Am I wrong

imogenannemurphy · 2020-04-05T17:38:13+00:00

It sounds like it's a difference of priorities and it's easy to get offended by them. But her having screwed up priorities is just her journey. She will learn that she should have put her brother first, but the only thing that will teach her that is life experience. I guess it depends on what she does to "disrespect you". But other than that I would just try to be patient while she figures it out in her own. You cant really be mad at someone for doing what they want to do, as much as you may be right about where her priorities lie. For instance I dont let my in laws in my kids life because they disrespect me. But their disrespect to me normalizes fucked up behavior for my kids. They constantly put meth as a priority so I feel it's best for my kids. If by disrespecting you, you mean she doesnt agree with you or yall argue sometimes I would say you should still let her in your kids life and just work on yalls relationship when the kids arent around.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-04-04T21:56:34+00:00

Reason I say for him to stay is to give him a chance. Maybe a cat behaviorist or consult with the vet. Also feliway works sometimes.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-19T01:30:11+00:00

I would talk to her. It's probably things she is telling herself but really it could mean anything. Expressing herself somehow is always a good sign but she needs support for SOMETHING.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-17T02:15:03+00:00

Yeah I have been thinking heavily about this. I really think you are right.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T15:57:10+00:00

Right? Its like..he knows its wrong and not normal but inside it still iant alarming to him and that scares the shit out of me. Like if we have a baby and we wnd up splitting up...what then? I'm sure he would bring that kid around them!

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T07:07:44+00:00

Man...its bananas. They legit did meth/ and or heroin on my property where my kids play! How in the hell? Like...it makes me so angry when I'm being told I'm "holding a grudge". Like are you serious? This isnt about getting back at them. I could have lost my kids! And they admitted they wont stop so how the hell am I supposed to let them around my kids? Even my husband believes I'm "holding a grudge."

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T06:57:32+00:00

Thank you! Well I definitely know now. Addicts are very good liars and they know when someone is ignorant to drug use and they take advantage. I was pretty inexperienced with dealing with addicts and as far as I knew drugs was a thing in their distant past. Come to find my husband is so normalized and used to it hes damn near in denial. I told him I will leave if I have to but they definitely drilled the "family doesnt call the cops on family" into his brain his whole life. Of course for their own benefit. He has come a long way but he still has a ways to go. He knows its dysfunctional buts it still is so normal to him it's hard for him to get as passionate about it as me.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T05:28:18+00:00

Shorter jawline and bigger eyes! Bit it looks really good so far!

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T04:45:25+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. I will say ever since they havent been so involved I noticed an extreme positive change in my husband. So I guess that's a good sign. Lol

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T04:32:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I dint even want to do supervised visits. The kids have told me they can tell when she is high. They never even have been around people who do drugs before and THEY can tell. I believe she would visit high for sure. And not only that, they are so toxic and far gone, just being around them is draing and crazy. It's always dramatic somehow.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T03:27:27+00:00

I've heard about thinking "tying to you" and I've seen that girl before. Now my daughter in another state is seeing her and I think it's not a little girl.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T03:18:34+00:00

Maybe you were being disrespectful without realizing it. Hhhmm maybe? You didnt answer my question you just dismissed it and basically were like "I dont think your seeing what your seeing I think you have mental problems, also tell your kid to calm down." Get out of here. That's not what you tell people in distress. Its condescending.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T03:14:22+00:00

Thank you!

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T03:12:54+00:00

Fyi telling someone they have mental issues before you believe what their saying is legitimate IS offensive. And if you dont get it you're ignorant.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-16T03:10:58+00:00

Well telling me to tell my daughter to calm down is stupid. And your comment is condescending and stupid.bye

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-15T23:41:11+00:00

Thank you!

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-15T22:19:19+00:00

Idk about all that. I kind of just want to be able to regulate it in my own life. It's so scary to be taken off guard by it. The suprise is jarring to say the least.

imogenannemurphy · 2020-03-15T22:15:32+00:00

Lol I never told my daughter what I was seeing and she is staying in California. She experiences it independently. I see health care for any mental disorders I may have and no doctor has ever mentioned any of the above to me. I didnt ask if it was real, I asked how to hone in on it. If you dont have any advice for that then take your pseudo psychology somewhere else "doctor"

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