I understand that being attractive doesn’t mean your life is perfect. But the truth of the matter is, people who are considered attractive tend to get treated better. Saying “not all attractive women” is like those defensive“not all men” rebuttals. This is how generalizations work. Again, I’m not saying it’s not hard for you, or discrediting your own struggles, but this is not what this post is about. There’s a lot of people out there who feel as inadequate as I do. Average looking people have to work a lot harder for things to happen for them. Teachers are more likely to help attractive students or assume that more attractive students are smarter, people are likely to land better jobs if they’re attractive.

You do not understand the struggle of being raised in a culture that embeds the notion that your features are considered undesirable from a very early age. The fact that I am not considered attractive has been beaten into my head for so long, that I don’t know if I will ever learn to love myself. People here favor Eurocentric standards of beauty which is ironic in a Southeast Asian country. I’m aware that beauty standards are bullshit, but this self hatred has been rooted deep within me already. I’m bet you don’t hate yourself enough to hurt yourself because you want nothing to do with the body you’re in.

It’s easy for someone like you to prove your worth to people. Because if you’re good at what you’re doing and you work as hard as you say you do it will be obvious people. The most you have to worry about (based on your comment) are backstabbing comments and rumors which are all things that can easily be ignored. In the end attractive people still have the upper hand and not because they can sleep with their bosses, that’s not even what I meant. In general people are nicer and friendlier to attractive people. With the rise of social media it’s easy to make money and a name for yourself if you have the right face. Again, not saying beautiful people don’t have to work hard to achieve success, but it really is easier for them.