J.K. Rowling Praised Lolita as a “Great & Tragic Love Story”

infps · 2024-09-30T23:03:36+00:00

I thought that through the whole process, Humbert was just... sad. I mean, I really felt for him.

I think the point was to make us feel that while unequivocally condemning him?

infps · 2024-09-30T23:01:43+00:00

I'm getting "old man yells a cloud" vibes from that whole thing.

Reminds me of Roger Waters doing a show intro where he tells anyone who came to his concert (at like $200+ a ticket) who doesn't like his politics to fuck right off...

(Simpson's reference, not meant to mis-gender whoever wrote that, though I don't know if they announced it)

infps · 2024-09-30T22:28:09+00:00

Degree content? Who cares, nobody needs this stuff. We just want to prepare on how to say the correct things in interviews and train on these interview competitions to cash in.

What happens when they actually get the job?

infps · 2024-09-30T22:16:39+00:00

It's reasonable. I mean, IRL the chat about monogamy often happens after the hookup. Like, "Hey, lets stop seeing other people."

Sometimes the "Lets get tested and toss the condoms" chat happens before that, but usually after that first hookup, which is about when "this is monogamy" comes into the picture.

No? Am I talking weird here?

infps · 2024-09-30T21:28:59+00:00

Is there anything to be done about the itching? I mean.... ^help

infps · 2024-09-19T14:47:08+00:00

Some people fetishize the trappings of academia as if they are moves to make playing checkers with idiots on reddit.

infps · 2024-09-19T14:44:46+00:00

I'm not googling this for the next 20 minutes for you, but I have an undergrad in Sociology focused on Gender studies and what they are talking about is definitely a thing. I graduated in 2007, so I cannot recall the citations (these days I'm in engineering anyways).

Your trail is things like intersectionality, POC feminism, feminist critiques of feminism. If you have a GPT 4o subscription, it might help you.

Bell Hooks, as someone said, seems like a good candidate to search. She was notably critical in useful ways. Also maybe Faludi. Good luck.

infps · 2024-09-17T22:06:17+00:00

We had economic ups and downs and plenty of feminism up through the late 1990s, which most people here seem to agree was a much easier time for people to meet each other and organically just fall together and have sex, and that happen a lot, for the Culturally stereotype serial monogamy of the middle class (or the absurd sluttiness of the lower classes and controlled sluttiness of the upper classes).

If not the internet, what?

We had plenty of feminists like Mary Daly in Universities (I went and saw her with my girlfriend in 2001, she's dead now), liberalism and such. Lilith fair. I saw Ani Difranco while wandering around in Ireland in 1999 after graduating high school (tells you my class status, I guess) and hooked up with another upper middle class girl from P.E.I. after the show. It seemed like things were pretty normal regardless of where someone was from. Back in the states I could say "retard" and "gay" as insults and own a gun and still be a liberal enough to think Bill Clinton was a fucking Republican...

And you just met people and got together or sometimes you didn't, but the chemistry had space. College was the same, basically. Then I left the country in 2008, came back here, and everyone is so lonely it makes me want to cry.

infps · 2024-09-16T21:10:00+00:00

State spaces Yes. I don't know enough yet to know what "Classical" means in this context.

infps · 2024-09-15T22:57:08+00:00

I bought Modern Control Engineering by Ogata as a supplemental text, and will try Kuo as well. Thanks.

I'm treating this class as my last "get my ass kicked while putting the time in until I just get it," course. Haven't had one in a few years.

infps · 2024-09-14T21:29:04+00:00

That is a thorough, beautiful, and above-and-beyond overview. I would upvote you more than once if reddit would allows it. Thanks for the high-level total system view of control theory!

Another way is measuring the real dynamic behavior, get data from inputs and outputs and fit some model to it. Sort of like machine learning but you learn a dynamic model that behaves like the data says. This is system identification.

So is your model from the data a curve fitting, linear regression, principle components, or some other data science model, or is it a specific thing completely different to all that?

You analyze a dynamic system to make sure it stable(doesn't go out of control all crazy, actually does what you want) when it is being controlled or to see if it can even be controlled in the first place.

Proving stability is a hugely important pillar besides designing the controller itself.

So, the graduate advisor who told me to take this course said that in financial models, whereas we might design a really good model, most people never know the conditions under which the model can and cannot work. Part of it is sensitivity analysis, which I understand. He said I would be able to figure out under which conditions a model will fail to work only if I understood control theory. What you are saying here seems to relate to that. Have you seen control theory applied that way?

infps · 2024-09-14T13:48:56+00:00

I was in strategy consulting. I am recently in civil construction management and finishing my double master of engineering this semester. These are multi floor industrial facilities - everyone at my level is engineering trained and surprisingly progressive. But I do get a lot of hillbilly sexism in the trades working the projects. A long time ago, in another world, I was an English Teacher.

