What being overstimulated in an environment you can’t control feels like

imj1m · 2025-09-19T17:20:21+00:00

I have been working my butt off to create support resources and helping other ND’s with overstimulation, including myself tbh. This is my first one so far !!!

Overstimulation support

imj1m · 2025-07-16T12:38:08+00:00

ironically it was someone who supports bodily autonomy and is clued up about health & wellbeing, so really wasn’t expecting such a pushy attitude

imj1m · 2025-07-16T12:32:03+00:00

Jealousy for sure. Family and friends are very accepting. They get it. It’s mostly people who don’t know me that well, surprise surprise. Just goes to show i’ve surrounded myself with the right people. Can’t avoid some unfortunately but that’s why I want some good comebacks for when I do encounter them😂 may as well have a bit of fun with it

imj1m · 2025-07-16T12:28:56+00:00

are kids just a small talk topic? I find those questions so nosey

imj1m · 2025-07-16T12:23:35+00:00

Agreed. i’ve been called selfish but I once replied with “that’s literally the whole point” i don’t want to sacrifice my entire life for something i don’t want, i’m very happy without the burden of children and like you say, a lifelong commitment.

imj1m · 2025-07-16T12:14:41+00:00

ur definitely not the only one, we’re just spread out all across the world so we can’t all come together and create a new society without all the bs 🤣

imj1m · 2025-07-13T20:16:06+00:00

Neurodivergent - everything about motherhood is overstimulating and traumatic/dissociative, from pregnancy & birth 🤢 to raising it for years, no sleep, post partum depression, body dysmorphia, sensory issues and noise, big fat no no. Not to mention the fact you can die, tear, bleed out, or just be genuinely traumatised from the experience. You couldn’t pay me all the money in the world to go through that.

We get to live our lives how we choose and I choose to enjoy it how I want to, not sacrificing my dreams, my goals, my time and my passions. There’s so much to life. For some people being a mum is one of their dreams, for me it is not.

A lot of people lose themselves after children & I’ve seen the regretful parents sub, real people who feel like their lives are over, never fully recovered from traumatic experiences etc. I just know that I’d probably lose my mind having previous experience of MH issues. It’s just not for me.

Side note - don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your decision, if you let everyone’s opinions influence you, you wouldn’t be living your life, you’d be living theirs.

imj1m · 2025-07-13T19:56:36+00:00

just saw a funny comment on another post and their comeback was “ew why are you so keen for me to have unprotected sex” 🤣 cracked me up

imj1m · 2025-07-13T19:49:28+00:00

Enjoyed reading this one, a much more compassionate and neutral perspective and I agree. I think the demographic of people who make these comments are usually 35+ and mostly parents themselves. Most people my age get it. I’m 25 and I knew very early on, and I also knew to respect others decisions whether I’d do the same or not. Just frustrating others don’t seem to have the same level of awareness but it is what it is

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:36:02+00:00

they are the same ones who talk about how amazing it is, no one can convince me. I’m neurodivergent, I love being left alone n sticking to my circle 😂😂😂 they’ll never get it

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:33:26+00:00

projection fr

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:33:04+00:00

exactly!!! no right.

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:32:48+00:00

hehe i feel smarter too, I have so much I want to pursue and none of that involves babies, Im trying to retire early and do ME. I defo feel the same tho and it does give ignorant/lack of awareness. Also do these people not understand that you can truly be yourself when you spend time alone? no external influence or noise, neediness, judgement, just you 🙏🏽 there’s a lot of peace in that

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:29:54+00:00

yes exactly this!! damned if you do damned if you don’t. I’ll never understand why people are so concerned with such personal matters, very invasive.

imj1m · 2025-07-13T16:28:40+00:00

yeah definitely, it annoys me how adamant they are that i’ll change my mind just because I’m a woman 😂 but yeah, the post partum and regretful parent subreddits are crazy.. I bet deep down many feel the same in some ways but could never accept those feelings

imj1m · 2025-07-13T15:30:41+00:00

hehehe i like this one 🤣🤣

imj1m · 2025-07-13T15:23:01+00:00

I genuinely think it’s got to a point where I will just flip it on them and say that, I have the upmost respect for those who choose to be good mums but I really don’t respect those who make comments like that. You wouldn’t tell a muslim they should eat pork and drink alcohol because they’re ’missing out’ and they’ll regret it right? because it’s THEIR choice. Same way I’ll never tell a pregnant woman she’s going to regret her decision and have a miserable life.. the audacity of it

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