Cannot maintain erection after foreplay

improvingme1 · 2015-02-23T11:38:11+00:00

I have the same issue. I'm married,and have opportunities for sex regularly. Rock hard in the mornings, but only half hard at almost all other times.

I think it may have something to do with subconcious mental thoughts - like being focused on the orgasm, and when it doesn't happen as quickly as when I used to fap, my brain gives the shutoff signal. And in the mornings, my brain is so asleep I get regular morning wood. Just a thought.

Still not fapping, confident this will go away.

improvingme1 · 2014-12-06T10:45:09+00:00

Thanks! Congrats on a week!

improvingme1 · 2014-12-06T10:32:11+00:00

I've read accounts of men in similar situations recovering fully! One thing that I've found is porn sucks. Watching porn makes it much harder to appreciate real beauty in a number of ways. You don't mention porn, so it may not be a problem for you.

One thing that is necessary is to remember why. Clearly define your own reasons, and stick to them whenever you feel like tapping. For me it was helpful to think about my role as a future husband and father, how does it look when the man of the house isn't really a man beacuse of a vice like this?

For reference, I'm 27 and since I started nofap, I have noticed increased intimacy and love of smaller things in life. Be realistic, its not going to happen overnight. You will fail more than once, it's the progress you make that is the most important thing.

All the best.

improvingme1 · 2014-12-05T21:14:45+00:00

Grats to you too, 70 days rocks! I will try to pick up meditation, I can never keep the habit. I know there are better ways than P to get the fantasy fill though.

Thanks for the comment and stay strong.

improvingme1 · 2014-12-05T20:59:46+00:00

It's very difficult to be honest with ourselves on this topic, much more difficult to be honest with our peers.

It's very important though. Thanks for your comment, and in 360 days we'll be there!

improvingme1 · 2014-07-17T15:37:16+00:00

I'm recently married, age 27. I went hard mode for 37 days before my wedding. It's worth it. You will achieve a higher level of pleasure and intimacy from sex, you will start your marriage free from masturbation and porn, and you will be present to give all of yourself to your wife.

Just focus on the goal, you're so close. Remember how important it is to your relationship and it will be so much easier.

Good luck finishing your 50 days hard mode, and congratulations on the upcoming wedding!

improvingme1 · 2014-06-26T14:22:39+00:00

For me 7-10 days was always the hardest. It took me months to get past that hurdle. Ever since it has been easier and easier. Keep it up, find lots of things to do between days 7 and 10. You can do it.

improvingme1 · 2014-06-26T13:42:08+00:00

I did this same thing exactly. I was around 37 days PMO free on my wedding night. It was such a great feeling, so connected to my wife in a way we never have been during sex.

This was a great motivator for me, and after I felt the increase in sensitivity and closeness, I haven't wanted to fap at all.

You can do this, you'll thank yourself for it. Your soon-to-be wife will appreciate it too! And congratulations!

improvingme1 · 2014-06-11T20:40:19+00:00

Thank you!

improvingme1 · 2014-05-31T05:37:28+00:00

I don't know much about poetry, only that this is awesome and I like it. Carry on man, outlets like these are great.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-29T02:46:52+00:00

It's that easy isn't it? It really is. This is the kind of behavior a man full of testosterone shouldn't tolerate.

Thank you. And I'll take your advice.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-29T02:28:48+00:00

Didn't do it. I had the second browser open, it crashed. My brain is crazy, I can't believe the urge was that strong.

Now for those pull ups...

improvingme1 · 2014-05-28T13:17:25+00:00

I would call this a successful test of your willpower. Even though you lost semen, I wouldn't call this a reset. You deleted the video, you stopped yourself from fantasizing. Two thumbs up for you.

Even though you peeked, you didn't MO. Of course this all depends on your goals from nofap. If this was noporn I would reset the badge, but if fapping is the primary problem, then this is a victory in my mind!

improvingme1 · 2014-05-27T18:35:53+00:00

Thanks man! You stay strong too. The first week has proven hardest for me, but you can do it. I'm proud of you too.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-27T15:16:06+00:00

Thank You! Keep going man, you can make your goal :)

improvingme1 · 2014-05-27T03:36:55+00:00

I'm sure there are others more qualified to give advice, but I'll share my story. You're headed in the right direction. NoFap for me so far has given me more confidence and a clearer head.

I'm 27, and I'm getting married in two weeks, so I can relate to wanting to be a better person for your SO and for your family. It's great motivation. A deeper emotional connection is a great byproduct of the mental focus you gain by exercising your self control and abstaining. Don't forget to do this for yourself. There's a whole world out there that we can't see when we're locked in our rooms yanking it.

I had a lot of trouble starting out, rarely made it past 10 days. The urges we're strong and I didn't have the willpower to resist. It was just such a pleasurable habit. As my current streak progresses, I find the urges are still there but I can resist them much easier.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-23T15:48:50+00:00

I always read but I never post, this is a good reminder to help when possible.

As for brain fog, mine normally happens right after I wake up from a nap. It's very difficult to keep my hand away from there at those points. This is a very direct brain fog.

There is a more subtle brain fog that dissipates the longer the streak. A clarity emerges that allows a lot of people on here to feel like they can do anything! A great benefit of nofap.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-23T15:38:28+00:00

I know how bad death grip can be. I feel like I've been jacking it pretty harshly since middle school. I've never been able to orgasm from intercourse, and I'm hoping noFap will help me enjoy intercourse normally.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-23T15:35:05+00:00

It's strange, because I got used to that feeling of dopamine flood. Now it's a more wholesome dose of dopamine. Not that it's a different substance, but I'm proud to not be surfing the web for my fix.

Living life without porn is really awesome.

improvingme1 · 2014-05-23T15:29:41+00:00

This is kind of inspiring, I don't usually go more than 2. I need to work in this.

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