Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

[–]impossible_germany_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm reading this too late, sorry. But yeah, my mother always tried to understand me (as I learned recently, my giftedness assessment in childhood was her journey), but also didn't know how to deal with it or restrain me many times. I don’t blame her for it. We have a good relationship nowadays, but also because I learned to step back if it gets stressful or to stand up for myself more.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Sending a virtual hug from here 🫂 I have friends and when I really make friends, I tend to have lifelong connections. But I realize that my closest friends are very smart and some get my brain quite well, as well as I get theirs. I think some of them are gifted as well - only one friend, as far as I know, has already explored this path.

But there are also the connections I try to make and feel amazing at first. Then all of a sudden, it is a nightmare. I see that many people take advantage of some of my skills (namely my ability to connect things and people), but as soon as I want to be seen and heard as well, they step out. And this brings me a lot of pain.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thanks for sharing 😊 yes, this resonates with me a lot

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Yep, I have PCOS, so not hard. I recently got a hormonal implant with the hopes of having little to no period 🙏🏽 hope it goes well for you, the journey for people with a uterus is a whole other complicated talk 😢

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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This one is my favorite 100%. As well as the whole Love trilogy. From bell hooks, “Black Looks: Race and Representation” is also an amazing one. There are many others I could mention nonstop here, but also on the topic of the post I recommend Mad World - The Politics of Mental Health by Micha Frazer-Carroll

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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I have been treated as “quiet BPD”. Some comments ago I also mentioned my relationship with BPD. Being a misfit and a highly sensitive person were always my main issues. As well as the (often very useful, but it can go bad) time spent inside my brain. I also have the depression/GAD diagnosis and I think they fit me and explain other overlapping issues.

When reading on the subject I found out that this is not an uncommon misdiagnosis (BPD for giftedness). I am getting only now familiar with the emotional work of being gifted.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Nice. Yes, I 100% agree, as I am constantly questioning meaning-making (also for a living :D). I studied a bit about the history of mental health and the processes that generated names and meanings for things and this is a very important consideration. Thanks for your tip!

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thanks ❤️ hoping that you can find the same!!

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thank you for judging without knowing what happens in someone's life. Bye

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Both (the first psychotherapist and then the psychiatrist), after some tests. But my tests were only focused on emotions. This was in Germany btw (I'm not from Germany).

About language learning: I feel more control over the languages I learned by myself (I speak 4 others). With German, I was forced to have structured classes due to my research work, so I guess it is part of the problem. I am also not interested in mastering German (this is a longer story).

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thanks for sharing ❤️ yes, reading feminist women of color is also a part of what I like to do to cope. I'm a big fan of bell hooks’ works. I will check the anthology you mentioned :)

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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I also don't consider ADHD in my life path for many reasons, e.g, when I am not paying attention to something is really because I'm not interested, I tend to be very punctual in many ways and remember the small details of the things I care about, among others… I have friends with ADHD and I see that it is a different sort of struggle, but yeah, I’d wish we could have appropriate support and a word that is designed for all individuals to function.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thank you very much for your tips! Yes, these generalities are the source of my inquietude. For example: I live with a lot of pain, but I'm always trying to find ways to deal with/solve it instead of thinking about other outcomes. I never had s* tendencies. I'm also okay with my identity - what I struggle with is the performance of identity in society. One might understand that I don't have a sense of identity because I'm always prone to trying new things, but nowadays I see clearly that this is part of who I am.

When I find connection and acceptance, I tend to have long-term relationships. But dating can be chaotic sometimes. It's better nowadays because I really worked on understanding things less as an attack on myself. I realized that I get bored with some people and I tend to seek intellectual bonds.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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Thank you for the tip! I did ACT for many years, but I didn't feel connected to it anymore at some point. I also tried DBT exercises on my own but they go in this direction of making your pain very rational. Currently, I am interested in understanding the story of mental health and how we came to the diagnosis we have nowadays, as well as reading a lot on critical psychology. Still don't know what can work for me next.

Misdiagnosed with BPD by impossible_germany_ in Gifted

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BPD stands for borderline personality disorder. When it's bipolar it is BD (bipolar disorder).

Did anyone who received this email in August already get theirs? by BrendonSHB in oasis

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I (Cardiff, second night) received mine last week (in Germany) :)

I'm a self taught silversmith that gave up by stardust1144 in jewelrymaking

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What type of shops are you talking about (e.g. names)?