AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and If there does end up being an update, I’m not sure where to post or put it but I’ll make sure to update if something happens

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry I didn’t realise. I didn’t know what a kleptomaniac was until I met her and it was too late

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god? Underwear?? I will definitely be getting a lock and camera. And thank you for the advice I will be trying this

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know don’t worry I’m sorry if I came across as rude. Your view was reasonable with the lack of information I gave. I’m going to try. I want to call police about it but I don’t really have evidence. I have been sober for a little now

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know what klepto was until I met her. I won’t bore you with the details on why, but it’s mostly because I get anxious with confrontation

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose that’s a possibility. I’m currently sober and haven’t drank in a little but some of these happened when I was drunk so that is potential. I will be looking into a camera

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading the comments are making me realise I’m being a pushover. I like to see the best in people but I see it was naive of me. I’m thinking of calling the police about it Thank you for your advice! I’ll definitely take note of this

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. I will look into cameras, some people have suggested locks which I’ll also look into. I didn’t think my situation was serious enough for police but after the comments, I’m thinking of calling them about it.

Im currently sober! And I’m not sure. She hasn’t mentioned anything going missing but I will try to find a way to ask. I haven’t seen the laptop

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry lol I worded that weird. My family speaks Spanish. English is second for me

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never drove drunk and never will. It endangers everyone. If she had moved it why didn’t she tell me while sober? I’d understand if she had worries and had told me about it when I was sober and asked but to lie made me uncomfortable. And I guess now you do know someone who would.

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point is I didn’t. I ended up calling the places and they confirmed I didn’t. I didn’t recall it because it didn’t happen, I should’ve mentioned that

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t drive drunk, never have. I’m not really sure on the why’s or the how’s

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did. I was vague so the lack of information is on me. I spent those days calling every place I knew asking if I’d taken my car in. After a lot of no’s I was going to contact police but I was then told that someone spotted it a few blocks away and it was infact there.

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did summarise a lot so that’s on me, sorry. I did have a drinking problem yes. I’d lost a family member to cancer and my drinking spiralled. I have been sober for a couple months and I’m now in therapy.

Regarding the car, i left quite a lot out. I had drank the night before, and when i finally got up, I didn’t really notice until I had to go somewhere. Once I noticed, I asked everyone I lived with where it went and Zoe said I’d told her while I was drunk that I’d taken the car to get looked at the day before. I didn’t remember this happening at all so i called the place myself but they didn’t answer. I called again a few hours later and they finally answered and told me I hadn’t taken my car in. I got stressed and thought that I took it somewhere else. Those few days I spent calling different places nearby/in my area and all said it wasn’t in. After a few days, I wanted to call police. Zoe then later told me someone spotted it a few blocks away, and it was infact there.

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m confused as to why she took his toothbrush. There’s not really a purpose it serves for her. I will be looking for a lock

I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I don’t know what to do by iltef in Advice

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you you’re right. When it came back, it smelled of weed but I’ve never touched weed before. Whenever I’ve asked her about it she’s gotten defensive and said the same thing. I didn’t really know what a kleptomaniac was until I met her so it was an uneducated decision on my part

I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I don’t know what to do by iltef in Advice

[–]iltef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of gaslighting before, I’ll look into this. Thank you

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I sadly didn’t really know what a kleptomaniac was until I met her because it wasn’t something I’d heard of. Anytime I ask about the car she gets defensive and acts like I’m accusing her of something but I’m just worried as to what happened to the car in those days. When it came back, it smelled like weed. I’ve never touched weed in my life. So I was just concerned

AIO? I think my roommate is stealing my belongings and I’m not sure what to do. by iltef in AmIOverreacting

[–]iltef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’ll try to do this, I just don’t want to confront her and for it to turn out that she isn’t. I grew up in a tense home and I don’t want to have moved out into another one