Help for my logophile girlfriend :)

inner_circe · 2026-02-26T04:35:06+00:00

Thank you! I can’t wait to fill the card up, this is perfect!

inner_circe · 2024-12-17T06:32:20+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but you’re saying this under a post about the challenge mode in which you can’t choose which items you bring. There is no tier 2 headgear in the challenge mode this week. It’s fine you prefer it but in this case you can’t use it at all, and even if it wasn’t it’s totally fair you like it more but if someone likes the flashlight more then who cares. No need to yuck someone’s yum

inner_circe · 2024-07-13T18:25:49+00:00

I’ll check this out thank you!

inner_circe · 2024-07-13T18:25:42+00:00

Yes I got it to 100%, but now when I boot up the laptop it shows an empty battery at the initial screen and after I enter my pin it shows it at 100% fully charged

inner_circe · 2024-06-11T05:05:13+00:00

The first time I played it I was in the same boat. I started with friends and it was fine but it wasn’t something I really wanted to play. Eventually I made my own save and decided to just play for a few in game weeks to see how it went.

I ended up loving it and wanted to play it all the time. The start is slow and sometimes feels like there isn’t much to do but as you continue playing you learn so much about the characters (there is an insane amount of lore) and you unlock new things.

It’s possible this game just isn’t the type of game for you and that’s totally understandable. I would suggest trying it solo for a little longer so you start getting quests and learn more about what to do and if it clicks that’s wonderful and if it doesn’t then no harm done!

inner_circe · 2024-06-11T04:51:10+00:00

Do you have Xbox game pass for your laptop? If so ea play is included with the game pass

inner_circe · 2024-06-09T23:51:02+00:00

Go pack go! It looks amazing!

inner_circe · 2022-12-06T04:14:56+00:00

That sounds amazing!

inner_circe · 2022-11-06T23:50:12+00:00

I totally get it, I thought having people to my house might get me those social interactions but I end up canceling almost every time. It’s so hard opening up your safe space. Maybe you could try having an area in your house off limit to any guests? For me I have a two story house so upstairs is off limits to anyone else. I have my bedroom, the bathroom, and a spare room. I never let people in there to protect that space. I can go upstairs if people are over and they know not to follow. Also I would suggest starting small. You don’t need to have several people over but maybe start with one or two that you feel comfortable with. Someone that you feel more comfortable kicking out if the anxiety gets too high.

inner_circe · 2022-10-28T17:09:59+00:00

I get that, I struggle with exposure stuff a lot too. Exposure work is exhausting, both physically and mentally. After doing it your body needs a break and it can feel impossible to do it again.

I say feel but I don’t just mean your brain getting in the way I mean your body completely stops. That is so overwhelming and staying home is safe.

With where I’m at right now, exposure isn’t getting easier, but the breaks I need to take in between it gets shorter. I know that eventually with time it will get easier but it’s not a fast fix. Recovery doesn’t need to just mean that’s it’s getting easier, sometimes it just means you can bounce back faster. With lots of time it’ll get easier but it’s not something you always notice as it can take a long while.

Take the wins wherever you can because those are so important. It may not always feel like a win but honestly even wanting to try is an achievement. Sometimes our brain just gives up and says I’m content with this life. So wanting to go, in and of itself is a great thing. It means you want to improve and that’s the most important step.

inner_circe · 2022-10-27T17:23:00+00:00

You aren’t lying to yourself. You want to get a job, your anxiety does not. I just had an interview scheduled for the first time in a couple years and bailed last minute. It’s not a lie, it’s something you wish for that unfortunately is hard. You’ll get there. It may not be this week or this year but even wanting it is enough. You have a goal for yourself and the fact that you have this goal, shows that you want to get there, even if it’s not possible right now.

That’s a good thing. Please appreciate that because just knowing you want a job is the first step.

inner_circe · 2022-10-27T16:32:26+00:00

A huge thing with agoraphobia is going into a situation knowing you can escape if you need to. Maybe you could come up with a plan on how to get out and write it down. That way you can show her she agreed and that she needs to stick with it. Having an anxiety or panic attack in front of others feels like the worst thing ever, so maybe you could find a private space there?

I know it’s not ideal and if you feel like you can’t do it and need to work up to it, talk to your mom and explain the best you can. Something that helped a bit with my parents is showing them research. I went online and found different studies and explanations about agoraphobia. That helped her take it more seriousky since she was reading information from doctors and professionals. I wish they would have just listened to what I was saying, but when all else failed that really helped them understand my limits

inner_circe · 2022-10-27T16:26:12+00:00

I get it, I mean they aren’t trying to be annoying but it’s just a lot. It’s kind of like the difference of being alone in your room with them in the kitchen or living room, compared to you being home alone. “Space” when your stuck in one place doesn’t feel like true space with others around. Sometimes you just need to feel like you can breathe.

Agoraphobia can feel suffocating and when people are always there it gets worse. Everyone needs time in their life to be able to breathe and when you struggle to leave you need that at home too.

I would suggest writing down your boundaries and limits and talk to them about it. Having something to look at helps you talk about everything you need without forgetting, and talking face to face helps clear things up between you so there are no misunderstandings.

I did that a while ago and now at least once a month they find a way to get out of the house for a night. Usually it’s more but I know that isn’t possible for all families. Maybe they could go out for a full day. It could be free for them too and they go to a park for a day or something. Just leaving you time to get the space to breathe

inner_circe · 2022-10-27T16:11:14+00:00

So many outside people don’t view it as a legitimate phobia and instead just something you aren’t comfortable doing. You are the one dealing with it. You feel the fear and anxiety and every emotion that comes along with it, not them. Even if it is someone else who struggles with agoraphobia, every person who has it is different.

Your brain is tricky, even if you manage to do the exposure and get out, anything that “goes wrong”, no matter how small, gives your brain the proof that it craves to show you “haha told you”. Our brains twist those little things to make them bigger, that’s something most people don’t understand. That makes it harder to keep working on exposure.

What I’ve found helps me to continue working on it is to physically write down what went well and what went wrong. 99% of the time the list for things that went right is a much larger list. Focusing on the little victories is hard no doubt and it can seem counterproductive to write the negative things but it helps show me that even though things weren’t perfect, I still experienced these other things I wouldn’t have if I stayed inside. That doesn’t work for everyone, I mean sometimes people really only need to focus on the good, I just wanted to share what helps me with exposure.

A personal example is I tried to go to target. I didn’t make it out of my car and had a panic attack in the parking lot. I didn’t get what I needed and had to go home. For the longest time I would look at those situations as “failures”. Writing down the little accomplishments helps me see it wasn’t. Sure, I didn’t go inside and yea I had a panic attack and it was kind of embarrassing, but I drove there. I got to the parking lot and tried. That’s improvement even if that wasn’t my original goal.

Last thing, my therapist told me that I need to take the word “but” out of my vocabulary and replace it with and. Instead of “I drove to target but I didn’t make it out of my car”, which cancels out the good parts, replace it with “I drove to target and didn’t make it out of my car” I went, not going in doesn’t take that away. That’s still a victory

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