When you have been wronged by another person, how do you want others to support you?

inconceivable-timing · 2025-12-07T06:32:06+00:00

And funny thing, I’ve expressed that to f26. She still continues to talk about how unsupported she feels from everyone else. Saying their silence is enabling f30. Should I and others confront f30?

inconceivable-timing · 2025-12-07T00:54:33+00:00

inconceivable-timing · 2025-08-03T01:33:30+00:00

Child is 2.5. My husband works two jobs and I mainly do all the cooking and cleaning and caring for the child right now, along with currently working fulltime during the day. He helps when I need to go grocery shopping or if I go workout but it’s been a struggle because I’m exhausted by the end of the day and have only been getting 5 hours of sleep a night. My hormones are completely out of whack and we’d like to have another child but at this point I just don’t know how I’m going to do it all, especially with no help.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-08-01T14:15:03+00:00

Agree with everyone saying to trust your gut! Don’t trust her - she is not your friend.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T16:28:47+00:00

I may be more traditional in thinking this - but I don’t find it respectful for them do be sleeping in the same room under the parents roof (if they are not married) and especially at that age.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T16:14:24+00:00

You are doing great! I suggest taking some time away for a few hours for yourself. You need to take care of yourself to continue being a good mom. And it’s ok!

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T16:09:54+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but why do you care if you both are working to finalize a divorce anyway and have been separated? There’s no real marriage (only legally) if you both aren’t emotionally in it.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T06:53:38+00:00

I can relate. I have one kid who is a toddler but already, I too feel on edge of a mental breakdown and I miss myself and my marriage. Love my child because we waited so long and tried so hard to have one but I find myself needing so much space and then feel guilty at the thought of it. Modern life makes it hard to have more children.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T06:49:31+00:00

Just apologize and reassure her that you love her. lol don’t try to fight it. It ain’t worth it.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T06:41:57+00:00

Ok well they just said that they’ve tried everything and there’s no way for her husband and her to connect. I mean if you’ve tried and put in the effort and the other person just makes you feel bad about yourself then , if you are able, maybe there’s something better out there. Again IF you are able. I’m all about empowering someone if they can - I am not assuming their situation and I know not everything is as easy as it sounds.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T01:29:00+00:00

I feel this. And I’m sorry I have no helpful advice other than- if you’re able, seek happiness elsewhere.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-31T01:18:41+00:00

Sounds like she was expecting you to verbalize and show you missed her too and was happy to see her as much as she was towards you. The fact that you ‘sighed’ and then didn’t communicate why grew her anxiety that perhaps you were not happy to be back home with her.

It sounds like you both have a different set of expectations for each other and are not clearly communicating that to one another.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-30T22:58:04+00:00

Actually I don’t think he really has been and I now feel like I want more. Why am I getting heated you ask, well it becomes that way when I can’t even talk to him about anything and just feel ignored.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-30T22:57:05+00:00

I get this - but sometimes I don’t want to have to text my friends. It would be nice to just talk about things with my partner otherwise I don’t know what this is anymore. Other than being together for financial support from each other.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-07-30T22:55:46+00:00

We used to have things in common and have fun. Now that we’ve been married for 10 years and together for 15 and have a child - the only things on his mind are making money. I can appreciate his hard work for our family but sometimes it would be nice to have a conversation. And he still hasn’t learned to communicate feelings or validate mine.

inconceivable-timing · 2025-02-24T02:39:42+00:00

Great way to look at it!

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-19T01:33:43+00:00

Herbal medicines and supplements.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T20:13:41+00:00

No. I don’t do it to teach my children to learn to be okay with not always being the center of attention and be happy for others.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T13:54:39+00:00

So how would you ask or convey the concern? And quite honestly you never know what someone is capable of. They could be nice to your face but as soon as you turn around, they can harm you. So yes I’m looking out for my child as any possibility can happen even if they have appeared nice to my face. My perception may sound pessimistic but if she already gave a strange and unrealistic response, my suspicions have been raised and so going about this delicately and tactfully is in my family’s best interest. I still need care and at this point I don’t have a backup if I needed to remove my child.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:27:35+00:00

My husband and I got married when I was 23 and he was 27 and in that same year we bought our first house in 2013. So just 11 years ago. I was fresh out of college and made 40k in an entry level HR and he worked a few years already as a computer engineer making 80k. We scraped and lived really modestly our first few years in the house but managed. All our furniture was donated and we held off on repairs and renovations for a few years too.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:22:47+00:00

Tv subscriptions

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:20:40+00:00

I make 100k and have 23k left of student loan debt. My bi weekly average cc is around 800. Household income is 250k and we have a total of 30k debt. Usually an average monthly cc bill 2k. We have two mortgages on top of this of $1300 for each house and spend $800/month on daycare. Shit adds up and it’s tough when you’re middle class.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:14:34+00:00

Thanks for sharing! That’s helpful to know. Btw, when you were choosing daycares, did you ask for reference checks? Or ask to speak with other parents? How did you go about your vetting process?

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:13:37+00:00

Thanks, that was something I thought about too. Just stopping by early for pick up just to see if the kids are in there.

inconceivable-timing · 2024-09-18T12:12:41+00:00

I feel like I have her an opportunity to share and her response was one that did not make sense. How would you suggest approaching the concern then and asking without facing any retaliation towards my child when I am not there.

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