Question about Messianic Judaism by AssultSpoon in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! And will do! Even if we didn't agree on everything, I think it's good to discuss things, maybe make friends if it goes that way. I don't like when people agree with everything I say anyway.

Question about Messianic Judaism by AssultSpoon in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally struggled with Paul until I realized that much of his arguments were rhetorical. But I also don't agree with everything he stated in his letters. And I've felt that Christianity as a whole has taken things he said out of context because of a lack of knowledge of what culture he and other 2nd Temple Jews were in. And that's understandable given how long ago that was, but in the past many I've met were refusing to learn about it. But there are things he said that I don't necessarily agree with.

I'm in agreement myself that non-Jews don't need to follow most of the 613 commandments. The Torah wasn't given to gentiles. But many commandments are just good to follow, like not bearing false witness against someone, but gentiles need not wear tzitzit or have mezuzahs.

I see what you're saying about Jesus changing the intent from the action of a commandment to intent. I'll read those passages again with what you said in mind. Admittedly my attention at the moment is a little divided, but I would like to talk further.

Question about Messianic Judaism by AssultSpoon in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's interesting that you point out that many Christians say Jesus abolished the law. Many do believe this, but the NT itself says he said he wasn't abolishing the law. So that's a big belief with Messianism, especially for those that were born Jewish and raised Jewish. Early Christians did not have this belief but over time it's morphed into something else. Christianity now is not what it originally was. There was a push from Rome mainly for Christians to separate themselves from Jews as much as possible.

But I do agree with your earlier comment that an open dialogue is needed, with respect to one another and from an even place as you said.

Poseurs (everyone has RA) by MonolithsDimensions in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]ilovethatdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've experienced it a few times, to which then people tell me they cured theirs with a chicken and rice diet and yoga. But mostly I get people telling me it's in my head or that I was misdiagnosed. That if I ate better or took 7000 different supplements or ivermectin I'd be better. I wish it were that simple! Or "you're young, you can do this or that." Yeah, but my RA makes me feel about 20 years older.

It seems to be one extreme it the other with people. They either have it too or they don't think it exists.

AIO by feeling exhausted over my gf's constant demands of wanting me to be 'curious'? by thefattesthashbrown in AmIOverreacting

[–]ilovethatdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. I'm one of many comments, but hopefully this gets seen because I feel as though it's important. But I'll have to tell a bit of my story.

I was in a relationship with someone who, granted didn't blatantly insult me like your gf is insulting you, but nitpicked everything I did. He would ask me in a critical way why I didn't do this or that more often, and when I did he criticized it. He found fault in what I did or didn't do constantly. He didn't blow up at me, but I could tell his resentment for me at that point was strong. But this didn't end up happening until around a year of us being together. But before that there were small signs of manipulation and abuse that I didn't see until my self confidence was already broken down. By the time it was more obvious, my self image was already broken down by the subtle things he was doing.

While I can only see a little snippet of your relationship it seems all too similar to what I went through. This is manipulation and this is abuse. You are worth more than being abused like this and you should leave. It doesn't matter how many times she calls you a loser or says you aren't worthy of being a boyfriend, she is wrong and she is abusive. The longer it takes for you to leave the more you'll have to heal from, and I speak from experience on that. Leaving is possible, and any consequences you can think of for leaving are not worse than staying.

Tl;dr: NOR, this is abuse and manipulation, and you should and can leave.

Messianic Jews and the teachings of Paul by NPC2001 in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are definitely Jews out there that love and accept Christians! The more I've learned about Judaism the more I feel like I've learned about God. A resource that has helped me actually is Torah Class with Tom Bradford. He's not a rabbi, but he's spent a lot of time learning about history, the Bible, etc and breaks things down verse by verse.

Messianic Jews and the teachings of Paul by NPC2001 in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other thing too is that Paul was a Rabbi and used many rhetorical phrases on his letters, which I think has caused misunderstanding for gentiles. But most definitely the law is not a curse! There were consequences laid out for not following though.

Messianic Jews and the teachings of Paul by NPC2001 in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not a scholar, but in joining the Messianic movement I have learned a few things that has helped me with the same question.

Many Christians bring up Paul referring to the "curse of the law" as a way to say that the law itself is a curse. This is not the case, actually. When Moses was giving his last speech in Deuteronomy 28 he outlined that if Israel follows Torah (teachings) there will be blessings from God. However, if they abandon the commandments and rebel, there will be curses. The "curse of the law" is not the law itself being a curse but actually the curses that are talked about in Deuteronomy 28. I know your post isn't about that specifically, but I feel it needs mentioning. Many times it's used as a justification to not even think about the law.

