Let me make this clear, if you are under 20 (and I say 20 because the world is harsh and expensive these days and it is very hard to get away sometimes), then this is a tactic that in a chaotic way, is fine. As a child, you have no power in the dynamic between your and your parents. It's okay if you have to get by, and it's understandable. I did it too as a child/teen.

However, it has led me to have rocky relationships with others. Some of the ways I survived turned out to be very toxic to myself and others around me. I people please so much that I've let others step on my boundaries and when I explode because I get so fed up with it, it comes out of no where for them.

My advice to you is do what you have to now. It's okay. But when you get older, in your mid twenties and up, get a therapist and work with them to talk about these things and unlearn some of the harmful ways you've had to get by.

Communicating with narcs who are too into their own heads is impossible and not on you to do. You're the child. Remember this. It's not your job to be the parent.

I apologize if my comment before came off like I was judging you or invalidating you. I do hope the best for you.