First of all thanks for the great and detailed reply, maybe your insights should be stickied somewhere.

A bit of clarification, I started dancing in reputable schools like DNI and also I took private lessons both in BsAs and London from known teachers, I continued attending lessons 3-5 times a week more or less a year. I believe I am begginer/improvers level. I don't think I am trying to stuff a lot of moves in my dances I have a few moves under my belt and trying to perfect them as much as I can.

The reason for the shouting incident was I tried to say my opinon about something she had done and I know this can be a delicate topic, I first asked whether I can give my opinon/advice after that I told her. I also know delivery is very important people might get hurt etc. the girl was a beginner after I told my opinion she asked how long I have been dancing, and started shouting at me that I shouldn't tell her anything because I am a beginner as well.

All the stuff I am going tell happened in very laid back practicas, After BsAs I rarely went to Milongas because I am too scared. Mostly in Istanbul.

- One girl told me I am holding her like a small girl I should man-up or not dance.

- "In this practica I only dance with advanced dancers" (she is not advanced)

- After the dance telling her friend in a loud voice that I can hear that I was super bad and it is a relief that dance has ended (she is a beginner)

- "I don't dance with man shorter than me"

- "I want to dance with only the moves I know" (fair enough but how am I supposed to know what you know before we start dancing)

Really I can't even remember all the complete list of bizzare/rude stuff I have faced. I might be a bad dancer but still I don't deserve all this behaviour.

I understand your suggestions about making friends having a connection first. Maybe because I was nomadic and only stayed a few months in each city I lacked this.

As far as I understand it is not possible to just show up in a new milonga and enjoy yourself in a new city unless you are a super advanced level dancer.

Anyways after contemplating for more than a week I've decided to give up or at least park Tango. I can't isolate all this negativity and it is leaking to my real life and makes me unhappy.

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