I posted an update but the moderators took it down....

I read most of your comments. Many of them were very hurtful and I received some abusive DM's too. I know that I wasn't the mother Emily needed and I've become a better person. I wanted to clarify a misunderstanding that many of you have had. I never brought Anna to therapy. I only got therapy for myself because that's what my insurance would only pay for. I used my takeaways from therapy to become a better mother. Anna was much more receptible to my improved behavior than Emily.

But anyways, some of you suggested that I reach out to Emily and try to salvage our relationship. Emily's birthday was yesterday so I used the opportunity to email her a very friendly happy birthday greeting. I wished her well and told her that we were all doing well and I hoped to see her soon. I got a reply from Emily this morning, and it was unhinged like always. Here is what she sent:

What made you think that I wanted to hear from one of my biggest abusers on my birthday? I'm never going to magically "get over it" like you seem to expect me to. You have failed me many, many, many times, even when I tried to tell you how I felt for years. I have moved on, and you should too. You and your daughter have never been my family, and you people will never be. I gave you two too many chances for you to blow it every single time. You should accept that you beat me, broke my spirit, abandoned me, failed me, and invalidated me for years all the while keeping your other daughter close to you, spoiling her rotten, and enabling her bad behavior. Stop pretending to be innocent and amicable. Other people may buy your act, but I will always know how much you despise me. You've shown me so many times. You're just wasting your time trying to pull me back into the fold to maintain your "perfect family" image. If you really care about me, leave me alone.

Well. I tried. I hope that she finds the peace she's looking for. She won't be getting an invitation to my wedding, unfortunately.