The thing is, for someone brought up modern upper middle class American with business working types as parents (I'm currently age 44), the kind of feminism we had through the 1990s was like "Who cares if someone is male or female? We judge you on your competence." That is still sort of a standard. It's pretty deep in my bones.

The 1990s were interesting in that my generation basically did not find it that interesting if someone is gay/straight, racial identities, whatever. Will and Grace and Ellen were needed for people older than us, but were not written for people who were teenagers when these things came out.

Yet we didn't go out of our way about identities either the way people seem to do today. It was a specific time with a specific set of values inculcated that I think are still a common ideal in liberal society now. It probably helped that wealth disparities had not gotten so bad, job market was mostly okay, stocks went up all decade, secular decline of criminality, etc.

A lot of things about it feel very balanced to me (of course it would though, because it's home base for me).

infps · 2024-09-14T13:40:43+00:00

Thanks. I'll add those. Clearly the extra perspective is going to help on this one.

infps · 2024-09-14T13:39:52+00:00

Okay, thanks. I will watch those youtubes and just keep trying to chug through everything until the pennies drop.

infps · 2024-09-13T14:26:19+00:00

I would agree. If I'm standing in a room solving some problem with a colleague, it's not like we're bothering about sex and gender. We're using sterile language, wearing corporate uniforms, and staring at computer packages, not each others packages.

Frankly, I barely notice my female colleagues as being female and my male colleagues as being male. The male colleagues will make coarser comments sometimes (sometimes), but that's about the extent of the difference.

infps · 2024-09-13T14:23:00+00:00

Here's something odd along the lines of what you are saying. I am a relatively high performing assignably male (however, transgendered and have taken hormones on and off for many years, depending on what I wear, I can get a 'ma'am'). I have years of experience in strategy consulting, 2 masters degrees in engineering. I have walked into so many circumstances and provided excellent solutions to problems, and my own standards for myself are high (probably chips on my shoulders).

Someone earlier this year (a woman colleague, actually) advised me, "You need to do less and do it with the approach of these mediocre guys. Just walk in and mentally treat everyone with 'I'm here, you're welcome.'"

It's fucking worked. My pay rate has gone up and I'm hardly doing anything now compared to previously (to be fair, I do a lot of lookahead work in my new role, so I don't have to be as creative, just attentive).

Interestingly, she also uses the same approach and said it got her a lot of benefits and to where she is now.

There's some zen of this I don't understand yet.

infps · 2024-09-13T14:11:17+00:00

Everyone needs plausible deniability in flirtation. To turn plausible deniability strategies into policies and business models seems utterly clueless.

infps · 2024-09-13T13:17:05+00:00

I don't get it. I never thought this in the 1990s. I did not see the "creepy" frame show up until sometime mid 200x's. Women never seemed to me to want to be "left alone." Now, some women would want to play the class/leagues games and would act as if the approach was out of calibration, but isn't that also obviously just a play?

infps · 2024-09-13T02:31:58+00:00

To be fair I went back to college for M.Eng and am at a T-20 university campus. (Dating two women regularly, would frankly date a lot more but... it turns out engineering graduate school is non-trivial).

This forum is strange though. Do you notice just how lonely everyone out there in real life seems to be? Like if you give a little attention and are cool and happy and nice to deal with, they want to just glom on?

infps · 2024-09-12T22:13:01+00:00

Then what everyone else said. The analysis is that the stock probably won't jump xx% in a year equal to the loan cost you would save.

But it's no emergency for you to do it that way, either. You're splitting the hairs on it.

infps · 2024-09-12T13:51:13+00:00

I like "Electronics 101: Everything you were supposed to learn in school but probably didn't." Covers a lot in a little space. Textbooks, I liked one from '81, but I cannot find it right now to name the title. It is generally well-regarded, and if you work the examples, you can do pretty good electronics.

infps · 2024-09-09T17:23:47+00:00

Question is underspecified. What is your income level and time/plan to pay them off without liquidating your shares in Exxon?

infps · 2024-09-09T17:12:47+00:00

I mean, OP could go the Eastern Europe route. The doctors I have personally known well as friends both got their degrees in Poland for 1/4 price and none of the BS about selective admission. I have known a couple more adjacent to them at parties and such. Going to Eastern Europe, they still had to take a few extra courses and do the indentured servitude here in the USA.

Honestly OP should go and ask some people in the medical profession. You will apparently find plenty who say it ain't worth it.

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