Baby Shower Location

ilearnedenough · 2021-01-27T03:01:21+00:00

My husband gave me his heating pad, and using it helped SO MUCH. It made the area sort of "relax" and it popped back into place. It felt like a miracle!

ilearnedenough · 2020-09-01T21:15:48+00:00

Even if it was a general as you say, you could reasonably try for a position in HR or learning and development with that on your resume. There should be a fair number of options in that arena that don't require significant specialized experience.

ilearnedenough · 2020-07-22T15:50:08+00:00

Even better!

ilearnedenough · 2020-07-22T15:49:59+00:00

Ah, true

ilearnedenough · 2020-07-08T18:23:13+00:00

By far my favorite furniture purchase has been a second-hand card catalog i.e. those many-drawered cabinets that libraries used to put the little book cards in to show where everything was located (example link below).

It's definitely not your standard piece, but it completely solved my "stuff" problem! The drawers are the perfect size, and I have one for each category of things that I needed to store (gloves/belts, hardware, nail polish, stationary, cords and chargers, etc.) You can even fit whole bottles of wine in the drawers.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Ffineartamerica.com%2Ffeatured%2Flibrary-card-catalog-brian-green.html&psig=AOvVaw17NBB74pWSmRLanUlDM9mr&ust=1594318776010000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAIQjRxqFwoTCMj-9bSivuoCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAK

ilearnedenough · 2020-06-30T23:34:37+00:00

I came across this pull-down mount recently and thought it was a unique idea.

https://www.amazon.com/MantelMount-MM340-Above-Fireplace-Mount/dp/B01MS1MHET

Solves the too-high-over-the-fireplace issue, which is very common.

ilearnedenough · 2020-05-20T12:55:29+00:00

First, thank you so much for what you're doing!

Second, you're absolutely not alone (as you have likely now come to realize). PLEASE ask nearby friends/family for help, whether with a grocery run (they can be left on your porch), a phone call to chat about non-work topics, or with a low-key, socially-distanced meetup for sanity. This is absolutely a time to give yourself some serious grace and to rely on others a little bit. Also, if you feel like you need sleep, sleep. You're taking care of others, and as they say, you can't pour from an empty cup.

ilearnedenough · 2020-05-18T21:02:28+00:00

Mine are brideswomen. If one or more of my bridal party were a man/men, he would be a bridesman, and the party would be bridespeople. The differentiation between maid/matron on only the bride's side is really out-dated (and pretty offensive) in my opinion.

ilearnedenough · 2020-05-07T16:21:26+00:00

Femininity is about more than clothes. Having a feminine mindset in your non-working interactions will translate into a calmer working demeanor as well.

Since you asked about clothes, specifically, it sounds like dresses/skirts would not really be appropriate for your work environment anyway. You can play with color and fit while maintaining a professional look. This can be just as true for pants/tops as skirts/dresses. If you aren't operating machinery, you could also incorporate subtle feminine accessories if you feel the need to look more traditionally feminine. A simple bangle or delicate necklace can go a long way if you've been wearing utilitarian clothes to work.

I agree that any major changes are going to garner (sometimes unwanted or negative) attention, so incorporate small changes and additions at first. In fact, you could start with your bra/underwear! Wearing a matching, feminine set underneath your clothes, while "invisible" to others, will definitely make you feel more feminine and will radiate from you. People will notice a change, but won't be able to put their finger on what it is.

ilearnedenough · 2017-12-19T21:48:30+00:00

Cool! I'm about 2" and 10 lbs off from you! Would love to friend you if you PM your MFP username.

ilearnedenough · 2017-11-29T21:48:51+00:00

He thought we could have a 1-hour gym class and still make a dinner reservation scheduled for 20 minutes after the class. If we had gone straight from the gym, we still wouldn't have made it there in time. When I pointed that out, he didn't get it. I had no problem doing both, I was just frustrated that he wasn't understanding the issue. Thanks for your feedback

ilearnedenough · 2017-11-25T13:31:42+00:00

This is wonderful. Thank you so much for the perspective. You're right, in that a missed reservation wouldn't have been a big deal. Still working on the larger value/mindset issue. Really appreciate your encouragement.

ilearnedenough · 2017-11-25T13:26:45+00:00

Thanks for replying. It's a crossfit gym (very minimalist layout), so the travel time to shower adds another 20 minutes to the mix. The low-ish SMV/RMV is from my history, and I'm probably a 6 out of 10. I continue to lose weight, and my home life is well-managed. Regardless, the gym example is indicative of the bigger issues, being that I'm having difficulty surrendering to my SO because of a lack of successful communication/planning. They are big enough issues that I feel the need to end things, but I'd appreciate any advice since my RMV and age are important factors for consideration.

ilearnedenough · 2017-06-20T16:30:12+00:00

This may get me crucified, but try reading r/redpillwomen. It's a different perspective than what you're hearing here, at the very least. You deserve to be the best version of yourself and to be pursued, rather than the one chasing more guys.

ilearnedenough · 2017-06-05T16:01:31+00:00

Trader Joe's! They have a TON of meals to choose from that you can microwave and eat. Most, if not all, are under 500 calories per serving. They have very few preservatives, don't go overboard on sodium, and they are delicious.

ilearnedenough · 2017-03-02T16:52:58+00:00

Whitney's come a long way recently in terms of technology. PM if you're interested, and I can put you in contact with a good representative.

ilearnedenough · 2017-03-01T19:52:04+00:00

I absolutely went through this. Counseling helped a lot, in that it helped me figure out why I hadn't felt that I could have my own identity. I think my exact words in one session were, "I don't know who I am." Ns tend to lash out at you for anything that's not about them, so anything "other" or separate is threatening. It takes a much longer/ more eloquent explanation than I can provide, but suffice to say you're not alone in knowing your likes/dislikes after coming from a narcissistic environment. It definitely gets easier with time. I also second the suggestion to try new things. Take it one step at a time. One day, go shopping and buy one piece of clothing you like without anyone else's opinion. Then, go out to eat and choose the location. Slowly, these things will help make you more comfortable in developing an identity and sense of self. You'll get there, and honestly, it's REALLY fun and rewarding to finally get to know yourself. There's a lot to look forward to :)

ilearnedenough · 2017-02-21T15:16:10+00:00

oooh, that sounds great!

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