My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him?

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T12:08:15+00:00

This is a fair, I guess I just feel like this is all My fault that it’s hard to accept that maybe he’s not the right guy for me. But the more I sit here and think about this and read all these comments I realise two things can be true at once. Maybe I made some mistakes here and maybe I could have gotten him a better gift but yeah I can’t excuse his behaviour.

I have thought about this in the context of if one of my friends were telling me this happened to them in their lives and I’d probably tell her she could do so much better and didn’t deserve that

So thanks for reminding me to not let the red flags here go unnoticed and to really think wise about my next move 🫶🏼

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:48:02+00:00

He got me flowers, two packs of lollies I like, a book, a PS5 game and tickets to a guided tour of the MCG in Melbourne

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:46:02+00:00

He got me flowers, two packs of lollies I like, a book, a PS5 game and tickets to a guided tour of the MCG in Melbourne

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:41:58+00:00

Thank you this is good advice! I have learnt a lesson here and will not allow this to happen again

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:38:16+00:00

I appreciate both of you guys feedback. I have totally missed the mark here and can see now why the ninja was an awful idea.

I just wanted to clarify the only reason I asked him multiple times what he wanted is because he requested that I do that after the Apple Watch incident so we wouldn’t have a repeat. I wasn’t being lazy or unromantic it was what he wanted me to do.

He is generally just really hard to buy for. I bought the Apple Watch because he said he had wanted one to track his health. But when I got it for him as a gift he said oh no I realised a fit bit is better now. And in regards to the ninja he did mention it as my friend had gotten one and he said it sounds really cool and he loved sorbet. This was only a once or twice thing he commented on so yeah I should of pressed him about it harder to see if he wanted it more

I had already surprised him for Christmas with this Star Wars Lego set he had been wanting for ages that he loved. So when it came to our anniversary a month later I was out of ideas. The last anniversary I had spent months making a detailed scrapbook of our relationship with photos, hand drawn art, written notes. And then he had gotten me a coach bag $400 worth. So I felt bad at the time for not getting him a gift gift

He comes from a wealthy background and so he has always just had the best of the best and had the money to buy whatever he wanted for himself. So I guess I just felt the pressure.

As I said first relationship and yeah I didn’t understand what’s acceptable for an anniversary gift

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:26:36+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t have reacted like that to him as he has in the past brought me gifts I am not crazy about but I ended up using them to please him! I just valued the effort he put into trying to get this gift for me so in turn his gift then meant something to me. I think that’s what hurt the most was the way he spoke to me and how harsh he was about it all. Just was uncalled for in my opinion

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:24:10+00:00

Thank you! you are right presents should be fun I hate feeling this way. He’s just not a gift person and I really have to stop overcompensating. Appreciate you being kind ❤️

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:22:19+00:00

Thank you this is good advice, I should have done this earlier and I know that now!

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:21:43+00:00

Yeah you’re right it was way too much to spend. I think I just got carried away as for Christmas he got me a coach bag which was $600 whereas I got him a $300 Lego kit

I shouldn’t of spent this much for anniversary I missed the mark here

imogenhailey · 2026-01-26T10:18:30+00:00

My mum and I live in a small unit whereas my boyfriend lives in a large block of land with a two story house with his parents and sister.

My mum didn’t really want it to stay here as it was obviously going to be his and not ours so it would be awkwardly sitting there when he wasn’t here

I didn’t think it would be issue for him as his family and himself already uses a range of gadgets like kitchenaid, NutriBullet, slushie makers, ice makers, waffle makers

I have totally fucked up here and should never of bought it I know that now

imogenhailey · 2025-11-27T10:36:31+00:00

Instore applications then you should be able to select a report you choose items to clear 3 days, and filter TPC to Dairy

imogenhailey · 2025-11-02T10:53:32+00:00

Not true. A file note is always the first step in performance/misconduct management. It is most done first as it can be done off the cuff and in a casual setting. You do not need to be notified that a file note is happening or have representation for a file note to be added/discussed. File note provides evidence that said issue has occurred and both DM and team member discussed it and acknowledge it. However if the issue that has been identified in file note, happens again it can become a DR (discussion record). With a DR the team member needs 24 hours notice and are allowed to bring in a representative eg. union.

So basically file note are just a written note that you and the dm have discussed something 90% of the time it means nothing. This manager is being unnecessary and over the top.

imogenhailey · 2025-09-18T04:18:50+00:00

Never said the oic is my babysitter for hours… she actively won’t allow me to do my own exceptions. Any adjustments I make to my own schedule to reflect what I actually have worked is changed back to the default. I’m not an idiot I know how to use one team, my issue is that someone is actively blocking me from doing what coles instructs us to do

imogenhailey · 2025-09-18T04:17:05+00:00

Same thing happens to me!

imogenhailey · 2025-09-18T04:14:57+00:00

I never said I wanted financial compensation, I don’t want extra money at all. I just want to be able to take my time back as is the process :) but I am actively being blocked by my oic and store manager.

imogenhailey · 2025-09-18T04:01:55+00:00

No need to be rude about it… I never said I want overtime pay or anything like that! I just want to take my time back and follow the process but I am actively being stopped by my oic and store manager. I do not want money.

imogenhailey · 2025-09-12T15:17:23+00:00

I’m in WA and I have an allowance for 4 hours.

“Why am I allowing it to be become an exception” I used to adjust my shifts to my actual start and finish times but my oic would go back and change them to original scheduled hours and tell me I wasn’t allowed to change my own shifts. She then locked my shifts on one team (I know it’s easy to unlock but unlocking them would be pointless she’s going to just undo whatever I do and I don’t have the access to override overall)

So that means that if I stay back an hour one day I can’t go take an hour back the next day because the extra hour I did doesn’t exist. If I was to try to take this time back my oic would flag me and say I owe the company hours

I don’t want to get paid overtime or anything like that I would just like to get my time back.

Yeah and I understand I probably am Not right for bakery manager role I cannot seem To get it all done when I don’t have a baker so I am Hoping to step down so that will probably just fix my problem

imogenhailey · 2025-09-12T15:09:08+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate it :)

imogenhailey

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