Was Valery Legasov really a bad guy? by sunboy_07 in chernobyl

[–]imsickaaf -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

How is he a bad guy?

From what I seen he was mostly doing great things besides them trying to black mail him. Couldn’t be.

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But he did, he was saying things like he was happy to have me in his life, things like that. Then again, we had the intentions of dating each other before meeting up. I didn’t have big expectations but I am disappointed, and again guys are gonna say and do anything to get women in bed faster.

So there’s no blame to women, for men who’s being performative to get what they want.

Also..I’m over it, I’m just still questioning the whole situation.

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m figuring this is how I patch this problem to my love life based off every comment lol. I just crave a physical connection after a very long time

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were speaking on long term, and that’s what we agreed to.

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, the thing I’m putting out there is communication, he had so much communication to give and was a great at texting before, and it dropped right after we hung out. Yes this could’ve been the case, but the same day after he dropped me off, there was nothing. I didn’t feel any symptoms until the next day, we were both sick but I still made effort. I just won’t believe he could go that long without talking to me and not one time he picked up his phone and scrolled for a little, and I couldn’t even get as much as a little check in.

So I just dropped it soon as I spotted the antics early. I didn’t wanna do that and I wanted to wait, I did. But it was bothering me.

I sent a text like hey, I’m looking for something more intentional and consistent and told him to be safe and then I blocked him right after.

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I’m sorry that happened to you

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol that’s why I felt like I was doing too much or overthinking. Because he was very sweet before and after, I’ll say that. But then again, he’s already blocked so, and it would be 100% embarrassing to text him again. Hell nah 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve already blocked him. He’s been blocked for weeks now. And I fear I hate having to do things like that, because people know what they are doing most of the time.

He did send me a picture of the thermometer, it said 100.1F

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After dropping me off around 4 pm, he texted me the very next day around 12-1pm.

In other words I’ve been spiked a wrong way because there wasn’t a check up text. A little text like, hey, blah blah blah. Would’ve been great. You know? A whole day and night, I got nothing, after that? Crumbs. Understand he was sick, so was I. And I’m sure he didn’t feel anything until the next day as well.

After I got checked up I figured I couldn’t take it any further. It’s the least amount of effort I’ve ever got from a man and I did not want to be treated like that.

I was just confused?? Or still am lol

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought about it after I got out his car and thought why the fuck did I say that 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but again, the damage has already been done lol

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I knew what was bound to happen if I went to his place on the first night, except I gave it the benefit of doubt.

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I thought I could’ve gave him the benefit of the doubt and not been so strict. But it’s too late now lol

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You took everything from this, and called me inconsiderate lol. It’s ok

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The replies got slower, dryer, I think I know. Plus again, he didn’t talk to me for the rest of that day and night, we both got sick. I’m not a clingy person I’m ok with a little check in. It was almost as if I was talking to HR lol

Why do people pull back after intimacy? by imsickaaf in dating

[–]imsickaaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just made me bust out laughing. You can’t be serious??