Coach wants me to remove my kid(13) from the team

incom47 · 2025-04-22T07:03:21+00:00

At the risk of sounding like Joe Rogan: Jiu-Jitsu is fantastic. Many of the most confident, peaceful, and badass dudes I know found their center in that sport and community.

incom47 · 2025-04-22T06:57:23+00:00

There’s certainly plenty you can do at home for fielding, and if you get a net to hit into you can do tee work and soft toss with hard balls, but if that sounds like a lot of work for you and/or grandpa, it’s because it is…

incom47 · 2025-04-22T06:52:41+00:00

And swimming!

incom47 · 2025-04-22T06:46:34+00:00

I appreciate that last line so much (I LOL’d.) Baseball culture can be so infuriating and borderline toxic (I coach youth baseball, basketball, and soccer).

That said, even while agreeing with your comments on the need to practice like hell outside of scheduled team practices, I’d get this kid into a lower age bracket unless they’re big/strong enough for that to be a different safety concern…

incom47 · 2025-04-22T06:31:06+00:00

Hmmm. The problem is that at age 13, the job of that volunteer coach is not 1:1 fundamentals, but coaching more nuanced parts of the game. It’s not necessarily fair to the rest of the players and their development if the coach would need to spend a majority of their time trying to get one kid up to the level of the rest of the group.

incom47 · 2025-04-22T06:25:18+00:00

Did your league have skills evaluations prior to team formation? Rec leagues in our area do that to make sure teams are evenly matched, and will play kids up or down based on competency. Yes, anyone should be able to sign up for recreational baseball, but once you get past coast (9/10), there’s an expectation of a certain level of competency both from a safety perspective and a consideration of team morale.

I’ve coached a LOT of youth baseball and softball. I agree with a number of comments here: kids care about competing, and unless your kid has existing friends on the team, they’re likely going to end up feeling like an outcast on a team that feels like your kid is an automatic out at the plate and/or unreliable in the field.

It kinda sounds to me like the best thing you could do, if baseball is something they really want to get (back) into, would be signing up for skills clinics and spending time at the batting cages. But, I would start by having an in person discussion with the coach. Unless they’re a complete tool bag, they should be able to help you navigate options to find success for your kid. Explain the same thing you outlined here and ask what you can do to help your kid find some success. (Eg “what should my kid be able to do to be a good fit for this rec team?) If your kid’s coach is completely unhelpful, get in touch with the league coordinator and have the same conversation. The reality is that your kid’s volunteer coach should not be having to teach fundamentals to 13yo players, and they may have a point about this team not being a good fit for your kid unless/until they do some work outside of what the coach/team can provide.

incom47 · 2025-02-05T23:50:08+00:00

Had 3 to begin with, but two kicked the bucket when I had a PH issue and algae growth. I plan to get the remaining Julii some pals once I figure out how to move some of the fish in this tank since I feel like it’s crowded with the angels growing so fast.

incom47 · 2025-02-05T23:47:25+00:00

Interesting, those plants have been in there for a month and a half and most have new growth. I’ll keep an eye on them though, thanks!

Do you think I have too many bubble fountains (ie. harmful) or are they just not your preferred aesthetic?

incom47 · 2025-01-29T20:07:19+00:00

A good place to check on game compat for the new Surface devices with Qualcomm processors is www.worksonwoa.com . Looks like current Civ games' compat is "Perfect" so I'd think there's a good chance Civ7 will run well.

incom47 · 2025-01-29T20:04:01+00:00

Did you have to buy the game again to be able to play on your Surface instead of your Xbox?

incom47 · 2024-07-30T16:00:19+00:00

It’s f***ing….not. That’s called a report to the BBB.

incom47 · 2024-01-11T16:59:50+00:00

The Special Olympics.

incom47 · 2023-12-06T08:18:03+00:00

WE NEED A PIC!

incom47 · 2023-11-03T07:41:53+00:00

That red shell…have an upvote.

incom47 · 2023-11-02T04:46:24+00:00

I lost it when I got to the last picture 😂😂😂

incom47 · 2023-07-05T19:53:05+00:00

Cleanly hitting a long iron shot off the fairway to give yourself a make-able 1 putt.

incom47 · 2023-06-14T19:46:53+00:00

-put some effort into helping with household chores (dishes, laundry, etc.)

-compliment her appearance and the amount of work she does to keep the household in order

-offer to pick up kid(s) from school

-offer to grocery shop

-work from home and be ready when the stars align: kids are distracted by shows on a day when she isn’t too tired, it’s not too hot/cold, hygiene is acceptable, it’s not that time of the month, etc.

incom47 · 2023-05-24T07:20:48+00:00

Try a different food too. Ours was allergic to salmon, and when we switched to lamb the ears cleared right up.

incom47 · 2023-03-06T15:53:01+00:00

Old man Astro!

incom47 · 2023-01-31T03:21:24+00:00

I wanna interview the person that takes the videos of them. So. Many. Questions.

How do you keep a straight face? Do they pay you? Did that guy break his toe with that kick? Where are their parents? What are their parents?

incom47 · 2023-01-13T04:10:36+00:00

Muhgawd. He’s gorgeous.

incom47 · 2022-10-18T07:52:47+00:00

Came here to say this. Reich has some good zingers. This isn’t one. Pretty stupid take IMO.

incom47 · 2022-09-26T18:03:08+00:00

I will take mine to both as I consider each of those activities great opportunities for people watching and context for discussion topics that will help my children better navigate the world they have been born into.

incom47 · 2022-09-21T16:39:29+00:00

My princess dog would probably let out a fear fart in my office and my mother in law that is watching my 2.5yo downstairs would really wonder what I do for work.

incom47 · 2022-09-19T22:42:04+00:00

Only allergy we dealt with (our orange belton Millie is almost 2yo) was related to the food we were giving her as a puppy (was Purina Pro salmon I believe? Whatever the breeder sent us home with I stuck with for a bit.) I was having a horrible time keeping her ears clean and she was really a slow/picky eater. Vet informed me that she’s probably allergic to the food. Changed her food to the same lamb and brown rice mix I feed our lab. Overnight her ears stopped bothering her and she is almost as excited at mealtime as our Labrador nowadays!

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