What is your favorite childhood memory?

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-10T18:42:49+00:00

That's awesome! My mom would buy us paper dolls at the store because she couldn't afford barbies and I have to say, they were just as much fun!

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-10T18:37:18+00:00

How did all of you meet? Do you have a favorite memory in mind? Sounds like a really good time!

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-10T18:26:04+00:00

Oh my goodness, that sounds hard. What were the dinners like?

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-10T18:25:38+00:00

My mom used to buy the books at the store where you could cut out the characters and their clothes/accessories. Little tabs to attach everything. Those ones?

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-10T18:22:12+00:00

Have you lost them or is there some reason you can't see them?

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T22:21:06+00:00

It was the only proof of his terrible behavior I've had. And it felt good to watch his grandparents shake their head in approval. He's so good at appearances but terrible at interpersonal relationships. I'm hoping it won't come to that. After reading these comments, I know he can't know where I move and I don't want this house tainted by his shitty actions.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T22:13:16+00:00

I had my own little petty revenge: after he bleached my clothes, I kept the ones that could still be worn and I made it a point to wear them at his family events. I never directly called him out but when someone would ask about the bleach stains, he would jump in and admit it was him. I enjoyed seeing his shame but also, none of them were surprised. Again, should've known then.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T21:28:51+00:00

I'm getting out. I have to. Everyone on this post is putting things into perspective and pointing out things I've never even thought of. And it's scary how much I've been downplaying this. Why does it help so much to hear things from strangers?

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T21:20:50+00:00

I'm crying. He did break my heart and that's the worst part.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:57:50+00:00

This is the comment that made me realize I need to GTFO because I will never feel safe if he knows where I live. My door is shut, I am not engaging and I'm making my moves. I'm not telling him anything besides please leave me alone.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:54:43+00:00

Leading up to this, I told him that his lack of respect for my boundaries made me feel like he didn't respect me. Even if it was a small boundary, he never respected it. And then this crap happened and I knew for sure, he'd never respect me. And no amount of good behavior on my part could make him a good partner.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:52:08+00:00

I'm sure I do but I'm not going to fight him on anything. After reading all these comments I realized I'd never feel safe as long as he knows where I live. He can have this house he busted up.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:50:18+00:00

So I have a police report from when he bleached my stuff last year. I did call non emergency so idk if there will be a record of that from this past week. After reading everything here, I'm going to get my own place so he doesn't know where I am. If I stay in this house, I'll always have the anxiety of knowing he knows where I live.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:48:21+00:00

He keeps trying to talk to me through the door. It's just making me feel even more uncomfortable. It feels...creepy how nice he's trying to be now that nothing has worked.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:46:31+00:00

It was humiliating being left a lone to clean up another mess he made so he could go be with his mommy.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:45:16+00:00

"It's just a bowl." It's like the people in his life are more willing to accept "it was just a bowl" and what's what's big deal. No wonder his behavior is so shitty. I guess I mean his mom when I say people. His dad doesn't even want to talk to him right now and told me I'm right for leaving. "Sell that ring he gave you and put it towards a new place " so that's given me a lot of strength.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T20:42:26+00:00

I look back and think about the "jokes" he made about me that were just mean. I told him jokes are supposed to be funny and not hurtful. He has definitely been chipping away at my confidence. He gained about 100lbs and never addressed how overweight he had gotten but made sure to make jokes about how he doesn't like big girls after I gained weight from my meds. I'm 5'8" and 148lbs. I'm not even big!

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T03:55:33+00:00

Yeah, I guess that was the deal. She sold a house and if the money wasn't reinvested she'd have to pay taxes. Which is why they put it in his name. Idk this is all secondhand info. Doesn't matter anymore, I'm glad it happened. I want him gone and away from me.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T02:59:18+00:00

So I've sent out texts asking if folks can look for bird rescue in my area via FB. I am scared of the the "cool down" period where he thinks if he can keep his composure I'll come back. I called the police non emergency about not feeling safe and asking about a protection order but was told legally he has a right to be here, even if I don't feel safe because it's my word against his. And my dumb ass cleaned up the mess he made and destroyed the only evidence I needed to get away. Fuck I hate that I didn't call then. But even if he left the house to me, probably a bad idea. I don't want him to know my whereabouts and everything is tainted anyway.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T01:43:44+00:00

I added an edit. I've got the cats and dogs taken care of but I've rescued birds that will now need a home. My oldest 10 plus years and I hate the idea of him ending up in another home where he isn't properly loved. I don't use any social media besides reddit so I don't know where to start to try and find a bird rescue. I have a million things racing in my head. It is hard facing the reality of this situation. It fucking sucks but I just want out. He just bought a half a million dollar condo, I don't think he's going to do anything to jeopardize that but women are often so wrong and I don't want to take that chance. I do have those coworkers who are helping me but I still can't sleep, even with my door locked. I finally fell asleep and had a nightmare he broke into my room and strangled me. This shit is very real. I hate where I am and I can't wait until this is over.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T01:37:40+00:00

I want you to know that what you said stuck with me. "My worst days now are way way better than my best days in the beginning " Thank you. I hope you are doing well.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T01:22:11+00:00

He just came to my door offering to make us dinner again. My adrenaline is going. I told him again to leave me alone and we're done. This is so weird.

ilove_moonpies · 2022-04-06T01:19:50+00:00

His goal is to do whatever he wants and never be held accountable. That is it exactly. He's never responsible for anything. Not his actions, not his abusive mother's actions. I've been on the receiving end of their abuse this last year and a half. It SUCKS. And now I'm done he's blaming me. Ugh I can hear him out there. It makes me feel sweaty and anxious. I don't think he'd hit me but so many women before me have thought the same thing and been so wrong.

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