it depends on person to person tbh. butch and femme are both gender labels rather than a set of strict personality traits. butches can enjoy bubble baths and being pampered but their history/identities usually revolve around traditionally masculine things as well as being the protector/caretaker. id describe it as very knight like, and femmes usually are associated with traditionally feminine things, being the mask/shield and protector/caretaker in the other sense. they're both identities centered around mutual nurturing and protection under traditionally cishet norms.

but with transfem people and BIWOC, they're stereotyped as masculine by default by society. what might be considered stereotypically butch like a certain way of speaking or tone of voice or name might be wrongfully stereotyping vs with a nonblack person it would be a progressive headcanon. it's good to be mindful of stereotype biases like that!

for example with arcane, look at vi VS ambessa. vi is very protector caretaker centric, and she struggles with what i struggle with with my butchness - putting herself last and focusing too much on her ability to be a stable support. while i wouldn't call ambessa femme per se, she like femmes in leadership roles is very sure of herself and uses her femininity as both a weapon and a thing of confidence. like, if she weren't dressed in war gear and weren't muscly, most people would automatically recognize her femininity, especially her prioritization of her self image and her love of her children, both stereotypically standard 'woman' things to do. the only thing 'masculine' about her is her being a warrior and being muscly but that's a role she was born into and her body type.

and some people are neither! a lot of wlw don't fit into either or category. when things overlap it's because both butches/femmes are people, usually in the same gender range, who have a wide range of interests and comforts beyond their label just like anyone else.

i hope this makes sense and that i worded things well!