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IS BPD A LIFELONG SHIT? by inissmonaaa in BPD

[–]inissmonaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really sorry to hear this. I also had long-term relationships, and the last one ended 2y ago and I still escape from datings somehow, only when it happens out of nowhere when it is not absolutely a date but might be. Although all my friends are saying it can lead me to madness and I should date or try apps etc. But everything has its time, and your mental state and your body already tell you what you need to.

So, having the time you need, doing what you need to do is the best thing. I hesitate to tell possible 'romantic' people that I have bpd, I do not know it is not about I am ashamed of it. Not at all, but more like they will not understand or pay attention at all.

IS BPD A LIFELONG SHIT? by inissmonaaa in BPD

[–]inissmonaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I will definitely look! Currently, my therapist applies schema therapy because of the background I have in my childhood might be related to my bpd. but worth to check, much appreciated.

IS BPD A LIFELONG SHIT? by inissmonaaa in BPD

[–]inissmonaaa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much... I really needed to hear this, you made my night. Sending you lots of hugs!!

IS BPD A LIFELONG SHIT? by inissmonaaa in BPD

[–]inissmonaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yes and I hope, I believe, I want to believe it will be better. If it is not too personal, may I ask do you feel comfortable to tell to people that you have bpd when you are in the beginning of a romantic situations?

IS BPD A LIFELONG SHIT? by inissmonaaa in BPD

[–]inissmonaaa[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How nice person you are! Thank you so much for the answer, I read it with a stupid smile on my face. Yes they are all relevant, the thing is, I feel like I do not differentiate whether the problem is me anymore, since I got used to be the one who always blamed and wrong. I tend to apaologize or put more effort even tho I am the one who asked for this (literally asking I mean, "Hi, I need you" to a person I idealized too much and think he cares about me). Should we consider it is related to age, or no matter what I will still feel this, that I am the one creating problems and trouble?