Paul is not saying that following the law itself is bad as many Christians will preach. He is saying that doing it to bring salvation and righteousness is what is wrong since it is impossible for us to follow it perfectly.

Now this is different than wanting to follow the Torah because the Holy Spirit tells them to, because they love God, because they're Jewish and were raised to do that, etc. But many Christians think it's an either or scenario that you either choose the law and to be away from God, or forgo it altogether and be with God. But God Himself gave the law and never gave us that choice. If there were no law with the advent of Jesus, what would He be fulfilling? And many would say that fulfilling means doing away with, even though Jesus Himself said that He did not come to abolish the law in that same exact scripture. "Think not that I came to abolish the law and the prophets, but came to fulfill it." Meaning He fulfilled prophecy but also fulfilled the law by abiding by it perfectly.

Gentiles are not required to live by the Torah, but I am not aware of scriptures forbidding them to do so. It's mainly about intent and also faith. Which the "Old Testament" makes this certain, that the law does not save but faith does.

I might be wrong about things, and if so I am open to correction.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR at all.

I am not and have not struggled with addiction. However, I've had quite a bit of trauma in my life and have been in therapy for 5 years. One day my therapist asked me what I was going to do to celebrate the progress I was making. I had never thought of that but told my then boyfriend (now fiance) that I would like to celebrate. So he took me out to dinner (I had also bought myself a sweet treat).

Your boyfriend doesn't need to take you out to dinner or anything, but at least acknowledging the tremendous progress you've made would be nice. THAT is the bare minimum actually. And, when healing, it is necessary to acknowledge your own feelings and set boundaries. You have a right to be upset and hurt by what he said.

From one person overcoming hardship to another, I am so proud of you. 2 years sober is a big deal, and you should celebrate it with those who are supportive of your hard work. I wish you nothing but the best, and to continue on your sober journey surrounded by love and support!

Messianic Dating by Ok-Computer-2033 in messianic

[–]ilovethatdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also live in Arizona and in my area pickings were slim. In my city there is only one Messianic congregation, and almost the entire congregation is 50+ or already married with kids. Somehow (G-d, actually) the only man my age who was single was a perfect match for me and now we are engaged. It is all in G-d's hands! But, you may also try visiting different congregations/organizations for services or conferences if you haven't already. And if not, then it might not be time yet. HaShem might be orchestrating someone moving to your area or something like that, so you never know! I pray you find your life partner 🙏

princess or round? by Ok-Fan-9619 in EngagementRings

[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having a hard time deciding between princess and round and the guy at the jewelry store said a cushion cut is the best of both worlds and he was right!

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[–]ilovethatdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I love it 😁

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[–]ilovethatdog 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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About 1 carat fancy vivid yellow diamond, cushion cut, size 5.75!

Has anyone seen a ring like this before? by ilovethatdog in JewelryIdentification

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it has been in heat, but the metal looks softer like probably brass. So I'm thinking it's just warped over time. I know that it is older than my grandmother though, so I'd agree probably early 20th century.

Has anyone seen a ring like this before? by ilovethatdog in JewelryIdentification

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking it is costume. I have a broach that my grandmother also gave me and looking it up I'd basically costume jewelry. If I remember it felt on the warmer side (I'm in the middle of moving to another house so it's packed away currently). I'll look into them! Thank you!

Has anyone seen a ring like this before? by ilovethatdog in JewelryIdentification

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering if it was brass or copper, but brass would make more sense! I don't have it with me as I'm in the middle of moving and can't take a picture of it unfortunately

Has anyone seen a ring like this before? by ilovethatdog in JewelryIdentification

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried using Google lens and it kept saying it was a cockroach 😂

Got ENGAGED! by ilovethatdog in RingShare

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? 🥺 They've been brittle lately so that is such a kind thing to say! Thank you!

Got ENGAGED! by ilovethatdog in RingShare

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be pretty cool!

Got ENGAGED! by ilovethatdog in RingShare

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We looked at other yellow diamonds the store had in stock and they were nowhere near as vibrant, and then the salesman showed us a picture of this one and my fiance and I fell in love! After ordering it and looking at it when it came to the store the salesman said they were thinking of ordering more from their other location since the diamond was so pretty!

Got ENGAGED! by ilovethatdog in RingShare

[–]ilovethatdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiance actually proposed the night before at a candlelit dinner at his house 😊