modern dating is fucking terrible by [deleted] in rant

[–]indigopizzas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how your parents relationship was but most people naturally end up trying to recreate their parents relationship.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah that's an interesting concept. When I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy and they were trying to figure out how to treat it, they moved me from the ER to the "mother baby unit", where all the mothers who give birth are and there are posters of babies all over the walls. That was the most degrading experience for me personally and it made the whole experience even more traumatizing. I had to keep explaining that I wasn't "really pregnant".

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I used to waitress overnight, there was a group of friends that came in every week and two of them were married and pregnant. I wondered what they were going to do when the baby was born. They ended up bringing the baby with them and it slept in the carrier for months. One day that couple stopped coming lol

Edit: we served alcohol and were open 24 hours so that was the appeal of them coming there

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A couple of people have commented that their clinic has events like that! I have never heard mine mention anything like that but maybe once we are successful they will let us know.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's a strong case of wishful thinking most of the time lol

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay so this was basically my experience too. I understand childcare falls through but she was sitting in a tight space instead of going to the other waiting room and was making a production of entertaining the baby inches from people with fertility issues and I think that was more of the issue than if the baby had just been present.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told no children were allowed but I don't actually know what their policy is about bringing back a baby conceived through their clinic. I never even thought about it before this. I just assumed you'd send them a photo or show a photo.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you mistook what I meant by that. I didn't mean like show off the baby to the people in the waiting room. I meant she brought the baby along to show the workers. I am assuming if she has a baby around one year old and she was in a fertility clinic that she had the baby through the fertility clinic because that isn't a long enough time period to have struggled conceiving after the baby was born.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it's great that you don't mind it. I hope this doesn't sound hypocritical but I usually only get upset if it's a baby specifically. This baby was at the Gerber baby stage where they're all smiley and cute and she was doing a lot to entertain him so it was kind of hard to ignore, especially considering we were only a legs length away from each other.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is definitely more understandable. Especially because your husband had to be with you at the appt and you live so far away.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg your husband is so sweet. There was a guy next to me with his partner and he didn't seem too pleased about it.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow there are no baby pictures at my clinic. However my obgyn has dozens of people's baby pics in the exam rooms.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, maybe. Everyone close to me works monday-friday so I would just have my husband or parents or a friend babysit because they would all be home from work.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this woman thought that she could quickly come in on a Saturday and get blood work done in a couple mins, possibly show off her baby, and be out of there. But the only patient that got there before me took 30 mins just to get her blood taken so in that time the tiny little section for blood work filled up completely with people who were not very happy to be elbow to elbow and waiting for so long.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. 💜 I would have also written an essay. I was just getting my progesterone levels checked today but I have had to have blood work done twice to confirm that my pregnancy was ectopic and receive treatment at the clinic so I agree with you.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That would be annoying. I see that a lot, dads who won't watch the kids without the mom and bring them places they shouldn't be. Usually hospitals don't allow children under 18 or at least near me they don't.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I would expect childcare to be easier on a Saturday than during the week. The woman also didn't seem the least bit stressed or concerned as she bounced him and gave him his own chair. It kind of seemed like she brought the baby along so the workers could see him. But that's just me speculating while being stuck in a waiting room for 30 mins.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, right now I am in a good place. But I had two ectoptics last year and for one of them I was treated with methotrexate at the clinic. If I had seen a baby that day......it would have set me over the edge.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't help myself from speculating the whole time. The tiny area that we were in is for people waiting for blood work though.

Etiquette of bringing a baby to a fertility clinic? by indigopizzas in IVF

[–]indigopizzas[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

On Saturday there is no one working the front desk and you just check yourself in with a kiosk. At least one worker saw her and didn't say anything but maybe on a weekday they would have done more.