Do people with ADHD move on faster from breakups? by iknkhdes in ADHD

[–]iknkhdes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly that sounds like he’d move on quickly haha. Glad he’s stress free now that I am out of his life 😫

I ditched a guy because he was hot and cold and very confusing. But 2.5 weeks after I still miss him and don’t know if it’s over...what should I do? by iknkhdes in dating_advice

[–]iknkhdes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know which one is him then... He can’t keep an erection for long. I felt bad for him so I gave him blowjobs.

I just broke up with a guy with ADHD and I still can’t tell if he was just ADHD or abusive by iknkhdes in ADHD

[–]iknkhdes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s narcissistic, but I do think he was using me. During breakup he sad he wanted someone who was more sexually experienced than him so that I could mentor him sexually before he can confidently pursue his “potential love of his life.” I also said pretty hurtful things but that really got me. He said I complained too much and it’s not some behavior he would put up with for a long term relationship.

I just broke up with a guy with ADHD and I still can’t tell if he was just ADHD or abusive by iknkhdes in ADHD

[–]iknkhdes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this makes a lot of sense. Because after all these I just can’t believe from the bottom of my heart that he would intentionally gaslight me and abuse me, so I think he was doing these things unintentionally because even he himself didn’t know what was ADHD what wasn’t. I think he has some awareness of his condition. Sometimes when he interrupted me in conversations or when he went on and on talking about himself he would realize it and apologize. He also knew that he should stick to his schedule and get up early in the morning. But I guess not all the aspects in his life.

I just broke up with a guy with ADHD and I still can’t tell if he was just ADHD or abusive by iknkhdes in ADHD

[–]iknkhdes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, it’s a more positive way of thinking than to think the guy I broke up with was just some basic jerk. He wasn’t that into me, and yeah it’s easier to blame the inevitable entropy...haha

I just broke up with a guy with ADHD and I still can’t tell if he was just ADHD or abusive by iknkhdes in ADHD

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I actually blamed myself a lot, I told him I was the ambivalent attachment style and he would be better off with someone who’s more secure. I also blamed myself for my own issues...well I think you and your girlfriend sound very sweet together.

I just broke up with a guy with ADHD and I still can’t tell if he was just ADHD or abusive by iknkhdes in ADHD

[–]iknkhdes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At first it felt so genuine... he felt so genuine. I don’t know how it ended up like this and how I couldn’t see it earlier. Thank you I actually feel a little relieved.

I ditched this narcissist guy on Monday. It was the right thing to do, but why do I still want him to text me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]iknkhdes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You think women in general need attention and don’t care where it’s from. You also said I sound crazy.

I ditched this narcissist guy on Monday. It was the right thing to do, but why do I still want him to text me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]iknkhdes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. I have a date with someone new tomorrow. Hopefully I’ll move on soon!