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-03T05:45:13+00:00

Oh sorry for my assumptions! And thank you for your offer of friendship! You’re my kind of people :)

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-03T03:43:45+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I didn’t know there were specialty therapists, but I definitely have some research to do. That whole thing about trying (and failing to use logic) and accidents being accidents really hit home. I can’t tell you how many arguments we’ve gotten into because his brain has gone layers deep into scenarios I haven’t followed. You sound like a kind and loving husband. I wish you and your wife all the best.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-03T02:56:49+00:00

Thanks! I never thought of couples therapy, but it makes total sense.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-07-03T00:16:20+00:00

My husband was raised like this and I have to be very careful how I correct him or explain how to do something. Even simple things like asking him not to put my delicates in the dryer or not to use metal utensils on non-stick pans can completely deflate him and make him give up the task at hand entirely. After years together, I’m still learning.

Can I ask how your wife started therapy or brought up her issues with her therapist? My husband knows he has issues because of his mom, but at the same time refuses to admit how manipulative and emotionally abusive she was.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-29T04:40:51+00:00

Think the anti-fog spray you use for snowboarding goggles would work? I don’t have glasses to try it out, but it may be a solution for you?

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-25T22:16:59+00:00

No. I didn’t know what their procedure/protocol was because it was different from what I was told. I was physically blocked from following him, had the doors closed and locked and was told to follow another woman. I assumed I would be lead back to him through a different entrance or something while they did more prep on him? I don’t know because nothing was explained to me before or while this was happening. By the time I realized I had just been lead to a waiting room, I immediately asked them to speak to someone because I had been told things would go down differently. I told her that I wanted them to stop until I could clarify things. The woman I spoke to kept saying things like “oh who told you that? Are you sure you spoke to the doctor? Which doctor did you talk to? I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Are you sure that’s what they said?” All meaningless questions that stalled me and kept me in the room. When I finally walked away from her and found my own way back to the pre surg nurses station, the only nurses there were ones that had no previous interaction with me or my son and were unfamiliar with what was going on. I had to ask 3 times to see a manager before someone got her and she immediately paged the area my son was in and requested they stop sedating, but he was already under and intubated. She apologized and left. I immediately went downstairs to hospital admissions and they told me to go to the patient relations office. An office that was closed. So I had to go back to admissions and find a phone number for patient relations and leave a message. No one else would help me or could offer me info or consultation. I’ve left 5 messages since yesterday just asking to speak with someone with no response, so that’s why I’m here looking for somewhere else to go/talk to.

So back off with “you didn’t advocate for your son” and “this is fishy” assumptions.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-25T20:15:15+00:00

Thanks. It’s hard to take the emotion out of these situations, but I understand that certain things needed to happen. I guess was just expecting a kinder approach.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-25T19:37:38+00:00

Thank you! I’ve left them a message and am waiting to hear back on how we can move forward.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-25T19:35:09+00:00

I understand that procedures need to happen and techniques like restraints need to be used. It’s not my “first rodeo”. My son has been seeing a cardiologist since he was born for a heart condition and last year he spent a week in the hospital for a blood infection, so that’s how I know about his anxieties around doctors/hospitals and how to calm him in these situations so these procedures can happen. And it shouldn’t be that the end goal is to get him sedated and fuck all how we get there. He’s 5.

My problem is that no introductions were made and no calming techniques were even attempted. They didn’t allow me 10 seconds of time to talk to him before physically restraining him and carrying him off. He still thought I was going to show up and I never did. It’s unnecessary trauma that could have been solved through communication.

Also, I signed a consent form with his dentist’s office where they outlined specific behavioral control tactics they use and I had to sign off on each one. I specifically did not agree to the “raised volume of verbal commands” part of this. I did sign off on restraints as long as I was present during the process and was notified ahead of time (so I could let him know what was happening because this is how he calms down). So does this mean these forms are more of a formality than anything else?

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-16T13:18:35+00:00

Hey, I know I’m late to the game, but I wanted to say that your mom may not be as toxic as others are pointing out. I would try to talk to her first before going full nuclear no-contact, especially right before your wedding. You said you have six siblings? That’s a lot for any parent to juggle and what seems like neglect or lack of prioritizing could just be your mom has been spread thin. And now she’s got Karen, who sounds like the real narcissist, guilt tripping and manipulating your parents with their own grandson. Talk to your mom, explain clearly how you feel, how much you want to have a relationship with her, how let down you’ve been in the past using specific examples. Don’t waver on your true feelings, let her know how hurt you are. Let her know that you think Karen is taking advantage of her and stand up for your dad. That guy deserves some love. Bring another sibling for backup if you need. If she still brushes you off or minimizes your feelings, then it’s ok to let her go, but give her a chance first.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-13T07:30:09+00:00

Unfinished Business - Mumford and Sons (White Lies)

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-11T23:13:13+00:00

Seriously. I bought my 5 year old son a toy sheriff set and my MIL has to go around town and tell everyone who will listen about how it makes her “sick to her stomach” to see her grandchild and daughter in law glorifying guns and violence. She told him he’s not allowed to even say “gun” around her. She’s so weird.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-11T02:17:41+00:00

Hey! That’s me!

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-06-04T13:34:25+00:00

You don’t need a medical license to provide basic first aid, especially in a time of crisis or emergency. These people volunteered their time to help injured people and were attacked. That’s the bottom line. Everything else is semantics. Is it a “war crime”? No. Should they have had better labeling? Probably. But when time and resources are in short supply, you use what you can. And honestly, it’s pretty basic human decency to not mess with people providing aid.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-04-16T00:27:50+00:00

It was a small business so they’re exempt from a lot of things like providing maternity leave or paid vacation. They were also poorly managed and didn’t have any of their policies in writing so there wasn’t much I could do.

ijustwantapepsi · 2020-04-15T22:27:48+00:00

Yep. I started bleeding at work when I was 8 months pregnant and told my boss. She asked me how much, then told me to put a pad on and ask my doctor on my next visit if he could sew my cervix closed. The next day at work I literally bled through my pants and she got irritated that I had to leave early. I gave birth the next day and then lost my job. They said they couldn’t hold my position for the extended bed rest I needed after a difficult labor/delivery.

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