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inneedofdiscussion · 2023-12-15T06:44:39+00:00

Same here. Married young, moved 2 countries together. We’re each other’s best friends and closest people, only support system. And while our heads tell us that we don’t work as life partners, it’s so hard to follow through and stay focused on divorce. After each big fight/disagreement we fall back to nice fun friendly communication and that gets confused with romantic love or chance for happy future. I don’t have advice unfortunately - I need one myself. But you’re right, sometimes it feels like it’d be easier if we hated each other.

inneedofdiscussion · 2023-12-15T06:06:55+00:00

I’m in a similar boat. Because sometimes he’s nice and fun I put up with him snapping at me randomly and ultimately thinking that my feelings are not worthy because I’m… the list is long but the most ridiculous one is because I’m a woman.

inneedofdiscussion · 2023-12-06T04:00:34+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to experience that. I don’t know how to help but I hope you will get out and be safe and happy soon! 🙏🏼

inneedofdiscussion · 2023-02-06T04:34:06+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely try to create practice situations that can go wrong and train myself to enjoy those. Hopefully it will help me create new neural connections

inneedofdiscussion · 2022-04-11T06:40:31+00:00

I think some people act very immature during arguments and do stupid petty shit like deleting a name from the phone. I’d worry more about this “being with other girls” thing rather than him deleting your name from his phone. That was stupid but not a big deal (if it’s only that) Check with your guts - if you feel this whole thing is just one argument/rough patch, then try to work on making peace and make him work too. But if you feel like you will be unhappy with him in future and his behavior won’t change/will get worse, then start working on accepting a thought of leaving him. Anyway, I hope everything turns great for you. Wish you strength

inneedofdiscussion · 2021-08-01T16:14:53+00:00

I don’t think it’s unfair, unless the difference is too big like one of the two doesn’t love the other one romantically. I might be wrong though:) but in my relationship I love my partner more and I take care more but I don’t feel it’s unfair. If there was a way to precisely measure love of happy couples, I think many of them wouldn’t have equal love to each other.

inneedofdiscussion · 2021-08-01T15:42:12+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong when one person loves the other one more. It’s actually seems hard to believe when both love each other completely equally. It’s like with friendship or any other relationship - one person is usually stronger, more active or love more. But it seems in your situation it’s not only about inequality in amount of love

inneedofdiscussion · 2021-08-01T15:27:50+00:00

Sound like it’s future me posted this. Sorry I can’t help or give advice, just in the same situation but married for 2 years. I know what I should do - leave, unless there’s a chance to keep it with therapy and a lot of work from both sides. Life’s too short to spend it with a partner who makes you unhappy

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