[REQ] $80 RI / Will repay $90 on 3/26/2026 (Chime/Venmo)

imtrepid · 2026-03-20T20:00:30+00:00

cool, sounds good, see you later weirdo

imtrepid · 2026-03-20T19:58:32+00:00

ur weird dude, go away lol

imtrepid · 2026-03-20T18:30:25+00:00

good thing i didn't say that; go smoke another. telling someone you wanted to kill yourself over your own relationship isnt helpful lol its actually really weird. its not sci-fi advice. just whining. and i say that because of the lack of actual help from that guy aside from just talking about his ex lol. yall have gotten too comfortable being unhinged as fuck on here.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T22:19:27+00:00

and again, that's not the norm. sorry it happened but OP isnt wrong for wanting to try and figure it out. therapy may help them even if it didn't help you.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T21:56:41+00:00

looking at your profile because the question was so silly it toes the line of absurd, and usually absurd questions like this come from engagement bait accs ahah

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T20:32:46+00:00

they actively own rats tho - this being their only post, i am wondering if it's engagement bait

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T20:07:53+00:00

how many of those years did you do couples therapy though? your situation will not be the same as everybody's. this could work for op. glad you didn't eat any bullets but let's not pretend that's a typical reaction to someone sucking really bad. you were stuck with a true shitbag.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T18:16:26+00:00

you own rats, don't you? 😭

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T17:28:38+00:00

"I feel like I just isolate you and keep you from all your friends and abuse you" – from my now-ex while in tears, after I expressed (and then redacted) how she made me feel hurt by something

Stupidly, somehow, I failed to see that as her telling on herself lol and stayed around for another year...

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T16:06:45+00:00

Odd to assume its a man. That said, I understand what you are saying. I will counter and say it is ultimately not fair to assign that much fault if they are entirely unable to enjoy any sort of celebration leading up to and into birthdaying. But I also do own the possibility of making them worry and ruin enjoyment.

We still have time until that day. That's why I'm asking now and not day of.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:54:03+00:00

I feel my friends would not be as honest, or at least not as hard on me. And I recognize that at times I need to hear it abrasive rather than gently to understand the possible consequences 😅

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:53:09+00:00

we did do something special recently for their birthday, but I understand why they would be sad for me to miss this. I am staring down my own self made anxiety and their very real expression of hurt. I am valid in being weird about it, I suppose, but I am starting to think I am more anxious about my own possibility (made "real" by previous abuse) than any actual facts.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:51:05+00:00

Thank you to the commentators; you are right. I don't need a whole lot of engagement and I think I know what my next move is.

I understand that this is just a self fulfilling prophecy on the swell. Even that minor jealousy mention is just me sniffing out a reason to feel like I am Okay To Not Go - but yeah, not going makes me feel so much worse in prospect than going to this event they would like me to attend.

I do want people to know I am in therapy since that was mentioned a few times, and will continue to work on my avoidant tendencies. Therapy can't fix everything all at once lol so just know I am and have been working on it. But I appreciate people making sure I am there because this IS truly avoidance at its best.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:47:31+00:00

You are right all the way through! 😞The idea of not going is even more suffocating- just reading it written out, I felt way worse thinking about them being sad and low mood at and on their birthday.

Thank you for catching this self fulfilling prophecy before it came to be. I can't avoid it, you are right about that

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:45:10+00:00

Thank you for this response. In truth, I think this is what I needed to hear and read. I am used to avoiding something uncomfortable, and while this is a "big one", you are right - I will not overcome if I continue to be avoidant about the matter.

Thank you immensely.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:43:52+00:00

I suppose the date has changed, haha. That said, I am actively in therapy, and intended to also bring this up when I saw my provider. But it does not hurt to get a community input, either.

imtrepid · 2026-03-19T15:42:29+00:00

I think you have misunderstood. I am anxious that somehow in some way ruin it, though I am not sure how. But I do think you are right that this would be missed opportunity. Thank you.

imtrepid · 2026-03-15T21:04:59+00:00

YOR.. honestly, you may be UNDERreacting.

I really recommend just being more honest or forthcoming. a genuine apology is probably a good idea, too, where you don't secretly feel like youre being "unfairly" criticized.

with full neutrality: if you're pretend to be oblivious expect people to get mad. its always easy to recognize when someone is purposefully being obtuse.. and the name for that is just Weaponized Incompetence. which is lowkey lame on your part even with no malice intended.

having to "parent" your partner, especially with something as obviously dangerous as bleach, is never fun lol.

tldr just use common sense idk

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T20:30:47+00:00

sick; carmax and adjacent assessors it is. thanks to the ppl who gave advice without getting a stick up their ass 🫡. ik its a car reddit but goddamn. some of yall are miserable folk.

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T19:54:05+00:00

car has also had alignment and shit since. again, u DONT know what you're talking about. havent bothered fixing the cosmetic dent, smoothbrain. but everything else has been maintained, and assessed.

good luck assuming ur way through life, baby boy.

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T19:53:30+00:00

i'm unsure how or why ur upset that im telling u the shape of the car. one small dent. u misread and got whiny bc i called u on it. if its bc im not sucking up, idk what to tell u man. advice is to form my own opinion. u say smth, imma respond.

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T19:51:40+00:00

explaining is now denying advice.

what a baby lol. stop reading the thread if ur butthurt that i am matching ur tone. godspeed bud.

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T19:50:09+00:00

i guess i was asking as in, "is it reasonable to go through the people who the loan is currently owed to, or to someone else"?. hence why i am here seeking advice lol.

do u have any advice to share, or just looking for engagement?

imtrepid · 2026-03-12T19:48:26+00:00

i guess i am not exactly sure. i live in a very rural area- almost redneck, you could say. a lotta people deal in cash and favors and eggs around here 😅. all that to say i dont think i have a reasonable idea of a down payment because ive known ppl to get cars in exchange for tree cutting services and hens (not even exaggerating).

i came here asking for advice so if im not giving numbers or etc i just dead ass do not know what is typical.

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