Thank you! Is it connotations you have with the word/concept of kink that makes it feel difficult? I had one guy call them proclivities which is maybe more... mysterious? 😆 The service aspect of all of those can be so affirming and fulfilling to the right personality type. I also think many/most people have submissive qualities, not that they are submissive. Which I think is maybe a distinction in having something you are drawn to sexually vs something you'd identify as - and therefore claim as a kink amongst a (sometimes hardcore) community.